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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 6:22:41 AM

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WHere did it say I never met him???? I said we had lunch and yes were together as D/s more than once. We were forming quite a bond. So you are mistaken.

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 6:24:42 AM

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YES Imagine that! LOL

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 6:25:31 AM

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Let me get this right. You were forming quiet a bond. But he is ignoreing you. What were you useing to bond with bubble gum.

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 6:27:16 AM

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In all fairness to Aileen, she may not have read your whole post. lol

This is one of the more popular posts. " Why do Dom's run and hide"...
along with " Why do subs run and hide" and " How can I tell a real Dom from a wanna be"

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 6:32:13 AM

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I thought we were forming a bond. I am an ass- but a very good hearted woman. I made a mistake. I am moving on... Nothing was really hurt but my ego...

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 6:38:46 AM

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Aileen, you misunderstood... it's ok.. no harm...

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 7:29:36 AM

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quote:

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I believe that EVERYONE deserves a second chance unless thier first chance left you without doubt as to thier nature.

Unless they are lying?

Personally in regards to the OP maybe there were some crossed wires maybe not, but if he just wanted to stand you up then why did he bother saying anything? I guess it depends on the excuse etc but I cant abide by people standing me up and I spect if this happened to me id very inpolitely tell him where to go.

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 8:04:03 AM

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but if he just wanted to stand you up then why did he bother saying anything? I guess it depends on the excuse etc but I cant abide by people standing me up and I spect if this happened to me id very inpolitely tell him where to go.

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Well there's a bit more... He never even looked at my CM letters. AnD emailed back a friend but not me.... read her emails and skipped mine. SO I am done. I sent him a lovely note back... Said:
, It's ok... Life goes on... So do I...

CAN YOU SAY "NEXT"????? I will find what i am looking for or DIE trying! My ego may get bruised and my heart bruised with it but I KNOW i'll get what i want...

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 8:31:17 AM

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can I ask how long you were with him for? had you been meeting frequantly?

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 8:32:28 AM

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quote:

Well there's a bit more... He never even looked at my CM letters. AnD emailed back a friend but not me.... read her emails and skipped mine. SO I am done. I sent him a lovely note back... Said:
, It's ok... Life goes on... So do I...

CAN YOU SAY "NEXT"????? I will find what i am looking for or DIE trying! My ego may get bruised and my heart bruised with it but I KNOW i'll get what i want...

You know, when people have acted like that, I tend to think they are not interested in me anymore for whatever reason and I wish them well and move on. I do not look for the reasons as to why this has occurred, I do not ask them to explain themselves... I just figure that they were not the one for me. I suppose I do not think there is any need for any sort of explanation unless there is a real relationship there, and even then I take that explanation with a grain of salt.

People have a hard time rejecting others, especially if that person they are rejecting is someone they think is nice, but just doesn't do it for them. It may not be very "domly" to take a powder like that, and waste your time like that (by setting up tentative plans and not following through without letting you know he lost interest), but there are worse crimes in this world.

I kinda agree with some of the commentary here, you seem to be reacting too much for the amount of time you have spent with this person. I remember when my Daddy and I first were emailing there was a woman that he had lunch with shortly before he had contacted me. He gave her a small kiss goodbye and left the lunch. He had communicated as a friend online for a while, wished to keep her as a friend, but she flipped out when he did not return her feelings. She attempted to force a confrontation. She ended up with no friendship at all. He just thought her to border on a stalker.

Now you had a few nice meals with a person that you enjoyed yourself with. It did not work out, but you still had a few enjoyable moments... why would that hurt your ego? 99% of men out there are not someone I would ever want to be involved with, why should I be hurt because men have the same standards that they apply? Why should you allow what one man wants or doesn't want to impact your self esteem? It shouldn't

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 8:43:19 AM

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This is yet another situation for Formula 65.

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 8:46:16 AM

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LOL i am fine and over it we had been meeting regularly for D/s sexual things and i see he has moved on and I am doing the same. I am fine... and will be fine and It won't matter a hill of beans in a week or so...

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 2:00:23 PM

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Gosh...I don't know what to say.
I understand how you feel, honestly.
If I had been meeting someone fairly regularly and they all of a sudden stood me up I'd want to know why, too.
That was a funny note you sent him...maybe he'll realize that that isn't any way to treat people.
Probably not though. Jerks usually stay that way.

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 2:16:13 PM

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Well, gee! No one's taking the guy's side! *hmphs*

Y'know, he might have done it and watched from a distance to get off on her humiliation...

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 2:23:12 PM

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Well, gee! No one's taking the guy's side! *hmphs*

Y'know, he might have done it and watched from a distance to get off on her humiliation...

eh, I think he just grew bored.

everytime I got on this thread the whole "Hey won't you sing another somebody done somebody wrong song" song run through my head. But it seems that she vented and purged so I wish her well.

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 2:33:33 PM

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It was probably the capslock problem and the exclamation points....

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 2:55:52 PM

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hmmm, there is logic in what you say...

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 3:41:00 PM

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Does it really matter now? It is over and you will both move on to other things.

Yes, if this is in fact what he did he has no style at all, but why should you care less now.

The trust is GONE and so is the relationship. Find someone that suits you better and stop complaining about something you can't change

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 6:51:20 PM

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No it doesn't at all. I am fine. I moved on. I quite intelligent and can handle disappointment. I don't like the cowardly way out. I would have at least said I don't think this is working. But then again I am a mature adult...

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RE: Was I ignored and stood up??? - 3/12/2008 7:02:38 PM

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Wow someone needs to take some anti drama pills.

You get to make mistakes, but he's a coward? Enjoy the next velcro collar.

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