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SixFootMaster -> RE: Curious: why so many male doms (3/6/2008 12:43:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SweetDommes

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ORIGINAL: SixFootMaster

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ORIGINAL: SweetDommes

The problem is not so much that they come in here, but that they seem to come in here with attitude problems. 


ConFuSix say: If you are hostile to your guests, expect hostile guests.



I don't think I'm hostile most of the time.  In fact, I've been hostile to one of the Dommes on this board more recently than any of the males, Dominant or not (unless you want to claim that I was being hostile in my last response to you).  However, you've made it clear that you think this particular forum needs to be more openminded and that *you* are the one to do it - yeah, I'm probably going to end up being hostile to you if I continue to see that atttidude in you.  But - up until this thread, I haven't paid much attention to you ... I've seen the attitude and ignored it until you flat out stated it here - so no hostility.


I am the One, I can manipulate and bend the matr...forums to my will.

Seriously though, I never said /I/ was the one to do it, but since I'm here anyway, and fairly objective, I am going to point it out and try to do the best I can. Prejudice of any kind shouldn't be ignored or allowed to fester.

Six.




SixFootMaster -> RE: Curious: why so many male doms (3/6/2008 12:50:40 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Or perhaps with her history has seen more, is more aware of potential intent, than yours...........just saying.

Pot, kettle.....and all.

Was it your impression that Sixfoot needed a champion to defend him or did you just use their discussion to stir the pot? Just wondering about your intent.



Actually, he pretty much hit the nail on the head.

There's a difference between championing and simply giving your opinion when you see someone post something you think is incorrect.

This though is a perfect example of prejudice - you're assuming, based on prior experience that I am going to be just like some other person, and prejudging my words and intent based on that. The only person who knows intent beyond all shadow of doubt, is me. Now being an honest fellow, I'm upfront about it and openly communicating. If you choose not to take my words at face value, and instead color them with your own assumptions and prejudices, and then get angry and upset at some perceived attack, how is that my fault?

Six.




subtee -> RE: Curious: why so many male doms (3/6/2008 1:25:38 PM)

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I don't treat forums as a game with a winner and a loser, it's now why I'm here, but it's patently obvious that some cannot avoid competing with their gender opposites.


Really? Check that because I've seen you on the forums under this nic and the last and it seems like you do engage in this very manner every where you go. It's either some freakish coincidence, a conspiracy waged against you, or, it's you.

Out,

Tee




Vendaval -> RE: Curious: why so many male doms (3/6/2008 1:49:20 PM)

So was it as good for you as it was for us?  (All this sneaking around and listening in on supreme secrets.) [X(] 
 

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Pandora it all stems from childhood. Wanting to listen in as the adults talked. You thought that you were going to hear about something exciting. Mostly we were rejected and told to go outside and play.




Politesub53 -> RE: Curious: why so many male doms (3/6/2008 2:04:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DianeB269

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ORIGINAL: SixFootMaster

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ORIGINAL: DianeB269

It's the same here. About 50% of the people that view my profile are male doms...


Diane


FTC, I view a lot of female dominant profiles, almost exclusively because they've viewed mine first and I'm curious who is peeking.

Six,



Same here, I only view the profiles of the people that have viewed mine.

Diane


Dom/Dommes in denial..... i love it [8D]





SixFootMaster -> RE: Curious: why so many male doms (3/6/2008 9:21:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

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ORIGINAL: DianeB269

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ORIGINAL: SixFootMaster

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ORIGINAL: DianeB269

It's the same here. About 50% of the people that view my profile are male doms...


Diane


FTC, I view a lot of female dominant profiles, almost exclusively because they've viewed mine first and I'm curious who is peeking.

Six,



Same here, I only view the profiles of the people that have viewed mine.

Diane


Dom/Dommes in denial..... i love it [8D]




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SixFootMaster -> RE: Curious: why so many male doms (3/6/2008 9:23:13 PM)

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ORIGINAL: subtee

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I don't treat forums as a game with a winner and a loser, it's now why I'm here, but it's patently obvious that some cannot avoid competing with their gender opposites.


Really? Check that because I've seen you on the forums under this nic and the last and it seems like you do engage in this very manner every where you go. It's either some freakish coincidence, a conspiracy waged against you, or, it's you.

Out,

Tee


Eh - I use my slave's nick at home, since it's the one signed in on the desktop.

If I think you're wrong, I'll tell you so, it's not about winning. I'm open to being convinced otherwise.

Six.




SixFootMaster -> RE: Curious: why so many male doms (3/6/2008 9:59:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

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ORIGINAL: Evility

Guess that's not a two way street and this thread is a testament to the cliquishness you often hear people talk about in the bdsm "community".


Oh for fucks sake!  I posed it as a question because I was curious and wanted to know what the male doms got out of hearing us women kibbitz, that was all.  Sheesh!


What do I get out of it? From women like yourself: insight and wisdom,  from others: exasperation and irritation. It's a balance where lending my own perspective and absorbing the nuggets of gold keeps me coming back despite the frustation - although it can yield the occasional drop of amusement.

Six.







LadyPact -> RE: Curious: why so many male doms (3/6/2008 10:32:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SixFootMaster

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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

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ORIGINAL: Evility

Guess that's not a two way street and this thread is a testament to the cliquishness you often hear people talk about in the bdsm "community".


Oh for fucks sake!  I posed it as a question because I was curious and wanted to know what the male doms got out of hearing us women kibbitz, that was all.  Sheesh!


What do I get out of it? From women like yourself: insight and wisdom,  from others: exasperation and irritation. It's a balance where lending my own perspective and absorbing the nuggets of gold keeps me coming back despite the frustation - although it can yield the occasional drop of amusement.

Six.






