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RE: in consideration..... - 3/23/2008 4:36:31 AM   
Sundowner


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ORIGINAL: windchymes

First thing you gotta do is stop thinking of them as "the Masters" and realize that they're just men, sitting at their computers in their underwear and dirty socks.  Except when they're adolescent boys sitting at the computer in their underwear and dirty socks.  Sometimes it's hard to tell.....


Oh windchymes! Why did you have to go and spoil it all for us doms? You're no fun <sulks>

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/23/2008 4:50:23 AM   
MissIsis


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Status: offline 		Why not tell him if he is a "true" Dominant worthy of your consideration, he would set the example by putting in his profile that you are in the process of considering each other?  He probably won't, because that would let other women know he is involved with someone, & that would spoil all the fun he can have leading you & other submissive women away from the pool where other dominants like to play.  

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/23/2008 4:50:50 AM   
mastervalentine


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ORIGINAL: atendersoul

after talking a few times with some Masters here....they demand that i post on my profile that i am in consideration....
i find this impossible to do with just a couple of emails exchanged and will not do this. By this action, have been told that i am not true....
what is proper when a Master ask for someone to be in consideration?
thank You for Your time....


As one who calls himself Master, I'd like to begin by saying; "Just because I prefer the title of Master, it does not mean I am your Master." One can not simply demand that you submit and expect any real result other than perhaps a less than dignified gesture in return. Those that do expect you to obey them from the start are deluded, and perhaps dangerous. 

As for the measure of a proper time, or manner, it's subjective. You'll know when you're ready to take a relationship in that direction, and more importantly, when you're approached "the right way" I'm pretty sure you'll know it, too.

You've done one thing very well so far. You've been true to yourself. Hold to that, and it will be a much more difficult task for someone to lead you astray.

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/23/2008 4:53:00 AM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		Then there's my Master and i.... we're both so darned superstitious that we didn't want to mention anything about each other in our profiles until he actually collared me.  And of course that didn't take place on line, we spent real in-person time together. 

i'm the kind of person who needs to use all my senses in order to feel a connection and i could never feel a real connection until after the face-to-face meeting.

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/23/2008 4:55:49 AM   
Sundowner


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ORIGINAL: happypervert

You need a protector. Send me a picture of your titties, and I will protect you from those big bad men until you are really ready for consideration. 


What he said.  (But doncha think two protectors would be good? And ignore windchymes' post - she posted it in the wrong thread)

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/23/2008 4:57:51 AM   
colouredin


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RE: in consideration..... - 3/23/2008 5:03:16 AM   
mastervalentine


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Status: offline 		Boy, maybe I should've jumped on that bandwagon...

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/23/2008 5:22:01 AM   
BrigandDoom


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Status: offline 		Interest threads so far, especially as I've just had some non-descript prat claiming to be a Master whining at me because "i'm not respecting his collar of consideration" on a slave I know as a personal friend in real life! I get the distinct impression that he did not like my reply pointing out that if was really that insecure as a Master may be should reconsider trying to use D/s as a way of "forcing" a lady into a relationship. His reply was sooo childish for a man claiming to be 31 that I reckon I should reverse the numbers as 13 seems closer to his mental age. It seems far too many insecure Dom/mes use "under consideration" as a defence mechanism, as they are apparently incapable of forming a relationship.

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/23/2008 8:09:42 AM   
Padriag


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ORIGINAL: atendersoul

after talking a few times with some Masters here....they demand that i post on my profile that i am in consideration....
i find this impossible to do with just a couple of emails exchanged and will not do this. By this action, have been told that i am not true....
what is proper when a Master ask for someone to be in consideration?
thank You for Your time....

Personally... tell'em to fuck off.  That'd be my first choice.  I don't think much of this whole "under consideration" thing.  More online BS to me.  I see plenty of it.  Recently saw two profiles, both of them recently posted and within a few weeks they're "under consideration... please, no more emails".  Don't want emails... hide your damn profile.

So far as I'm concerned this whole "under consideration" thing is another form of velcro collar thrown out there by insecure game players looking to grab up a "subbie" first.  Which in my not so humble estimation makes the whole thing a farce.

I don't ask someone to put that in their profile.  If they do, its because they wanted too and more often I suggest they just turn off their profile for awhile.  The predatory types are going to keep emailing no matter what you write... you could write in your profile that you're a 400 lbs TV trucker with a full beard, hairy ass and balls that hang to your knees... but put a pic of a pretty girl on your profile and you'll still get a ton of mail from wankers who just know you're perfect for them and they want to collar you straight away so you should say you're under consideration.

