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chezzy52 -> RE: First Meeting Behavior. (3/8/2008 2:29:43 AM)

Lucky,as a former resident of central new york now resodomg for the moment in virginia..i hear you.Here if they get a trace of expected snow they are ready to close the schools..i find it entertaining.



Twicehappy2x -> RE: First Meeting Behavior. (3/8/2008 6:04:25 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

There was snow and ice in Texas yesterday :)  I miss people who can handle it, they whine like mules here when we get just one or two "really cold" days.


Here in Indiana we are having a blizzard today, a whole 12 inches of snow but really gusty winds. Nothing like the 2 to 3 foot blizzards at home. Take them back east for a really good Northeaster and then let them whine about it, weg.



catize -> RE: First Meeting Behavior. (3/8/2008 7:07:40 AM)

Sometimes I think being chronically late or prompt is part of our personality—it just is what it is.  It’s important to me that I am on time but I have learned to accept with grace that its not always so important to the other person. 
R. gets easily distracted---I prefer to think of it as a quality rather than a fault because he is so intense about whatever has caught his fancy and that intensity is a plus in our relationship.  With S. I have to be super-duper early as he has shown up an hour earlier than planned! 



angelic -> RE: First Meeting Behavior. (3/8/2008 7:36:50 AM)

Yes, my sister is one that cannot be on time to save her soul.. LOL  We all know it, we accept it for it will not change.  Myself, i am sort of obsessive about being on time (early).

However, for a first meet if it is not important enough to "you" (the proverbial you), to be on time for a first meet, I am guessing you are just not that into me. 

Back to the OP,

I have not had a "first meet" for over two years.  Just this week I received a first email from someone local who wanted to just meet for coffee:  "You wouldn't be interested in coffee someday, would you? Just a casual, let's-get-together-and-chat coffee.  Let me know. No strings attached."

Sounded ok to me and I really do want to start meeting people again, so I said ok, but that I am not available until next weekend and could we get to know a bit about each other in the meantime?  Well, he sent me an email about himself and I returned the favor.  He read my return email two days ago and I have heard nothing back.  Who knows why, maybe its the fact that I am a single mom with two (yes count 'em TWO teenaged sons.  One 17, one 18).  (Enough to scare any Man). [8D]   Maybe its the fact that I like jumping out of airplanes.  Anyway I'm thinkin' that maybe the "no strings attached" thingie was nothing more than a smoke screen.

So, in answer to part of the OP, yes I do need at least every other day communication up until the first meet.



Kana -> RE: First Meeting Behavior. (3/8/2008 7:38:52 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Twicehappy2x
So LA, are you missing all the East Coast snow?


There was snow and ice in Texas yesterday :)  I miss people who can handle it, they whine like mules here when we get just one or two "really cold" days.


Yeah, like people here in Maryland know squat about driving in the snow.
One snowflake in the sky and the whole state grinds to a screeching halt.
LA-you have been gone to long, you have forgotten what its like.
Grins



Mercnbeth -> RE: First Meeting Behavior. (3/8/2008 9:00:17 AM)

~ Fast Reply ~
 
I think everyone should follow our example for proper 'First Meeting Behavior'.

Having made first contact 6 days prior, Elizabeth arrived 30 minutes early at her place of choice. Called my cell to let me know I was there. Waited at the bar and (horrors!) had a drink, and ANOTHER (double-horrors!) with me. We left, drove around for 45 minutes. Went to a secluded place overlooking a canyon. I noted to her this would be a GREAT place to dump bodies; she responded by kissing me and having her bra removed. The canyon stopped being secluded. We left and got a hotel room. 

By now at least 2 hours had transpired. We got into the room, I had her strip naked, put her hands on her head and slowing show me her body. After I got a good look I had her crawl over to where I was sitting and pull the 'toys' I brought out of my bag and hold them and look at them while I explained how I would be using them on her. I told her my name for her would be 'beth'. Play and sex ensued, followed by more play, more sex, dinner, more sex, more play, more play, sex, sleep, more sex; I think there was some bathing, showering, intermittent wine drinking and subsequent toilet breaks. The next day we parted physically - never to part again emotionally, mentally, and (OK-beth I'll humor you...) spiritually. 

Anyway - that's the basics of our 1st meeting. Worked for us.

But I really posted to say I sadistically enjoyed the weather reports from around the county.

Palos Verdes Weather: Sunny - High 76[sm=mrpuffy.gif]



domiguy -> RE: First Meeting Behavior. (3/8/2008 2:04:23 PM)

Simple shit....They live in the area ...we chat...It's cool. We meet.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: First Meeting Behavior. (3/9/2008 9:26:20 AM)

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Yeah, like people here in Maryland know squat about driving in the snow.
One snowflake in the sky and the whole state grinds to a screeching halt.
LA-you have been gone to long, you have forgotten what its like.
Grins

I find that's true for the first snow of the season.  After that, they tend to "remember" that "Oh yeah, this stuff" and do better.

Still better than LA drivers who lose all ability at the mere sight of a drop of rain.



greeneyedreamer -> RE: First Meeting Behavior. (3/9/2008 9:40:48 AM)

Being a relatively self confident woman, (most of the time) I stress over what to wear. I want to make a good impression and feel comfortable in what i am wearing. Nothing uncomfortable but nothing frumpy... a good medium. Something I can feel sexy in, yet not cheap... that's what I stress over...



DisirUrdsFylgja -> RE: First Meeting Behavior. (3/9/2008 9:56:27 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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But I really posted to say I sadistically enjoyed the weather reports from around the county.

Palos Verdes Weather: Sunny - High 76[sm=mrpuffy.gif]

 
Tttttttthhhhhhhpppppppttttttt!!!!!!!!
 
That was way too sadistic even for a collarme post !



