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Part-Time Master? - 3/14/2008 4:04:27 PM

Maestro66babycak

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First of all , I only want answers from Masters or Doms or Domme's. If you are a submissive or a slave or a switch, it is not your opinion that I seek ,so please do not post one. I am not trying to be disrespectful to anyone.

The background is this : After 4 years of seeing her Master everyday , suddenly the Master has told her that she is only a part time sub/slave and has cut back her time with him to 3 days a week. He claims that he is not seeking a full time sub/slave but has been known to play with other sub/slaves unbeknownst and beknownst to the original fulltime(now parttime) sub/slave.

The question is this: If the Dominant person in the relationship tells the submissive person in the relationship that she/he is only a part time slave/sub, does it mean that the Master/Dom/Domme is only a part time owner of said slave/sub? Or does that Master/Dom/Domme retain full ownership of said property?

Would the slave/sub be expected/allowed to find another Master/Dom/Domme for the time spent away from the original owner? Would the said property be obligated to obey th original owner on the days she/he was away?

property= sub/slave

Thank you for considering this query and I very much am looking forward to reading the answers.

Respectfully submitted,
babycakes

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RE: Part-Time Master? - 3/14/2008 4:09:28 PM

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I think that's between you two.. but if I were only able to devote a portion of my time to someone, I don't think it would be fair of me to say that I still own the other portion...

that said, its difficult to serve two, in my opinion...

and ultimately, why don't you two work this out? ask him...

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RE: Part-Time Master? - 3/14/2008 4:17:43 PM

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Well, in short a Dom would retain full property unless otherwise stated... dont assume anything.

Um... that is not even enough time for a good fuck... if you want more kick him to the curb and find something more compatible that will satisfy long term. Words like what he said are kind of like ... yeah you were looking for something good and wasted your time kind of thing. If someone pulls that kind of bullshit how can you trust them later on.. what like five years after living together were just roomies with option???? WTF.

Nothing exists until negotiated.... nothing changes unless negotiated any other than that is a kick to the curb.

Never settle.

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RE: Part-Time Master? - 3/14/2008 4:19:19 PM

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I would ask him to approve your other part time master. Why may end up working into full time-if the benefit package is good.

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RE: Part-Time Master? - 3/14/2008 4:22:40 PM

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Completely depends on what the people in the relationship decide.

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RE: Part-Time Master? - 3/14/2008 4:24:53 PM

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Completely depends on what the people in the relationship decide.

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RE: Part-Time Master? - 3/14/2008 4:25:32 PM

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I think its time to move on.....

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RE: Part-Time Master? - 3/14/2008 4:40:14 PM

Maestro66babycak

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Leatherist

I would ask him to approve your other part time master. Why may end up working into full time-if the benefit package is good.

Thank you for your answer to my question Sir...I very much appreciate your taking the time to come up with a sensible solution.

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RE: Part-Time Master? - 3/14/2008 4:43:13 PM

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You are correct ,that is NOT enough time for a good fuck. I very much appreciate the rest of what you said as well.Thank you.

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RE: Part-Time Master? - 3/14/2008 4:47:02 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Madame4a

I think that's between you two.. but if I were only able to devote a portion of my time to someone, I don't think it would be fair of me to say that I still own the other portion...

that said, its difficult to serve two, in my opinion...

and ultimately, why don't you two work this out? ask him...

I thank you Ma'am for your candid response to my private email. I appreciate your opinion.

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RE: Part-Time Master? - 3/14/2008 6:48:12 PM

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If I told my malesub that he was a part time sub, then I would figure that I was his part time Domme. However to my way of thinking "part time" is a hard way to go with a relationship, particularly of this kind. I guess you have to ask yourself if this is what you want for yourself and will it fulfill your needs/wants/desires. If it won't then perhaps its best to tell him this so you can start seeking a full time Dominant.

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RE: Part-Time Master? - 3/14/2008 6:51:25 PM

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quote:

The question is this: If the Dominant person in the relationship tells the submissive person in the relationship that she/he is only a part time slave/sub, does it mean that the Master/Dom/Domme is only a part time owner of said slave/sub? Or does that Master/Dom/Domme retain full ownership of said property?

Would the slave/sub be expected/allowed to find another Master/Dom/Domme for the time spent away from the original owner? Would the said property be obligated to obey th original owner on the days she/he was away?

babycakes,

It has been along ti, so your optionds are limited, me since I have seen this problem expressed that way you have.

In my opinion, your relationship is on a downhill slide as he will gradually fill more and lore time with other then you.

You impy slavehood so your options are limited as hell unless something was discussed ahead of time. I would suggest that you ask for release now so as to not waste more of your life.

my opinion !