My point, if there is one in this mini rant... might be this... that a dominant with more than an ounce of self respect is going to be a bit choosey about who he or she collars... and therefore is not only going to want to get to know someone first... but is going to have standards, probably high ones, that potential submissive is going to have to meet... because after all they aren't going to accept just anyone with a pretty pic.  That means they'll be in no rush to "consider" or "collar" anyone until they've probably both talked with and actually met the applicant.

Stephan recently posted a thread of advice to women looking for men on here.  Here's my advice to submissives of either gender looking for a dominant.  Look for someone who isn't looking for just anyone.

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/23/2008 8:26:02 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		Under consideration, when thrown up after a few meails, menas to me that the Dominant party is insecure in their hold on thier new contact and wants to try and lessen competition. They are worried they might not keep their hold if the submissive is allowed to meet and chat freely with anyone they like.
Angel was under consideration for a while, after he and I met and after I knew I planned on collaring him. I had made that decision several months into our relationship, however I was still not living close by and I did not want to collar him while we were still separated for an unknown length of time, so he was given the option of placing "under consideration" into hs profile in leiu of a collar for the time. He made the decision to do so, but it was never demanded.
Anyone who DEMANDS that you put it in your profile is hoping to take you off the market so they can take their time with little fear of competition. Sorry to tell them, but that little 2 word phrase makes you 10 times as desireable more often than not. You are then a challenge, and I know at least with Angel he got far more email when he was under consideration that he ever had when he was free and seeking.

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/23/2008 9:14:40 AM   
happypervert


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ORIGINAL: mastervalentine

Boy, maybe I should've jumped on that bandwagon...


hey, I started the bandwagon and I still don't have my titty pic

< Message edited by happypervert -- 3/23/2008 9:16:24 AM >

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/23/2008 10:02:30 AM   
IronBear


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quote:

ORIGINAL: atendersoul

after talking a few times with some Masters here....they demand that i post on my profile that i am in consideration....
i find this impossible to do with just a couple of emails exchanged and will not do this. By this action, have been told that i am not true....
what is proper when a Master ask for someone to be in consideration?
thank You for Your time....


For me it's simple. Firstly I don't do anything like anysort of collar untill the slave has met with both my Wife and I a few times, has come around (with a chaperone if necessaruy) and/or with a safe call handy and met your Malamute. I want to see her reaction and interaction with my wife and with the dog. before anything is set up, she knows my requirements ~ Service slave with a love of BDSM (the BDSM is not absolutely vital and she'll know if it isn't her thing that i will be looking for a play partner if that is the case). If and only if we are all happy with things, then we'll look at what some may call a Collar of Consideration but for us it is in reality a Probationary Collar (Min 30 days with no fixed Max). If things work out then a full collar may be either offered or begged for.

I find that "Masters" who try to jump in too fast probably are lacking in experience or just are potential preditors.. Just my view of things.


Iron Bear
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(A Victorian Lifestyle poly home)


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RE: in consideration..... - 3/24/2008 12:16:30 PM   
BrigandDoom


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Status: offline 		Seems the boy I upset has read my post in here lol, he's said I must be a fake as I've "dissed" him! I've now offered to change his nappies & bottle feed him but I suspect he'll decline....! One thing I did find out by accident is that he may have up to five subs/slaves on collars of consideration. Not only greedy, but a liar to boot as he denied when my slave friend confronted him about it. Might find some threads about our new multiple Masturbator lmao

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/24/2008 12:26:27 PM   
masterofdrkness2


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Status: offline 		Let me get this straight..ALL I have to do is consider some one and I   get titty pics ? And to think I took 3 years to collar  my slave ... I feel like a slow learner now  lol

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/24/2008 1:29:44 PM   
akisha


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Status: offline 		The Domiant that I have been talking to for a while now and have spent some time with is moving here today. I now consider him under consideration

And vice versa for him with me I'd assume.

We've been talking since November and have spent time together face to face as well.  I think 4 months of getting to know each other is a good time to move to the consideration stage. lol

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/24/2008 1:49:26 PM   
MasterGreg43


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Status: offline 		well first of all if a Master ask u to be under consideration, and not the other way around leave or refuse until u have better knowledge of said Master, being place under consideration is saying I would like this Master to own Me, and he will judge over a period of time whether to take said slave/sub as his, or just protect her until she is able to fend for self, usually a sub/slave write a letter of Proclamation of Consideration to the Master/Dominant that she is begging to serve and that Master will take the time to know that slave/sub and consider taking her on.

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RE: in consideration..... - 3/24/2008 3:03:08 PM   
windchymes


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ORIGINAL: Sundowner

quote:

ORIGINAL: happypervert

You need a protector. Send me a picture of your titties, and I will protect you from those big bad men until you are really ready for consideration. 


What he said.  (But doncha think two protectors would be good? And ignore windchymes' post - she posted it in the wrong thread)


You're right...I forgot about those sitting in their *ahem* cockpits with nothing on at all!

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