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faerytattoodgirl -> RE: If you had a one night stand with someone and they disappeared for months after... (3/19/2008 8:07:35 PM)
quote: stay away from Faerie. She is MINE. yay!

xxblushesxx -> RE: If you had a one night stand with someone and they disappeared for months after... (3/19/2008 8:09:10 PM)
Blushes has always loved the Faerie. Period.

CalifChick -> RE: If you had a one night stand with someone and they disappeared for months after... (3/19/2008 8:09:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus If you want to be FRIENDS with this person, let him know that there will be NO SEX. Not even a blowjob (sorry, Cali!). See if he sticks around. My reputation precedes me. In this case, I would not recommend a blowjob. Okay, well, I might tell him to go suck himself, that counts. Doll, you need to turn off the computer and get out in the real world and make some face to face friends. Whatever you like to do, find a group that does it. You like books? Find out if there is a book group at the library. Like crafts? Ask at the craft/fabric store if there is a social group. Go out and find people. Cali

Lynnxz -> RE: If you had a one night stand with someone and they disappeared for months after... (3/19/2008 8:12:10 PM)
This guy is a tool. End of story. Go to Waffle House and sit at the bar imo. .. haha you may not meet your best friend there, but the one near here never _ever_ fails to deliver entertainment. I mean seriously... where else can you find a drunken dwarf dancing on the bar?

defiantbadgirl -> RE: If you had a one night stand with someone and they disappeared for months after... (3/19/2008 8:32:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dollparts85 He said he wanted to be my boyfriend...and stuff...that I was exactly what he was looking for...etc... Some people will tell you anything you want to hear just so they can get off. In some cases it's sex. In other cases, it can be bondage and sexual touching. Some will even tell you they are looking for "friends first" when what they really want is friends with benefits. It's really sad that so many lie about their intentions when it's so unnecessary to do so. If they were just honest, they could find someone looking for the same thing they are. I think of such people as abusers because instead of being honest and seeking a like minded partner, they get off on inflicting non-consentual emotional abuse.

Lashra -> RE: If you had a one night stand with someone and they disappeared for months after... (3/19/2008 9:02:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dollparts85 He said he wanted to be my boyfriend...and stuff...that I was exactly what he was looking for...etc... Yes your boyfriend for a night of sex. Honestly don't you think if he was interested in you he would have kept in contact? I mean how much time does it take to send a IM or an email, or hell a txt message? Not much at all. If you want to see if he is really sincere go on a date with him and don't have sex. See if you hear from him again wanting to be your boyfriend. ~Lashra

DiurnalVampire -> RE: If you had a one night stand with someone and they disappeared for months after... (3/19/2008 9:12:56 PM)
If it took him 4 weeks to get back to you the first time, and then anotehr few months for a second, why do you think he wants to build something real? This does sound like someone keeping you on a string, tugging on it when he is wanting some, then letting you on your own until he has an urge again knowing you wil be there hanging on the possibility he wants more. Before you start looking for someone to be a significant other, you have to make friends first. No sex, just friends. Try female friends, maybe, so the possiblity of sex is lowered. Get out of the house, join a group, a club, find a hobby, take a class... Being at home with parents all the time can make you crazy. Been there done that. I also spent al my time at home with my now exhusband when I first moved in with him. I didnt know anyone, and it was hard. I got a job, made friends and got out. It gets easier once you get out. Usually you wonder why you stayed in so long. DV

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: If you had a one night stand with someone and they disappeared for months after... (3/19/2008 9:19:16 PM)
Your desperation is extremely apparent, and this "putz"is fully aware of it as well..and I cannot understand why you are tempted by this "putz" when you were not even that enamored of the sex!..I mean, if it were really a great one night of sex, then I could understand the "indecision" on your part...but otherwise I am puzzled by this unsurety that you display...are you so "desperate" that anyone will do?....Tempting

marieToo -> RE: If you had a one night stand with someone and they disappeared for months after... (3/19/2008 9:52:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dollparts85 yeah :( but why is he IMing me again then? I mean, it's not even like the sex was good...or well, maybe it was for him? [&:] Personally I wouldn't mind being used for a piece of ass, but the guy better at least be a decent fuck.

