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Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/11/2008 9:11:52 PM

letmefall

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I have a question for any dom. If you talk to your submissive on Friday, and tell her over the weekend you'll send her your address so she can come at a specific time on Monday to see you, and you don't do that... Monday comes and she hears nothing and sends an email at the time she was suppose to meet you. Asks if you are ok... she still doesn't hear anything... then 10 hours later you read her email. You reply that you thought something happened to her... YOU DID STAND HER UP huh? LOL LONG story to get to a realization that I WAS HAD.. In addition, you didnt read her CM email.. yeah i was... DAMN LOL

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/11/2008 9:17:46 PM

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Hey there...

I've been exactly where you've been. Perhaps with the same guy? Sorry, but you were stood up. He is trying to make it seem like he did nothing wrong and any mistake in communication was yours, but you know it wasn't. I went through this with one guy about 7 months ago and let him off the hook several times because I liked something about him and as stupid enough to overlook his bullshit. I don't understand it, but got tired of it. And I'm so glad I got smart b/c if I'd kept putting up with his nonsense I wouldn't be with the man I am with now.

Sorry it happened to you, though - it's never a good feeling.

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/11/2008 9:22:32 PM

letmefall

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Thank you... i knew i was right... I sent a wicked simple reply...if you want to hear about it... send me an email! LOL

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/11/2008 9:49:01 PM

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this goes beyond D/s... Integrity: if he said he was going to do something and didn't. Then you are not to blame. If he tries to blame you then what does that say about him?

Cheers
Skully

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/11/2008 9:51:51 PM

letmefall

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Thanks it got even worse but I skipped those details... he tried to blame me for bailing out. LOL

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/11/2008 10:02:18 PM

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We have had that problem a lot in our search for a submissive/slave.

You wre probably just hit by a "wannabe" and once it came down to ponying up- they ran..
Sorry it happens a lot on collarme..

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/11/2008 10:24:57 PM

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I am a submissive, but here is my take on it....perhaps he was mistaken, there was a miscommunication. It does happen.

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/11/2008 10:29:11 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: letmefall

Thank you... i knew i was right... I sent a wicked simple reply...if you want to hear about it... send me an email! LOL

Ooh! Ooh! I wana see! I wanna see!

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/11/2008 10:31:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Skully7000

this goes beyond D/s... Integrity: if he said he was going to do something and didn't. Then you are not to blame. If he tries to blame you then what does that say about him?

Cheers
Skully

Couldn't have said it better myself.
p.s. Love the hat.

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/11/2008 11:22:35 PM

SteelofUtah

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I like to play Devils Adovacate at times and I agree it is a possibility that somewhere something got crossed.

I believe that EVERYONE deserves a second chance unless thier first chance left you without doubt as to thier nature.

That being said if he is willing to meet you on your terms then I would suggest you try that.

NOW.... That all being said

I HATE being stood up.

Look I understand the cloak and dagger Bullshit I just don't play that way. I am married and my wife is involved in this lifestyle with me. If you are cheating on your wife or husband to do this for GOD SAKES Tell us!!!! It is a lot easier to understand that My wife started to catch on then it is to get all the way to the destination and wait for 3 hours in a Holliday Inn Airport Bar waiting for someone who never shows.

I have waited on more subs who agree to do something only to not show up. Before I met andi I was regularly at the whim of such flighty individuals. Sure I am sure that they are a little scared as sex is usually discussed and perhaps they have performance anxiety but you know what. Tell me you want to meet for coffee and sex on the first meet is out of the question I may Him and Haw but I will agree and I will be happy because you actually showed up.

andi and I have been looking for a live in for QUITE some time, we always offer FRIENDSHIP first, and whatever happens later, but admittedly I am a VERY Intense person it is just in my nature, I am getting sick and tired of ABSOLUTLY ZERO explanation. It makes me sick.

In the past Month there have been 3 who I was chatting with on MSN and just being playful and getting to know them. I want to know thier interests and if they will fit in and after a day or so of regular correspondence BAMMM Nothing at all and no explanation just GONE!.

I would like to say they were just wanna-be's but In one case I know that isn't true. If she got scared I just wanna know. I would appreciate closure.

Okay Rant Over.

It happens to ALL of us. Eventually you will meet one who doesn't do it or you will get used to it and complain about it on threads like this when it gets brought up every couple of months or so.

I now return you to your regularly scheduled Thread.

**Steps off the soap box and fixes his dischveled tie**

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 2:04:29 AM

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I will bring the cheese you bring the whine.

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 2:37:03 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
I am a submissive, but here is my take on it....perhaps he was mistaken, there was a miscommunication. It does happen.

Always two sides to every story and we have only heard one. Good point.

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 4:08:43 AM

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I want results not excuses. He bailed on you. Move on to the next candidate.

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 5:01:41 AM

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quote:

YOU DID STAND HER UP huh? LOL LONG story to get to a realization that I WAS HAD.. In addition, you didnt read her CM email.. yeah i was... DAMN LOL

letmefall,

I will bet you did not spend much on line time with him!

CP

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 5:04:48 AM

letmefall

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OHHHH I forgot to add this very important detail. In his email, (10 hours later) he said he'd call me the next day. NOPE didn't get a call or an email. YEP I was duped...

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 5:09:27 AM

RedHotAndSoSexy

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Well, did you really need us to validate that you were stood up? You were. Guys and girls do that all the time. People who have no character abound around here and everywhere else on the planet.

You never have to ask if something bad happened to you; you already know. It sucks, but it happens to everyone.

Oh, and I don't need to hear his side of the story, I tend to believe you.

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 5:11:20 AM

letmefall

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I was introduced online to him by a friend. And yes we spent a bit of time online. We met for lunch at first...Assumed I took the proper channels. It's not going to kill my life. Scum always floats to the top eventually. It was him who missed out! LOL

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 5:58:15 AM

Aileen1968

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Perhaps he made a good decision. One can only wonder how emotional you'd get if you were in a relationship if this is how strongly you react to someone you've never met. Big deal. Move on.

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 6:01:45 AM

Jeffff

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Imagine, thoughtless people, and in the LIFESTYLE?

I am stunned

Jeff

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 6:21:06 AM

Dnomyar

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I want to know why you did'nt call the police and file a missing person report. Why did you even write back to him. Was your finger broken so you could'nt use the ignore button. Aileen Im trying to move on but your pic keeps popping up.

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