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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I'm trying to phrase this so that it won't end up in the Random Stupidity section.

On several threads lately, I've noticed Myself giving the same repeated reply in regards to phone conversations.  Often, a reference to phone calls is made prior to meeting someone for the first time, whether that be casually, or for play.  Personally, I'm not a big phone person.  I don't care for it in most situations.  It isn't a prerequisite hearing someone's voice in order to play.  I have a lot of things much higher on the criteria list than that. 

Hearing a voice doesn't especially make someone authentic (I hesitate at using the word real, since I don't want THAT debate).  It doesn't necessarily ensure that someone is female (there are better methods).  It certainly doesn't guarantee  anyone's experience level, tell you what type of play partner they will be, or add any other particular information, other than a point of contact should there be any obstacle to actually arrive at meeting. 

This leads to My question.  Exactly what is the hang up (bad pun) with the phone?

***  Disclaimer.  The phone thing is not in reference to safe calls.  It is merely a question about what the importance is of a phone conversation, prior to a meet.

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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

I find a lot more can be communicated by verbal conversation than by the typed one, for example, how quickly one thinks on one's feet, how one presents oneself, and what conversation dynamics will look like.  I remember years ago I spoke to a man online for awhile. We shared photos and he was quite handsome.  The first time we spoke on the phone, I realized his voice was very high and he spoke in a bit of a whine, with LOTS of "um...um...um" going on.  I couldn't stand it.

With my Master, the goal wasn't a play date but a Master/slave relationship.  At the time, I had an hour commute home from work and it was a perfect time for us to connect and begin to learn one another.  I loved the way he spoke to me, and the things he had to say.  I have made very close connections with people through verbal communication, and when distance falls between the parties, it's a good way to make a "connection" prior to meeting - friends and possible partners alike. 

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Thank you for those last two comments.  I was beginning to think I was the only chick who didn't have the phone as a big priority.

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ORIGINAL: Stephann
And then there were the three 'girls' who admitted to being men, when I finally said "call or else...."

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I wanted to thank everyone for the replies and the different perspectives.  It's been fun to hear how other people see this.

Ray, I think you pegged exactly how I am about this.  My family knows the same thing.  Keep it short, sweet, and to the point.  Give Me the information necessary, and the small talk can wait until I get home.

Madame4a, we seriously have a lot in common.  Just wanted to mention that again.

Stephann, you and I just aren't in synch these past couple of days.  (Which is odd, because I find your opinions to be very good ones.  However, I think it was your comment that made Me think more about My preference in this.)

Having sat back and thought about it for a while, the reasons I don't care for the phone have more to do with being real than anything else.  For starters, if someone gets My number, they are getting the cell phone.  Unless it's a scheduled call, that means I could be anywhere, at work, in the car, etc.  There certainly isn't going to be a decent conversation under those kinds of conditions.

Secondly, I can't always control the enviornment enough to be able to hear properly.  Voices are one of the hardest things for Me to hear, so I prefer conversations in person.  I get more from talking with someone face to face.

The shorter the call is kept, the sooner I can actually get there to talk to who I want.


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Having sat back and thought about it for a while, the reasons I don't care for the phone have more to do with being real than anything else.  For starters, if someone gets My number, they are getting the cell phone.  Unless it's a scheduled call, that means I could be anywhere, at work, in the car, etc.  There certainly isn't going to be a decent conversation under those kinds of conditions.

Secondly, I can't always control the enviornment enough to be able to hear properly.  Voices are one of the hardest things for Me to hear, so I prefer conversations in person.  I get more from talking with someone face to face.