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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 7:31:25 AM

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It's petty but it does turn me on because I have something others don't and clearly want.

With you 100% on that one.

And if being proud that others want my kitten is wrong, I don't want to be right!

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 8:06:52 AM

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It wouldn't bother me. She's hot... I certainly couldn't blame him. She's one of those people who has never met a stranger - she can walk in a room and people are drawn to her. I see it happen any time we are out in public. I would take it as a compliment that someone else found her just as captivating as I do. While she might be submissive to me she is quite capable of taking care of herself - no need for any action on my part.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 9:15:10 AM

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The problem isn't if someone finds him attractive, the problem for me is what his reaction would be. The ex would ignore me and focus on the new person wanting to talk to him. Yes, he'd take me home at the end of the evening but he didn't want me near him during it. Now The Man is totally different, he keeps me by his side, includes me in the conversation and doesn't want to pretend I don't exist. He would be friendly because he always is, and I would still feel that I was important to him. And for me, that's the bottom line.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 9:28:19 AM

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I never look at others hitting on a man I am with as any sort of validation. Why would I need anyone to reinforce how great my partner is I? I always have been with someone hot as hell and I am hot myself so I am well used to flirting my ass off. Any guy I am with, gets used to it because they know I am only with them.

If I am someplace and a partner gets hit on at the beginning of a relationship, I just watch and see how he reacts. I have not had a problem yet, but I suppose there is always a first.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 9:51:20 AM

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The problem isn't if someone finds him attractive, the problem for me is what his reaction would be.

I'm personally thrilled for Firm to get attention from women... as others have said, it just proves my own good taste and it makes me feel good to know that I hold a place in Firm's life that no one else can have.

But like yourself, I've known men in the past who were all too eager to enjoy the limelight and even sought it out and encouraged it. They never realized until it was too late that all the time and energy they spent culling that attention left me sitting on the sideline by myself. It was too late because I don't see the point in being in a relationship by myself... and being the good ol' reliable "back-up" entertainment when there's nothing better to do has never been my life's ambition.

Life is way to short and I don't have the energy to spend on jealousy.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 10:06:51 AM

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We all look at things very differently and react in very Different ways. I have often thought what would you do if your if while at a event or play party or other if someone made the movies on your sub dom domme how would you handle it. or would you care. After all we are only human

I would care, but not in the sense of having a negative reaction to it. He is often flirted with when we go to events by both men and women (mostly men *eg*).

When the men hit on him, Alandra and I find it amusing; one man was quite obvious that he was highly attracted to our Lord. He stopped by our room to compliment him on the play from the night before and when he left he casually ran his hand over our Lord's ass. He is flattered when it happens but has no sexual interest in men; he would enjoy beating the hell out of them but not having sex with them.

When someone hits on him (or Alandra or I), we take it as a compliment. The only reason it would be a negative experience is if the person disrespected one of us in the expression of interest/attraction.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 10:14:19 AM

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My girl is flirted with on a semi-regular basis. I'm not surprised; she's beautiful. If she was offended or scared by it [both have happened before] I do what any Daddy does - I comfort her and protect her as I can. On the flip side, my girl also knows I can be a flirt, and that I'm flirted with; she's admitted to being jealous and knows her jealousy stems from the fact that she hasn't moved up here with me yet. As she puts it: "Those girls can flirt with you all they like, Daddy; but I'm the girl that's going to be in your bed every night, so they can eat their hearts out!".

