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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 12:26:25 AM

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I fully expect other women to flirt with him, maybe even 'come on' to him -- I know I would! He's handsome, articulate and personable. I trust us implicity.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 12:28:21 AM

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I get hit on. My girl gets hit on. Whats the big fucking deal???

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 12:40:51 AM

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The only reason I get a slight kick out of the exchange is due to my boy being very shy and not being that worldly, so having little clue as to the person's intentions when they take an interest in him. It becomes especially comical (and yes, he's aware of how much it amuses me) when they exaggerate their 'moves' and suddenly he's faced with the reality of "Oh my god, what do I do now!" He'll fluster, blush, politely decline and inform them he's in a committed relationship. They'll get pissy, feel afronted that someone has knocked them back, afterall, who could resist such a gorgeous offering and the piece de resistence... when they say, "You led me to believe you were interested b/c you TALKED to me and SMILED. I didn't realise you were GAY!".

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 12:43:30 AM

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As submissive has got no choice other then his own self to decide upon. If he or she is not happy they can access there situation with there D if they can go on with any likeable changes or additions to there situation of the stable that they are in with. As a D, well they have all the shots to call for, but again i feel that they need to know of the risks they will be taking with there current partners (subs and slaves). Good communication can solve the doubts for each other and clear uncertainties which may lead to sour break ups in the future.....

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 12:51:41 AM

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Being poly prevents so many problems. Admittedly, it causes a few as well.

As for jealousy. . .

I get jealous of extra time at work, video games, controlling mothers, and other things that make me feel de-prioritized by my lovers. Other people don't make me jealous unless they end up making my lover spend less time with me.

Other people can flirt away, hey, they can even play or screw, and I won't think anything of it unless they end up coming between us somehow.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 1:16:17 AM

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I find it disrespectfull to hit on people that have a partner, so to be honest..I would be slightly irritated.
But I trust my partner to ignore the signals...so it will be ok. If they continue hitting onmy partner then...then I will step up to them and nicely ask them to stop

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 1:18:52 AM

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Me personally, I am ok to an extent with peopel flirting with my partner. Flirty words are ok, but touches and stuff kinda get me a lil on edge. I just try to not let it bother me because I know who I am goin home with at the end of the night...

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 1:41:32 AM

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quote:

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I find it disrespectfull to hit on people that have a partner, so to be honest..I would be slightly irritated.
But I trust my partner to ignore the signals...so it will be ok. If they continue hitting onmy partner then...then I will step up to them and nicely ask them to stop

See that's what I find interesting about people's responses to this issue, if your partner doesn't stop the person hitting on them its not the random you should get angry with it's your partner

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This is assuming a strictly one on one relationship.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 1:44:57 AM

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quote:

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I find it disrespectfull to hit on people that have a partner, so to be honest..I would be slightly irritated.
But I trust my partner to ignore the signals...so it will be ok. If they continue hitting onmy partner then...then I will step up to them and nicely ask them to stop

See that's what I find interesting about people's responses to this issue, if your partner doesn't stop the person hitting on them its not the random you should get angry with it's your partner

I see hitting as one way, flirting as 2 way interaction.
IF they hit on my partner...it is THEIR fault. IF they flirt..with my partner..meaning she is involved.....then she gets punishment...or in worse case..she can leave my life.
As she is my property...I will be the one taking action....chivalry mon amie?

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 1:45:34 AM

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I fully expect other women to flirt with him, maybe even 'come on' to him -- I know I would! He's handsome, articulate and personable. I trust us implicity.

Ditto.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 1:46:19 AM

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Firm is a big boy and can handle someone hitting on him without any action by me. That doesn't mean, however, that I would do nothing... I would be watching his reactions very closely.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 1:54:57 AM

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That's provided the one doing the hitting is unaware that the person of interest is unattached? So I fail to see why it's a 'fault'... it becomes a fault if they ARE aware and even then, why does it exempt a person from personal responsibility simply b/c they are submissive? I trust Reality implicitly, I know that he's going to decline any offers or make it clear to someone should they flirt. I would not assume that responsibility for him. I think too often people act territorially, almost as if it's one's pissing ground. The only time it does become a problem is when the recipient of such attention does not assert themselves. We often read comments such as, "He stole my property." People are receptive b/c they want to be, if that is outside the perameters of the relationship there's a distinct problem there and not one I would be a party to for very long.

