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Owner4SexSlave -> RE: Why bdsm? (3/5/2008 1:02:50 PM)
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In terms of kink, it's like saying "I Love you" and accept all the crazy dirty things that turn you on and sexually exceit you.. Basically you embrace the whole person that she is. Even the dark kinky sexually deviant sides.
For instance if somebody you love, has intense fantasies of rape play. Do you love them enough to do this activitity with them or not? Or do you instead try to change who and what they really are deep down inside? Do you set them free to find somebody who will sexually satisify these fantasies.
This is just a crude example here. But enough to get one of the points across.
The other point, is that some people want to be followers, and are looking for somebody to bring shape direction and control to their life. They want somebody to be in charge of them. There are many different reasons why.
No everybody wants to become their own boss and run their own business, instead they'd rather go work for some company. Not Everybody wants to become a Manager at a business either. Some people are content doing their job and working for somebody else. In short in as much as a Manager gives direction and leadership at a business, A Dom does this for a submissive in life.
Some people want to please and serve the person they love. Basically, they want to know everything they can do to please and serve and make another human being happy in life. This is the one of the ways they simply best express their love and devotion towards another person. In short, they want somebody to be their so-called "Everything". They find peace of mind and sense of purpose in life and in expressing their love serving somebody else.
Now to get all romantic on you here, think of the pride knights of Camelot had in serving King Arthor. This concept while is in part fantasy, should help you get the idea of what is going on here. I'm basically trying to get the Warm and Fuzzy part that a submissive can feel serving another human being.
Added bonus of D/s, is that it reduced conflict from power struggles that can occur. Can actually make a relationship run smoother when one person is the primary person in charge and responsible for things. Two people going in two different directions and pulling for control can be a bad thing.
There are mental aspects of other activities such as verbal humilation, that actually bring a person back down to earth and reality. Mind you it can be a turn on for many people as well. Sexuality in America is not so embraced as it is some parts of the world. Many people have been raised that it's more of a shameful thing or rather a sin. The fact is that we are very sexual creatures by nature. In the BDSM lifestyle we can accept one another as the fucking slutty whores we are with one another. Does not mean you have to fuck anybody and everybody. However, some girls enjoy having their DOM in their One-On-One exclusive relationship treat them like the slutty wanna fuck whores that they are feeling like.
I Love you and accept your sexuality and I'm gonna take advantage and use you sexually like you enjoy being used. In short, accepting part of the So called Dark side of the one you love and doing it.
Whew... hope this helps give you a glimpse into things. This really can become an in depth topic here.
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