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RE: in consideration..... - 3/22/2008 3:18:41 PM

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ORIGINAL: atendersoul
what is proper when a Master ask for someone to be in consideration?

The correct time is when a Master deems to be correct.

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after talking a few times with some Masters here....they demand that i post on my profile that i am in consideration....

From this quote, it doesn't appear that you have met anyone worth of the title yet.

Any Joe-Wanna-Be can demand, but it doesn't make him a Master.

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/22/2008 3:21:47 PM

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/22/2008 3:44:07 PM

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First thing you gotta do is stop thinking of them as "the Masters" and realize that they're just men, sitting at their computers in their underwear and dirty socks. Except when they're adolescent boys sitting at the computer in their underwear and dirty socks. Sometimes it's hard to tell.....

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/22/2008 3:46:54 PM

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First thing you gotta do is stop thinking of them as "the Masters" and realize that they're just men, sitting at their computers in their underwear and dirty socks. Except when they're adolescent boys sitting at the computer in their underwear and dirty socks. Sometimes it's hard to tell.....

My socks are NOT dirty.......

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/22/2008 3:48:48 PM

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First thing you gotta do is stop thinking of them as "the Masters" and realize that they're just men, sitting at their computers in their underwear and dirty socks. Except when they're adolescent boys sitting at the computer in their underwear and dirty socks. Sometimes it's hard to tell.....

My socks are NOT dirty.......

And your underwear? Assuming you're wearing some?

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/22/2008 3:53:48 PM

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First thing you gotta do is stop thinking of them as "the Masters" and realize that they're just men, sitting at their computers in their underwear and dirty socks. Except when they're adolescent boys sitting at the computer in their underwear and dirty socks. Sometimes it's hard to tell.....

My socks are NOT dirty.......

And your underwear? Assuming you're wearing some?

Assumptions can be tricky.........

My drawers are clean.

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/22/2008 3:53:51 PM

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*scratches his chin*

This leaves me a tad confuzzled. Why would the Dom/me ask a submissive to consider a collar? Could be me or just my personal experience, but it does seem the opposite is far, far more likely. The only time I've ever "offered" a consideration was when a friend who was being trolled by a loser wanted to lie in their profile and say they were under consideration. I shrugged and told them, "Use me as a reference. I eat trolls for breakfast." Worked, too - she's much happier now and has since found herself a Dom who has collared her.

Then again...I would prefer the submissive to know she wants me, and that she has the desire to stick it out and earn my collar - which is a rare event.

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/22/2008 4:00:36 PM

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Assumptions can be tricky.........

My drawers are clean.

Guess I should get all those "commando" visions out of my head, then.

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/22/2008 4:21:17 PM

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Assumptions can be tricky.........

My drawers are clean.

Guess I should get all those "commando" visions out of my head, then.

*types out this post sans underwear*

Yes, my compassion runs deep.

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/22/2008 5:44:17 PM

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Ahhh, sweet dreams are made of this......

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/22/2008 8:37:42 PM

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First thing you gotta do is stop thinking of them as "the Masters" and realize that they're just men, sitting at their computers in their underwear and dirty socks. Except when they're adolescent boys sitting at the computer in their underwear and dirty socks. Sometimes it's hard to tell.....

My socks are NOT dirty.......

And your underwear? Assuming you're wearing some?

Assumptions can be tricky.........

My drawers are clean. <-----------------This worries me,that picture almost looks as if you are smelling your underwear to see if clean?..sweet man, step away from the computer and change your undies (just in case)..~wink~..Tempting

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/22/2008 8:40:22 PM

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For me consideration is when both of us agree that we are planing to move this towards RT and are not engaging in conversation with others. In other words we both want to move forward and are not activly considering others.

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/22/2008 9:43:55 PM

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First thing you gotta do is stop thinking of them as "the Masters" and realize that they're just men, sitting at their computers in their underwear and dirty socks. Except when they're adolescent boys sitting at the computer in their underwear and dirty socks. Sometimes it's hard to tell.....

My underoos were recently laundered by my mom, thank you very much! Ooh, gotta go. I think it's a "Hannah Montana" I haven't seen.

Oh, and by the way, I'm uR MaStEr. Stop talking 2 othrz. I've been a Master since I was 7. And I'm 9 now!

