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RE: Is love needful for happiness? - 3/21/2008 9:56:48 PM

Kalista07

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Leatherist,
I hate when i read thread's that make me think this much...... As sad, and as sick, as this is going to sound i'm not sure if i even know what love is. Don't get me wrong, i love lots of people.....But, i don't know if i'm actually IN love with anyone. Seems odd for me to be saying that. i will admit, that since we are currently sharing a computer i recently was accidentally looking through some things and discovered a conversation He had with one of His previous subs/slaves who was a LDR. He had said He loved her. Initially i was hurt and angry. But, then reality hit me in the face (why does it never hit me on the ass?? ) and it occured to me.....He's here with me everyday...... He takes out the trash for me everyweek....He emptys my cat's litter box twice a week.....He rubs my back when it hurts....He carries my laundry down the stairs when i am sick??!! WTF do i care if He actually said He loved her to her for?! Fuck, He's shown me much more than one little word could ever do....
But, damn it.....i know i had a point when i started this...
Kali

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RE: Is love needful for happiness? - 3/22/2008 5:53:11 AM

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i went a very long time without love. i told myself it wasn't necessary and certainly i had fun and fulfillment in D/s relationships without love being part of it. i was happy. i had the love of my family and that's all i needed.

At some point i realized that i was telling myself that because i felt i had to accept being unlovable as being fact. i realized that by supressing the emotion of love i was not in fact giving all of myself and yet i stubbornly refused to give that which would not be returned in kind. i could submit but not surrender because dammit if my partner could not love me, i would not love. i went many years like that and had convinced myself that i was perfectly happy and for the most part, i was. So is love necessary? Nope!!

But once i felt the urge to just let go, surrender completely, i discovered a depth that i had forgotten even existed. Once i allowed myself to feel love on a romantic level i discovered an emotion that was almost like a drug, something akin to those endorphins everyone talks about. Now that i've rediscovered this amazing feeling, i don't want to ever lose it again.

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RE: Is love needful for happiness? - 3/22/2008 6:33:33 AM

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compromise why give in take why I couples that do not have to they put each other first. maybe it is this media bs world we live in. saying what is normal what is not. I think it should be what is right to be stable not what is right to be prozac commited. unstable people bring unstable partners and unstable friends. it fuels drama and a lot of times we do not know it till it is too late

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