MasterWilliam55 -> RE: If you had a one night stand with someone and they disappeared for months after... (3/19/2008 10:00:22 PM)
Correct me if I'm wrong...Isn't that the whole idea behind a one-night-stand. I think your supposed to disappear.

sirsholly -> RE: If you had a one night stand with someone and they disappeared for months after... (3/20/2008 3:37:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick Doll, you need to turn off the computer and get out in the real world and make some face to face friends. Whatever you like to do, find a group that does it. You like books? Find out if there is a book group at the library. Like crafts? Ask at the craft/fabric store if there is a social group. Go out and find people. Cali Doll...please read what Cali wrote, then read it again. Then do your best to follow her advice.

colouredin -> RE: If you had a one night stand with someone and they disappeared for months after... (3/20/2008 4:12:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dollparts85 it would be nice to have a real life friend though...someone to spend time with...besides my parents... Well if you wanted a friend you shouldnt have slept with him the first time you met him, to be fair he doesnt sound like the type of person I would want to be friends with anyways. I realise that if you get yourself to a state where you dont feel you have any friends its hard to make them, but as cali said join a group that interests you out there in the real world, dont expect everyone to be your best mate, I have lots of aquaintainces for differant things, one is great to go shopping with, one to the pub, one for a gossip etc etc. You dont have to sleep with people the first time you have met them to get them to like you. He sounds like an idiot to be fair but you shouldnt get pulled in to the lies either, just say "thankyou for the nice evening we had but I dont really want to repeat it" becuase why would you. Stop being so down on yourself and so gullible, the more that you play the victim or feel like the victim the more you will be the victim, you need to toughen up and get a bit real. You know that this bloke is an idiot you didnt really need the advice, you dont need someone to help you through everything, all that does is reinforces in you the idea that you are unable to do things yourself. I know sometimes its hard to find the motivation when you have things going on and you arent happy, but you need to tell yourself to make a differance to your own life, that you dont deserve to sit around analysing every lump and bump, getting involved with silly men and believing that is all you are going to get. Come on girl!

RCdc -> RE: If you had a one night stand with someone and they disappeared for months after... (3/20/2008 5:09:09 AM)
If I thought for a moment that you would take on board anything that I or anyone else here advised, I would drop in my £1.50 without hesitation. However you constantly show no ability to utilise the advice people give. I don't reply to your posts usually, but I am posting this because although I know that I sound harsh, but I am not into hand holding and I believe you need to take a step back and stop with the whole 'poor me' posting and use your common sense because I am absolutely positive you have it but are wallowing in the attention (including my negative). I mean this sincerely and without malice. But you really do need a kick up the backside. the.dark.

LaTigresse -> RE: If you had a one night stand with someone and they disappeared for months after... (3/20/2008 6:41:14 AM)
What Dark said.....

kittinSol -> RE: If you had a one night stand with someone and they disappeared for months after... (3/20/2008 6:49:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark But you really do need a kick up the backside. Please Miss, can I have a smack instead?

SassySarijane -> RE: If you had a one night stand with someone and they disappeared for months after... (3/20/2008 6:51:34 AM)
I've got to weigh in with Dark and LaT. It's what I've been thinking and why I've only replied one other time to you.

xxblushesxx -> RE: If you had a one night stand with someone and they disappeared for months after... (3/20/2008 6:52:05 AM)
Blushes luvs me!!!! nods

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: If you had a one night stand with someone and they disappeared for months after... (3/20/2008 7:23:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 Ummm...there's a reason why it's called a "one night stand" yep - he gave you the "wham bam thank ya ma'am" special. he got what he wanted from you - did you?

KatyLied -> RE: If you had a one night stand with someone and they disappeared for months after... (3/20/2008 8:30:16 AM)
To the OP: If you want friendships why don't you work on making some? Scope out other submissives and get to know them. Meet them for dinner. You may be surprised at what transpires. It is possible. Oh, and don't expect a lasting relationship out a one night stand, that rarely happens. Regardless of what the guy tells you.

domiguy -> RE: If you had a one night stand with someone and they disappeared for months after... (3/20/2008 3:44:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dollparts85 quote: ORIGINAL: YourDomNow *Any girl friends to spend some time with as well?....always good to have a circle of friends to be around, talk, listen and things...* No...I only have my parents...and they are not very supportive...make me feel worse most of the time, actually. Maybe if you attempted a threesome with the folks they might be more supportive...Chances are they might still be there in the morning. Wouldn't it be a hoot after boning the folks that you woke up to find that the house had been sold and all of their meaningful possessions had been removed? I really think the people out here have been rather harsh....I'm sure your guy was just overwhelmed by all of the emotions he was feeling and just needed some down time to sort them all out. After all, the guy said that you were what he was looking for and he wanted the two of you to become as one...It's kinda touching really. So when he calls back and wants to get back together you should be happy. The guy really loves you and cares...If he never contacts you again it just means that he was scared. Some people just don't feel that they deserve to be truly happy...So they run from it... So don't fret, there are other fish in the sea. If some 'guy contacts you and says that you are special and you are what he has been looking for all of his life, I hope this horrible experience will not stop you from gettin' busy....You are special...And you have mail.

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