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blackmail Illegal? - 3/4/2008 11:42:21 PM   
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Is blackmail illegal? if so how do i explain to this person in a nice way that i need to be let of this arrangement. its been going on for six months and i cant keep up anymore.
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RE: blackmail Illegal? - 3/4/2008 11:46:10 PM   
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it is technically a crime yes.  if you care to explain more of the situation, perhaps advice on how to handle it can be given.

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RE: blackmail Illegal? - 3/4/2008 11:50:47 PM   
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i gave her my info back in october never thinking it was going to go on this long. when asked when she was going to stop she basically said never.

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RE: blackmail Illegal? - 3/4/2008 11:53:22 PM   
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I'm guessing that this person willingly entered a "blackmail scene" with a professional dominant or someone who claimed to be one where the threat is the revealing of your kinky activities.  If this is the case, you're in rough waters; so long as you don't want these things known you'll be at her whim because she can change her mind and reveal even if you pay. 

If i'm incorrect, i apologize.

Edited to add after reading the op's second post: Short of commiting your own crime, the only effective way to take away her power is to come clean about whatever she has on you.  Live and learn, sounds like you're screwed.  Legal recourse only really works if you're willing to expose yourself.


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RE: blackmail Illegal? - 3/4/2008 11:57:33 PM   
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quote:

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Is blackmail illegal? if so how do i explain to this person in a nice way that i need to be let of this arrangement. its been going on for six months and i cant keep up anymore.


Did you negotiate a "safeword" of sorts up front to indicate when you need to stop?

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RE: blackmail Illegal? - 3/4/2008 11:58:13 PM   
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no

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RE: blackmail Illegal? - 3/5/2008 12:00:54 AM   
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quote:

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no


When you thought this through, how did you envision it would end, and how did you plan to protect yourself?
This could be a lesson learned for those who are interested in blackmail. I get asked often to blackmail men, with them even sending me their revealing information unsolicited.  Not interested in that sort of thing at all, and I'm surprised how many men do that -- I think they get the rush the moment they hit the "send" button on the email, then when the buzz wears off, they realize they could be in deep shit - not in a fantasy sense either!

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RE: blackmail Illegal? - 3/5/2008 12:03:15 AM   
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any advice on how to fix this? i really could use it

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RE: blackmail Illegal? - 3/5/2008 12:04:38 AM   
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i get that rush when giving anyone personal information~  cases like this are what make me so untrusting. =/

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RE: blackmail Illegal? - 3/5/2008 12:06:07 AM   
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Call the cops on him...

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RE: blackmail Illegal? - 3/5/2008 12:07:02 AM   
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what is it she is blackmailing you "for".  what are the terms and conditions to prevent your personal info being misused?  what can she actually do?  and who is this person, and where do they live in a nutshell?

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RE: blackmail Illegal? - 3/5/2008 12:09:43 AM   
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i dont want to get too specific on who this is, but she has everthing she needs to ruin me. i pay her whats she wants every week and she made me give her my cc #

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RE: blackmail Illegal? - 3/5/2008 12:11:36 AM   
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Noone will be able to help you unless you provide at least *some* details...

But as a rule, if you can get some better info on her then you can blackmail her right back :).

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RE: blackmail Illegal? - 3/5/2008 12:17:40 AM   
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i dont want to go to war with her, isnt there anything i can say to her to back off? are there any articles i can site for extra ammo

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RE: blackmail Illegal? - 3/5/2008 12:19:32 AM   
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Well without knowing anything about her it is impossible to say. If she is well balanced then it is most likely a simple matter of letting her know it is over. If she is not well balanced then you are pretty much screwed.

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RE: blackmail Illegal? - 3/5/2008 12:55:40 AM   
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not even a lawyer could give you sound advice based on how little we know, there's little any of us will be able to do aside from saying good luck as is.

your profile is nicely blank, i'd remove all remaining info or skew it from our vision, then without giving any personal or definitive details to us that would make you further uncomfortable, and retaining complete anon status, perhaps you could better explain the situation.

what i think we still need to know is

what she is able to do, having personal info is a lighter possibility, as it would simply be her word against yours, and would be in full deniability of just some idiot messing around with you.  the question is, does she have photographs that can be used to ID you, or other incriminating things of this nature.  you need not go into details, i'm only curious what sort of weapons she has against you.

also i think i need to know about her, and your involvement with her.  how did this whole fiasco get started and under what conditions, what sort of character are we dealing with, and do you think she'd even go through with it at the risk of burning her own ass as well?  light details are sufficient.  i ask of where she lives basically just to know what sort of laws she is bound to, if you can simply confirm she lives in the US that would be enough.  this is a "she" right?

basically we need some personality info on this girl, so that we can try to figure out what sort of things may "srping the trap", just hinting the notion of stopping could cause the wrong person to explode.

till i know more the best advice i can offer, even though i won't recommend you take my advice as being sound, would be to simply tell her this cannot continue.

you can try to apologize or soften her up, tell her you hope she enjoyed what you were able to give, all sorts of things of this nature. 

or you can stand firm, tell her this can go no further, and you will not be able to meet anymore demands.  cancel your CC, all that jazz.  and if she seems like she's going to retaliate, remind her that every action has a reaction.  i'm sure if she's smart she'll know of some of the legalities, and that if she goes through with it she'll be breaking the law, as she would be doing so already aside if not from your apparent consent.  keep in mind your consent doesn't exactly make it legal, but your consent could be the cause for false claims and dropped charges in court.  mostly i'm sure that while you both might feel she's holding something over your head, if she follows through she might tarnish your reputation, but the gloves would come off if that happened, and the reprocussions she would face would be more than just reputation.

take it allllllll with a grain of salt, hell take the whole damn salt shaker.  for all i can make of the situation, perhaps the best advice is to keep paying, or better yet, speak with a lawyer.  if you wish to hold information from everyone, then perhaps you'll have to go looking into things yourself.

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RE: blackmail Illegal? - 3/5/2008 1:29:14 AM   
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quote:

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i dont want to go to war with her, isnt there anything i can say to her to back off? are there any articles i can site for extra ammo


You dont have a choice here. If you want to stop you have to tell her to back off and cancel the credit cards. What on earth were you thinking giving these details to a total stranger. I would suspect on letter from your lawyer would be enough to get her to back off, if not, call the cops.

I dont mean this unkindly but its true all the same, this is a mess of your own making and you just have to take it on the chin and deal.

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RE: blackmail Illegal? - 3/5/2008 4:46:29 AM   
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And this is why I avoid the "ooooo blackmail me" wanker emails that I get on a regular basis.   Doesn't seem like you thought it through very well, did you?

Call your credit card company and tell them you lost the card - they'll reissue with another number.   Then she doesn't have the card # any longer.

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RE: blackmail Illegal? - 3/5/2008 5:23:03 AM   
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RE: blackmail Illegal? - 3/5/2008 5:41:01 AM   
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Who says you have to be nice?  Tell them to hit the road jack and don't you come back no more no more no more no more. Hit the road Jack, and don't you come back no more. 
Get the picture?  No reason to be unhappy when there are so many fish in the sea, and if they are threatening you to where you are afraid, put a restraining order on them.
 
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