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I see hitting as one way, flirting as 2 way interaction.
IF they hit on my partner...it is THEIR fault. IF they flirt..with my partner..meaning she is involved.....then she gets punishment...or in worse case..she can leave my life.
As she is my property...I will be the one taking action....chivalry mon amie?

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 1:57:59 AM

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That's provided the one doing the hitting is unaware that the person of interest is unattached? So I fail to see why it's a 'fault'... it becomes a fault if they ARE aware and even then, why does it exempt a person from personal responsibility simply b/c they are submissive? I trust Reality implicitly, I know that he's going to decline any offers or make it clear to someone should they flirt. I would not assume that responsibility for him. I think too often people act territorially, almost as if it's one's pissing ground. The only time it does become a problem is when the recipient of such attention does not assert themselves. We often read comments such as, "He stole my property." People are receptive b/c they want to be, if that is outside the perameters of the relationship there's a distinct problem there and not one I would be a party to for very long.

agree. But as it is a 2 way interaction. The one hitting...can think also ;)
IF there is a guy and a lady together all the time....one can think it might be possible be a couple.. But anyway..you make a point.
But h'e..as a flirter...you risk something

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 5:48:58 AM

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I get jealous of extra time at work, video games, controlling mothers, and other things that make me feel de-prioritized by my lovers. Other people don't make me jealous unless they end up making my lover spend less time with me.

Ditto.

I flirt like mad and I think it's such friendly fun and I think others (partners included) should flirt. But if it crosses the line into something else - ouch.

And it doesn't matter how great you think you are, how secure you think your relationship, unless you constantly try actively to keep it fresh, you're at risk. Statistics show people do separate or get divorced. Rather a lot of ppl. A very large number of ppl.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 6:26:21 AM

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Well, I'd laugh at the person hitting on Mistress. She'd quickly put them in their place. She can handle things quite nicely Herself. I'd only step in if She gives me the green light to do so. Look out if I do have to intervene, though. It won't be pretty.

If someone were to hit on me, I'm sure Mistress would politely grab my collar, pull me to the ground at Her feet, pull me against Her legs tightly, smile at the person, and say with a big smile while wrapping Her arms around me, "Mine!" That would be right before She inserts Her size 9 boot up their ass!

Awww, I love my psychopathic Mistress...it makes me all warm and fuzzy!

Seriously though, I'm not exactly sure how Mistress would handle someone hitting on me. I'll let Her answer that one Herself.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 6:40:04 AM

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We all look at things very differently and react in very Different ways. I have often thought what would you do if your if while at a event or play party or other if someone made the movies on your sub dom domme how would you handle it. or would you care. After all we are only human

What would I do?
Nothing.
If someone is making the moves on my partner; fuck, I take that as a compliment meaning that I chose pretty dayum well.

If my partner is encouraging the other person; again, I would do nothing. It's not my place to tell him he can or can not fuck another.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 7:16:50 AM

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I always feel rather flattered when someone hits on my Al. It validates my good taste. It's fun for him - he loves the ladies, loves to flirt, and really enjoys the attention. If a woman tried to take my Al away from me or showed any disrespect toward me, there wouldn't be any need for me to do or say anything about it. She'd immediately end up on the very short list of people he actively dislikes.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 7:22:13 AM

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Hmmm I always feel really chuffed when people point out how hot or whatever girlie or SIr is cos im like, yeah they are with me :D To be honest thats about it really, they are adults they can decide how to handle it.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 7:27:11 AM

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If someone were to hit on pet I'd watch how he would handle it. If the person was persistant or very annoying with the matter I'd see if pet could handle it if not I'd polietly tell them where their place is....then if that didn't work well then the rest wouldn't be pretty. *Bares Fangs dripping with blood.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 7:27:48 AM

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I love watching Fox get "hit on" or draw attention to himself.

Hell, I've had people in the past come over to the house just to "look at Fox" and that always thrills me.

I mean, I own him, all those others can do is flirt and look and get a bit jealous of the fact that he's mine.

It's petty but it does turn me on because I have something others don't and clearly want.

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