ImpGrrl -> RE: First Meeting Behavior. (3/9/2008 10:22:53 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Twicehappy2x

 
First Meeting Behavior.
 


If it's about a relationship or potential relationship, the introduction would likely have been in person - not on the Internet.  If I'm meeting someone on the Internet for the first time, it's with no expectation of romance, play, etc - because I develop relationships *after* I've met someone.




cjan -> RE: First Meeting Behavior. (3/10/2008 9:05:59 AM)

I like to freshen up and change my shorts. Being a sailor, that means changing shorts with someone else ( hopefully fresher, but, ya never know).

*Changes shorts with SailingBum*

Oooops, nevermind, dude. Change back, dude.




CalifChick -> RE: First Meeting Behavior. (3/10/2008 9:17:46 AM)

I just lost a ton of lust for BOTH cjan and sailingbum.  Seriously.

Cali



ELUSIVE1 -> RE: First Meeting Behavior. (3/10/2008 9:35:10 AM)

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ORIGINAL: jenf

Sailing Bum...if i got there on time and you were that late...i'd be gone. Sorry.


Amen to that...I have a 15 minute rule though-- after 15 minutes after the agreed meeting time, I am gone...as for preparing for the first meet--oh that usually entails a mani/pedi...I have my fave outfits that I use specifically for the 'first meet' depending on the weather....I am usually not that nervous on the first meet because it is always arranged in a very public place with no intention of play (Unless I am traveling by plane to meet, and that only happens after extended get to know periods). . .so no I don't stress over the first meet...even when I really like our conversations and emails



KMsAngel -> RE: First Meeting Behavior. (3/11/2008 4:14:45 AM)


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ORIGINAL: DisirUrdsFylgja

quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

~
But I really posted to say I sadistically enjoyed the weather reports from around the county.

Palos Verdes Weather: Sunny - High 76[sm=mrpuffy.gif]

Tttttttthhhhhhhpppppppttttttt!!!!!!!!
That was way too sadistic even for a collarme post !



so as a sweet submissive, it won't be sadistic of me to tell you of our 100+ temperatures?



SailingBum -> RE: First Meeting Behavior. (3/11/2008 6:08:47 AM)

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ORIGINAL: cjan

I like to freshen up and change my shorts. Being a sailor, that means changing shorts with someone else ( hopefully fresher, but, ya never know).

*Changes shorts with SailingBum*

Oooops, nevermind, dude. Change back, dude.



uhhh whatTheFuckOver.... I don't swing that way.  Furthermore I will never  know you well enuff to be saying shit like that to me.  Kidding or not.

BadOne



cjan -> RE: First Meeting Behavior. (3/11/2008 7:52:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

quote:

ORIGINAL: cjan

I like to freshen up and change my shorts. Being a sailor, that means changing shorts with someone else ( hopefully fresher, but, ya never know).

*Changes shorts with SailingBum*

Oooops, nevermind, dude. Change back, dude.



uhhh whatTheFuckOver.... I don't swing that way.  Furthermore I will never  know you well enuff to be saying shit like that to me.  Kidding or not.

BadOne


Sorry, dude. I meant no direspect to you. I was just kidding.And, it's a common sailors' joke. Do you really sail ?

And, btw, I don't "swing that way" either.*Wonders about sailing dudes homophobia* I'm secure in my , ummmm, manhood. How about you ?

If, on the otherhand, you'd like to take this outside, or onto the dock, I would be happy to accomodate you anytime. You would prolly like it. You'd find out who "The BadOne" really is. lol

Anyway...whatever. Have a nice life.

P.S. He started it, 11 ;)



katie978 -> RE: First Meeting Behavior. (3/11/2008 1:05:17 PM)

   I get insanely nervous. I'm the kind of person that can take a standardized test cool as a cucumber, so nervousness isn't a feeling I'm overly familiar with. I'm meeting someone I don't know personally, and they know a lot of insanely personal things about me. Sure, I've been talking with them online, but you meet a person-not a screenname.

  I get all pretty, get angsty over the right thing to wear (and frequently buy something new), mess with my hair for an hour before putting it back like it was. I definitely like being constantly in contact before a date-it helps me feel less nervous, and helps me not go ::poof:: (which I have only done once and had a perfectly legitimate fake sickness to justify).

   I also get more nervous the better I know someone. A guy I've been talking with for one day, if I don't like him-no big deal. I talked to my master every single day for a full month before we met, and was scared to death that he wouldn't be as awesome as he seemed online (turned out he wasn't-he was better [:)]).

 



cjan -> RE: First Meeting Behavior. (3/11/2008 1:17:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

I just lost a ton of lust for BOTH cjan and sailingbum.  Seriously.

Cali



God Cali, I never knew you had a ton of lust. Was that split evenly betwixt me and bum, or what...60/40 ?

C/mon, please, I was just kidding, a joke, ya know ?

If I offended you, or anyone here, including SailingBum, I appologize and will go stand in the corner. Can I keep my crayons, though, at least ?



cjan -> RE: First Meeting Behavior. (3/11/2008 1:21:12 PM)

.Ok. SailingBum. I am out of line with that last post to you I have cooled down, and now appologize to you publicly. I meant you no disrespect. I was just joking. But, sometimes, the problem of communication or joking online or texting is that peeps don't get your tone of voice or facial expression, I'm not here to flame , fight or insult anyone. Please accept my appology, and let's move on.

I also appologize to Cali, and anyone else that was upset with my post and behavior.

I like to laugh but, unfortunately, for me, I guess, sometimes peeps don't get my sense of humor.[sm=crop.gif] Sorry, it isn't the first time, for sure, and prolly not the last, but I mean no harm to anyone.

*Done grovelling and gets off my knees, dusts off and  gets on with life*



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