CP

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RE: Part-Time Master? - 3/14/2008 7:20:03 PM

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Eureka! I've got the perfect solution to your dilemma, babycakes! All you have to do is.....oops....wait a minute.....my opinion can't possibly be the solution you seek as I am not a dominant. Oh well, good luck. Maybe one of them will be able to hit upon it sooner or later. If only I could answer

luci

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RE: Part-Time Master? - 3/14/2008 7:39:27 PM

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babycakes,

I have a few positions to take however I am not the Master and because of this only His beliefs will matter BUT I do have a few things of interest for you.

The first of which is that the Master ALTERED the Negotiated relationship and due to this the original agreement is Null n Void. The collar should have been pulled that very second because the girl in question NEVER agreed to be a PART-TIME slave. If the girl does not agree to being one then the Master has in fact released the girl because he broke the original commitment. The fact that he was playing with other slaves that the slave in question did not know about brings questions of STD's and Cleanliness to my mind and thuss the Master in question brough the SERIOUS THREAT of HARM to the girl unbeknownst to her and that is reckless and unacceptable. But that is to me, and as I said if the Master in question feels differently and the girl in question agreed to his way of thinking then none of what I said would really apply.

Other than that I have a simple question of what is the point in a Part Time Master in the first place? How can one surrender as a slave must to TWO masters? What happens when both want to see the girl on Wednesday at 3:00 PM? Why gets the Time slot? And if a slave is forced to budget her time like that well then she should start taking reservations but last I heard they called those Prostitutes and even then all the Hoe's I know still have a Pimp and what he says goes...... Please don't mistake my words for disrespect they aren't, what they are is a reflection of the reality of serving Two Masters and having to decide which one is more important. If you can determine one is more important than the other then how is the other even able to be called YOUR MASTER?

I believe that if he is not interested in you in a full time setting that you should ask release and search something that will fill in full time, but untill you do, if this Master is really good then you can play with him when YOU have time if he is still interested.

Changing the relationship changes the Agreement.

That is my belief.

As Always

Steel

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RE: Part-Time Master? - 3/14/2008 7:57:41 PM

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What an awful situation for you babycakes. After 4 years (quite a long time for anyone!), you suddenly don't know if your one thing or another.

I'm in agreement with Steel and CP. Your master has changed the relationship dramatically. It's strange and very unfair that he hasn't given you any direction on why, or how you should deal with this new situation.

Is there some reason for this change that you can think of? Is he having difficulties in his life/health/family/work? They could affect his wanting to be with you.

It would completely bother me that he has played with others, without your knowledge, in the past. If you are his slave and that was a thing you agreed to, he had no reason to keep it secret from you. It just sends a little flag up in my mind that he is dishonest, so he could be being dishonest about what he's doing now.

The relationship has had a major alteration, so I personally don't feel that you owe this person anything. I realise that after 4 years it would be very difficult to break away, but it is something you need to at least start thinking about. I don't think many of us (D or s) could go from daily to a few times a week, not after 4 years. It almost sounds like he doesn't really want you, but he doesn't want anyone else to have you, either. That isn't fair.

Use your gut instinct and understand that you HAVE the right to get some answers.

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RE: Part-Time Master? - 3/14/2008 8:00:47 PM

Maestro66babycak

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Thank you.

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RE: Part-Time Master? - 3/14/2008 8:03:39 PM

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

What an awful situation for you babycakes. After 4 years (quite a long time for anyone!), you suddenly don't know if your one thing or another.

I'm in agreement with Steel and CP. Your master has changed the relationship dramatically. It's strange and very unfair that he hasn't given you any direction on why, or how you should deal with this new situation.

Is there some reason for this change that you can think of? Is he having difficulties in his life/health/family/work? They could affect his wanting to be with you.

It would completely bother me that he has played with others, without your knowledge, in the past. If you are his slave and that was a thing you agreed to, he had no reason to keep it secret from you. It just sends a little flag up in my mind that he is dishonest, so he could be being dishonest about what he's doing now.

The relationship has had a major alteration, so I personally don't feel that you owe this person anything. I realize that after 4 years it would be very difficult to break away, but it is something you need to at least start thinking about. I don't think many of us (D or s) could go from daily to a few times a week, not after 4 years. It almost sounds like he doesn't really want you, but he doesn't want anyone else to have you, either. That isn't fair.

Use your gut instinct and understand that you HAVE the right to get some answers.

Thank you Ma'am I appreciate your opinion greatly.

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RE: Part-Time Master? - 3/14/2008 8:05:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

Eureka! I've got the perfect solution to your dilemma, babycakes! All you have to do is.....oops....wait a minute.....my opinion can't possibly be the solution you seek as I am not a dominant. Oh well, good luck. Maybe one of them will be able to hit upon it sooner or later. If only I could answer

luci

I deeply apologize luci...it was not my intention to offend.

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RE: Part-Time Master? - 3/14/2008 8:06:18 PM

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RE: Part-Time Master? - 3/14/2008 8:08:06 PM

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Well I guess if he was Blind he might not know you weren't really there.

**Just shakes head**

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