No offense intended, but I do have to say that this would have been a wonderful answer somewhere back about four pages ago.  Personally, I thought the question was a rather good one, and I was curious about the different perspectives.  Unfortunately, what happened with this thread, happens with a lot of others.  It's disappointing at times.




MisPandora -> RE: Curious: why so many male doms (3/7/2008 12:07:36 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SixFootMaster

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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

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ORIGINAL: Evility

Guess that's not a two way street and this thread is a testament to the cliquishness you often hear people talk about in the bdsm "community".


Oh for fucks sake!  I posed it as a question because I was curious and wanted to know what the male doms got out of hearing us women kibbitz, that was all.  Sheesh!


What do I get out of it? From women like yourself: insight and wisdom,  from others: exasperation and irritation. It's a balance where lending my own perspective and absorbing the nuggets of gold keeps me coming back despite the frustation - although it can yield the occasional drop of amusement.

Six.


Aw shucks thanks! 

You're not the only one who gets irritated and exasperated either.  Mine is moreso from finding nuggets of something other than gold here.  I come and go as I please when strangers here irritate me.  A message board isn't worth getting a headache over :-)




MisPandora -> RE: Curious: why so many male doms (3/7/2008 12:08:47 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

No offense intended, but I do have to say that this would have been a wonderful answer somewhere back about four pages ago.  Personally, I thought the question was a rather good one, and I was curious about the different perspectives.  Unfortunately, what happened with this thread, happens with a lot of others.  It's disappointing at times.


I saw this thread go to hell when women started calling people names and figured I'd never get the answers I wanted....




Politesub53 -> RE: Curious: why so many male doms (3/7/2008 1:20:32 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SixFootMaster

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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

Dom/Dommes in denial..... i love it [8D]




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Curious minds need to know who peeked first. [;)]




LadyPact -> RE: Curious: why so many male doms (3/7/2008 1:33:48 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

No offense intended, but I do have to say that this would have been a wonderful answer somewhere back about four pages ago.  Personally, I thought the question was a rather good one, and I was curious about the different perspectives.  Unfortunately, what happened with this thread, happens with a lot of others.  It's disappointing at times.


I saw this thread go to hell when women started calling people names and figured I'd never get the answers I wanted....


I think that might be half true.  There really were some good answers on the thread, from both male and female (when talking about posting in the Master forum).  The rest was, shall we say, unfortunate?




Dnomyar -> RE: Curious: why so many male doms (3/7/2008 11:49:06 AM)

Vandaval. Winks. I learned enough secrets to become a sucessful Master. Beware or you to will be mine.




Jeffff -> RE: Curious: why so many male doms (3/7/2008 12:53:41 PM)

Male Dom here... just checkin in. Nice to see everyone getting along..:)

Jeffwey




Stephann -> RE: Curious: why so many male doms (3/7/2008 12:55:12 PM)

I don't think it was a recent phenomenon.  I've been posting all over the site for years.  I haven't been posting a ton lately, but today I felt the bug.

C'est la vie.

Seriously, problems and issues that affect female dominants also often affect male dominants (and female submissives and male submissives, and switches, and fetishists, and nilla folks, and and and...)

Stephan




SixFootMaster -> RE: Curious: why so many male doms (3/7/2008 9:44:51 PM)

Well if you're really that interested. I've been peeked at by about 6 or 7 female dominants, and have returned the favor to three or four, and I confess to peeking at Pandora and Action first.

Six.




LadyPact -> RE: Curious: why so many male doms (3/8/2008 7:09:40 AM)

Not to reopen what has been, at times, a difficult debate.

When bouncing around the forums yesterday, I came across a thread in the "Master" section that began a rather good discussion.  It wasn't especially on what the OP had hoped, but the subsequent issue became more interesting.  This actually prompted Me to repost a part of the thread, so that I could ask a question in the Gorean forum. 

I do have to say that I was pleased with the result.  I felt that My quesiton, and Myself, were treated with courtesy, even though I made it readily apparent that I very specifically was an outsider.  There were no snarky comments that I didn't belong there.  No disrespect for being such a twit that I couldn't figure the answer out for Myself.  No one attempted to treat Me more or less than I would have been treated on any other forum.  I came away with some good information.

<shrug>  I'm just saying......




Politesub53 -> RE: Curious: why so many male doms (3/8/2008 10:44:28 AM)

I think as long as you go into any forum without trying to stir the pot, any questions are normally well received. That said there will always be a few " This is our forum " types.

Maybe the worst forum for adverse comments is off topic, not that that worries me. I am admin for a sports forum and that gets all the problems between users that you see here. i guess its just the nature of the beast.




ShaktiSama -> RE: Curious: why so many male doms (3/8/2008 11:11:46 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Politesub53
I think as long as you go into any forum without trying to stir the pot, any questions are normally well received. That said there will always be a few " This is our forum " types.


I agree, and I think that a thread posted by a polite male dominant who has an honest question and wants female dominant input would always be very welcome here.  The problem is not people who come here with an honest interest in the "Mistress" viewpoint, have an honest desire for information, or even people who have a simple opinion on a topic of general interest.  The problem is people who come here to "straighten out" and "correct" female dominants or male submissives when they express their opinions or discuss their experiences, or who come specifically looking for a fight--i.e., trolling posts.

Men who come here to "open our minds", tell us we're "fucked up", talk down to us, tell us what to do, dictate their worldview, condemn us, project their fears onto us or simply be rude and abusive?  I think we can all live without.  Call me crazy, but I don't consider it "territorial" to reject that sort of thing.

Like it or not, this board is divided into topics of interest; the Mistress forum is for female dominants.   If a man can't emotionally cope with women who are not inclined to obey him or parrot his views, probably not a great place for him to be.  [;)]




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