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/22/2008 10:22:19 PM

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It's just so easy to make demands when online....without meeting....without trust....just because.

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/22/2008 11:14:58 PM

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He probably wants you to post that so that other doms will stay away, while you're busy talking with only him.

I think there's really nothing wrong with putting someone in your profile when the time feels right etc, but on the other hand it can also seem rather pointless and adolescent, like some kind of proclamation to the 'community' that you're real and he is real etc..

My last one had me put his name in my profile with a very humiliating line that basically said in so many words that I wanted to belong to him and was crawling for the opportunity. We were involved realtime, but like your guy, he wanted me to put his name in my profile before we had even met, and I was dead-set against it. It turned into a big argument between us and I acquiesed to what he wanted pretty quickly.  I don't exactly regret that decision, but in retrospect, it's kind of a stupid thing to have an issue over.

At any rate, he got his way, and I never did become his, and a few months later along came the next girl hoping to become his owned slave, with the profile to back it up. lol.  It's all very cyber-ish and high-school-ish, and I'm a little bit embarassed to have gone that route, but oh well, live and learn.

My advice: Wait until it feels right to you, before you start publically vowing your devotion and desires for some guy who really hasn't shown any mutuality yet. Once you proclaim something outloud, or to him, or to yourself, and/or in your profile, it starts to become your truth, and your emotional investment begins. In the meantime all it is to him is an ego trip at your expense until he figures out whether he wants you or the next chick, or the chick after her, etc.

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/22/2008 11:17:10 PM

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It's a load of bollocks until they can claim you in real life-they just fear someone better will come along while they drag thier asses.

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/22/2008 11:24:52 PM

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If I were not considering them, or better put, a relationship with them, I would not state it.

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/22/2008 11:57:59 PM

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It's a load of bollocks until they can claim you in real life-they just fear someone better will come along while they drag thier asses.

In many cases yes, in other cases no. I had "Under Consideration" in my profile (different site) while my Master talked to and worked with me daily, but I was too skittish to commit (I was the ass dragger in our situation, ha). In my case it was a way to at least make a statement that I was serious about moving forward with him. Everyone wants to diss on the dominants; let's not forget the submissives who are good at professing all the right things but do nothing to back their words up. There is dishonesty on both sides. I have known cases where a Master made a simple request (sometimes recognition in a profile, sometimes a photo, sometimes something else) of a potential slave, to gauge her seriousness. A balking submissive tells the dominant the he/she is either not serious or not ready.

I fully agree with the importance of it feeling right, and that doing something like this within hours or days is a bit fast.

Oh and I hadn't met my Master in person yet when I committed myself to the process and stopped talking to others. Yeah, we've been "playing" each other for four years now, lol.

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/23/2008 3:22:44 AM

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Greetings atendersoul,

Having read your profile you have a talent for painting a picture with words, and so the question mystique would ask you, in what sort of chat room did you find these so called "Masters" who tell a lady to change their profile after a few moments? It is not as if you have just arrived on Collarme and could be considered "freshmeat". Others have suggested block and/or ignore and I would totally agree!

Maybe you need to remove yourself from the emotional and think about the intellectual aspects and find the balance.

Collar of considerations may exist online but really, real time, what do they mean? If you are happy with an online regime, then tuffen up ... or else your going to be in for a bumpy ride. Do you want a ride to the nearest stop sign or are you looking for something that is meaningful and real? Thinks a vanilla person may say something like "interested but no promises?", so apply that principal to being removed from the marketplace, and what do you get, maybe isolation and online use? Is that what you really want?

Maybe take an internet holiday ... you have the power as you have obviously not consented to any power exchange nor has any steel been placed around your neck.

I hope you work it through soon.

Happy Easter and new beginnings,

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/23/2008 4:33:03 AM

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Most newbies are dying to be considered desireable and in some form of relationship, so they'll leap at any opportunity to express it to the world and feel like they belong.

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But most people use it to mean "He's still shopping around, but keeping me in his basket so I won't be tempted by something better."

You do go straight to the nub of the matter LA don't you! Now if we were all like you, threads would be a lot shorter (and the saved hot air would cure global warming).

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