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First Meeting Behavior. - 3/6/2008 4:52:40 AM

Twicehappy2x

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First Meeting Behavior.

If you are a submissive or a slave, a Dom or Domme what types of thoughts go running through your mind prior to a first meeting?

Do you spend the few days until you actually meet being nervous? Excited?

What mental or physical preparations do you make?

Do you keep in steady contact? Either by email or telephone.

Or do you prefer the suspense of limited or no contact?

Would you be unsure about the meeting if you did not receive daily contact?

Would you still go to agreed upon rendezvous if you did not receive an absolute confirmation to be there the day prior to the scheduled date?

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RE: First Meeting Behavior. - 3/6/2008 4:57:45 AM

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LoL Let's over think this some more. I shower and show up 10 to 15 mins late.

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RE: First Meeting Behavior. - 3/6/2008 5:01:51 AM

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Mmmm SailingBum could you stoop over and pick up the soap.

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RE: First Meeting Behavior. - 3/6/2008 5:02:06 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Twicehappy2x

If you are a submissive or a slave, a Dom or Domme what types of thoughts go running through your mind prior to a first meeting?

What should i wear? what if he doesnt like me? should I get there early? maybe I shouldnt go. God i look crap, my hair isnt right, why did i put that eye shadow on, what if hes ugly, what if he doesnt turn up, what if he doesnt like me, im going back to bed (something like that anyways)

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Do you spend the few days until you actually meet being nervous? Excited?

yup and yup

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What mental or physical preparations do you make?

I shave lol cant think of much else really

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Do you keep in steady contact? Either by email or telephone.

yup

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Would you be unsure about the meeting if you did not receive daily contact?

yeah course

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Would you still go to agreed upon rendezvous if you did not receive an absolute confirmation to be there the day prior to the scheduled date?

Oh probably but it hasnt happened yet

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RE: First Meeting Behavior. - 3/6/2008 5:02:37 AM

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Yup, I'm with SailingBum with this one. I'd make myself pretty, take a deep breath to calm some flutters in the belly and just *go* to the date. I'd rather not overanalyze every move I make - that takes all the fun out of it!

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RE: First Meeting Behavior. - 3/6/2008 5:25:18 AM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Mmmm SailingBum could you stoop over and pick up the soap.

Homey don't play dat.

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RE: First Meeting Behavior. - 3/6/2008 5:37:32 AM

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Each situation is different. I've never been stood up. Of course, I always hope for the best, but you have to deal with who the person really is, not who you guess they might be after only online contact.

If you daydream about the person too much before meeting them in person, your fantasies can end up masking who they really are. Then, a couple months later, you post in the forum about a bad experience in the relationship and everyone yells, "Why didn't you trust your intuition and common sense?" Well, sorry, I couldn't hear them because my fantasy wisher was turned up too loud.

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RE: First Meeting Behavior. - 3/6/2008 5:37:57 AM

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"What should i wear? what if he doesnt like me? should I get there early? maybe I shouldnt go. God i look crap, my hair isnt right, why did i put that eye shadow on, what if hes ugly, what if he doesnt turn up, what if he doesnt like me, im going back to bed (something like that anyways) "........colouredin, this was me lastnight!!!!

Like any date/first time meeting, I go thru these feelings. By the time I'm ready to leave, however, I tend to look in the mirror and say "damn, honey...you look great!" and I just go and enjoy.

Oh....if I could just go out w/out the "butterflies" it would so much easier.

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RE: First Meeting Behavior. - 3/6/2008 5:46:47 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Twicehappy2x

First Meeting Behavior.

If you are a submissive or a slave, a Dom or Domme what types of thoughts go running through your mind prior to a first meeting?
Oh, just the usual worry wart stuff...

Do you spend the few days until you actually meet being nervous? Excited?
The last meeting I had, I only had an hour to worry and freak because he was in the area and I had nothing else to do...

What mental or physical preparations do you make?
I just play music or distract myself with the tv or radio before i leave

Do you keep in steady contact? Either by email or telephone.
Yep. Sometimes both, sometimes just email or IM

Or do you prefer the suspense of limited or no contact?
I hate being in suspense when I am nervous as hell...

Would you be unsure about the meeting if you did not receive daily contact?
Of course. Theres the fear that I'll get stood up...

Would you still go to agreed upon rendezvous if you did not receive an absolute confirmation to be there the day prior to the scheduled date?
Depends on my mood, and what else I planned for the day.

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RE: First Meeting Behavior. - 3/6/2008 5:49:07 AM

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Sailing Bum...if i got there on time and you were that late...i'd be gone. Sorry.