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 10:19:10 AM

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if someone started hitting on him, id let it ride for a while, then smile and take him home.
guys are always trying to get at me and it drives him NUTS.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 10:32:33 AM

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My Daddy is hit on by vanilla women regularly. I am hit on too. It is not that which makes me jealous, it is the idea of a submissive in a real life setting trying to usurp my position... which would not be allowed by my Daddy. I just think it is a disrespectful thing to do. So perhaps jealous is the wrong term... perhaps disrespected would be a more appropriate term.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 10:49:16 AM

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Someone flirting with aaminah is not something that would concern me, it happens all the time. If it goes farther than that and I am present I may or may not step in it depends on the who. If I am not present then she has a specific protocol she is to follow, and I am to be informed at the earliest opportunity. At that point my issue is NOT with her, but with the other and it will be dealt with quickly and harshly.
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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 10:51:46 AM

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I'm one of those who doesn't see what the big deal is. I'm an adult, I can handle myself. Ages ago I was with someone for a short time who turned on the charm so hard for anyone that even barely flirted with him that it left me out of his evening entirely. That's the only time I've ever had an issue with it, and it was an issue with him more than an issue with other people.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 11:49:43 AM

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...I have often thought what would you do if your if while at a event or play party or other if someone made the movies on your sub dom domme how would you handle it...

it isn't this slave's place or concern to "handle" someone making "the movies" on Master. He is fully capable of handling folks Himself.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 12:26:15 PM

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all good different ways of looking at things but I guess I just respect what two people are doing a do not interefere with it

kinda of a karma thing you know

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 12:33:38 PM

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i'd sit back and keep an eye on things, if he looked to me for assistance i'd step in. i don't worry, we spend a good number of hours a week apart but i'm not worried about him in the least.
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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 12:34:30 PM

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Hopefully I would be in a relationship where
there was communication and respect for what
ever boundaries my Domina and myself decide
to have on our relationship. Then even if there
might be a tiny pang of jealousy, I would let it
go just as fast having total trust in her behavior
and actions.

Missy.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 1:06:39 PM

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Words are one thing touching is another.
I would watch and make sure they were being respectfully to my boi.
If boi looked to me for help getting away I would be there.
If boi were hitting back I'd have an issue.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 2:46:34 PM

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Elegant has the protocol down on this one. You're going to have to ask Master about that.
She'll flirt outragiously, but when the time to make the shift from flirt to intent to act comes she has always been very good about telling the person they will have to ask my permission first. Biggest problem this seems to cause though is it runs off the few she might have an actual interest in as well as the ones she wants to get rid of. LOL.

On the other hand Elegant loves laughing at me as I deal with flirtacious gay men, and often even when I am being hit upon by women.
I have noted though that as has been mentioned, what we call "bright shiney new" interest can be a hazard.

strumpet, (making a logical guess the name will be acceptable. LOL) I was wondering if you would catch that what you were feeling wasn't so much jelousy as something else. and you did.
While looking at it from my perspective I thought maybe territorial or possesive might be good words for it. Disrepected might fit just as well though.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 3:16:49 PM

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We love seeing the other flirt and be flirted with. It's one of our kinks knowing that when charlotte walks into a room decked out to the nines, that most male (and some female) eyes usually turn her way, and seeing her devotion to me.

Neither of us are the jealous type. But as mentioned, when the line from flirtation to disrespect is crossed, we usually cut the interaction short. Someone not willing to respect rules of etiquette, and not willing to learn enough about us both to really see how things work doesn't have a chance with either of us.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 3:19:14 PM

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LatexBaby:

You have to have that one determined before you go to the play party or dungeon because the energy factor can take over and anything can happpen even for the most conservative of us. Winks.

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RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on - 3/9/2008 4:14:31 PM

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To echo one of the comments above, it would very much depend exactly what was going on. Obviously, if people are unaware someone is 'attached' and it is nothing more than relatively tame attempts at flirting, I'm not going to get terribly bent out of shape about it. That is, ultimately, a fairly common and understandable occurrence; if that level of interest from someone else sets another person off, they might be better off not attending public events in any venue (I, myself, tend to avoid BDSM-related ones like the plague, but the comment would be equally applicable to any social gathering), because I will suspect it happens quite frequently.

Now, if someone is trying to make moves on someone who is my submissive after they are aware she is with me and spoken for, that could easily become another story. I'm relatively calm, if firm, the first time that happens, but I have been known to be something less than a reasonable human being for particularly egregious or repeat offenders.

On the upside, being quite unattached currently and content to remain so, this is not a problem I anticipate having to deal with again anytime soon.

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