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RE: First Meeting Behavior. - 3/6/2008 5:52:22 AM

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I mull over what they seem to be, from previous communications. I try not to get my hopes up.

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RE: First Meeting Behavior. - 3/6/2008 5:56:19 AM

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Sailing Bum...if i got there on time and you were that late...i'd be gone. Sorry.

As Im often quoted as saying. OhFuckingWell

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RE: First Meeting Behavior. - 3/6/2008 6:03:53 AM

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As i'm oft quoted...shitfuckdamn

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RE: First Meeting Behavior. - 3/6/2008 6:14:10 AM

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I've gotten to the point where I realize that we click or we don't and no amount of worry or over anylizing will change that.

I prefer to meet early on in the process so that emotions and fantasies haven't been given a chance to run amuck. I dress nice, but not anything more special then usual and I show up prepared for a process of discovery and if it doesn't work then at least I had a nice time meeting someone new, if it does work out then great!

I'm also one that doesn't believe in being on my "best behaviour" during a first meeting-- meaning that I will be relaxed and my usual self and not overly concerned with giving a different first impression then I would be normally.

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RE: First Meeting Behavior. - 3/6/2008 6:16:27 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: colouredin

What should i wear? what if he doesnt like me? should I get there early? maybe I shouldnt go. God i look crap, my hair isnt right, why did i put that eye shadow on, what if hes ugly, what if he doesnt turn up, what if he doesnt like me, im going back to bed (something like that anyways)

Lmao.....this was me 110%. I figured everybody went through this to some degree. More or less like vanilla blind date jitters only worse.

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RE: First Meeting Behavior. - 3/6/2008 6:22:25 AM

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Hey jen,

I guess were not going to the prom shitfuckdamn that makes zero sense.

SeeYaBye BadOne

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RE: First Meeting Behavior. - 3/6/2008 6:37:22 AM

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SFD makes about as much sense as showing up 15 minutes late for a first meeting!!!! Are you so cool that its worth my time sitting there waiting on you? In college, we only waited that long for a full professor !!
ARE you a professor ?

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RE: First Meeting Behavior. - 3/6/2008 6:50:53 AM

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At a first meeting I look at it as I would any other meeting. Be polite, on time a few minutes early is not bad but unless it is something really unusual don't be more than 5 minutes late. Dress appropriately for the setting your meeting in. Try to be your self. I know that is hard because we want to make a good impression but the quicker the real you comes out the more relaxed you will be. As a sub I use proper manners but do not use titles like Master Mistress ect at Starbucks for many reasons. One reason is my and their privacy and two they may not be I don't know. If it is an obvious bad match for you, nicely tell them that. Unless you are not sure don't offer to stay or meet again. Don't let guilt lead you into a mistake. Don't spend 3 hours talking and tell them it seems like a good match and then never respond n any form again. If they change, dramatically, what they want or bring up major things that they have no reason n to think you are into. I met one man for coffee. No where in my profile on the site we met or our emails indicated I had any interest in fact all 3 items were listed as never. He starts out telling me he might show up in women’s clothes, I am not judging on any of these they just are personal turn offs, he liked 3 ways with women, would I consider a sex change. Plus he wanted to go right back to my place that second to be served. He also set of those little alarms in my head that said run. I nicely told him I didn't see it working and left being sure he did not follow. That is how not to act.

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RE: First Meeting Behavior. - 3/6/2008 6:50:55 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Twicehappy2x

First Meeting Behavior.

If you are a submissive or a slave, a Dom or Domme what types of thoughts go running through your mind prior to a first meeting?

will he show up? i usually give the person 10 minutes if they're running late. after 10 minutes and no show, i'm gone.

quote:

Do you spend the few days until you actually meet being nervous? Excited?

i get nervous the moment we meet not before.

quote:

What mental or physical preparations do you make?

no mental prep ...just physical prep such as what to wear, emergency manicure appt, and/or last minute run through with the babysitter (if it's a dinner meet)

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Do you keep in steady contact? Either by email or telephone.
Or do you prefer the suspense of limited or no contact?

steady contact is best esp if something comes up like oldest UM suddenly gets sick. suspend contact and i think you're no longer interested in meeting.

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Would you be unsure about the meeting if you did not receive daily contact?

see last answer above.

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Would you still go to agreed upon rendezvous if you did not receive an absolute confirmation to be there the day prior to the scheduled date?

no i would not - why waste time waiting for someone who didn't confirm or cancel prior to the meeting.

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RE: First Meeting Behavior. - 3/6/2008 6:52:15 AM

SailingBum

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Typically I was late for class... I never said I made sense...How long have you had this promptness issue???

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