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RE: Give Me a dollar - 3/26/2008 4:49:55 AM

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I can't believe that you gave the dammed dollar back. The fact that you only asked for a dollar is beyond comprehension. I have to move on to another post. This one is driving me crazy.

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RE: Give Me a dollar - 3/26/2008 4:56:47 AM

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While pay for play isn't really my thing, Bitchy jones has a really hot take on it.

Basically, her idea is that the bottom gives the dom money up front. More than he can afford to pay. Money he desperately needs back. Every act has a price tag, and he earns it back by doing/allowing things to be done to him.

LOL I used to toss that idea around when I was single and looking.....so many subs would approach and rather than be able to have a conversation about mutual interests and such, they would just insist that I "give them a chance" and they'd be able to prove to me they were worth my time.

I figured if they brought $500 with them in $20's, we'd leave it on the table and they could earn it back by being interesting, amusing, and fun to play with. If they were, they'd get it all back. If they weren't....well, I could at least go shopping.

Mind you, this was all theory - nothing I tested out LOL But I have to say, some days it seems like a really good idea.

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RE: Give Me a dollar - 3/26/2008 5:41:47 AM

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Finally...someone who knows the value of a dollar.I tip my hat to you.

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RE: Give Me a dollar - 3/26/2008 5:47:09 AM

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It might strike some as strange, but clip has to ask for permission, even to buy Me pizza for dinner.

See, if he were smart then, he'd just buy take-out Chinese instead. ;)

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RE: Give Me a dollar - 3/26/2008 6:12:24 AM

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I'm afraid I laughed out loud, too. Just from the silliness of it.

To steal a line..... Here's the thing.

Yes, I could have turned a buck or two (or more) from wiitwd. I'd like to see us take a step back from these discussions that are so focused, supposedly, on the almighty dollar. That neither validates, nor sheds more light on My opinion than anything else. Calling Myself *just* a lifestyle Mistress or a pro doesn't matter one bit in the grand scheme of things. There are pros out there that I respect, who have proven themselves, and there are those that I laugh at for their own inept skills that matter not one lick to Me. Some are quite personable, and others have Domme's disease, with their head so far up their ass that they can't hear another's opinion.

I was just wondering if others saw it this way?

I am a Pro, I also am Lifestyle. When I have problems in my personal life, the voices in my head discuss it - the Personal side asking the Pro side to give me advice - since that one is always right of course

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I do agree with the "Dommes disease" for sure - with as LP says - their head so far up their ass they can't hear anothers opinion. I liked the idea of being right all the time, so I tried to catch it - but I realized quickly - my shit does stink!

I have spoken to Dommes that are far more experienced wanting to go Pro but thinking they don't have enough experience, and others who are ready to hang a shingle after their first play scene - ready to give me advice. I have been criticized for: being a Pro, allowing my boy to have an opinion, and even sexual postions I may like. I let it all go in one ear and out the other. If I listened and took to heart everything people said, it would drive me crazy. Bottom line - the only persons opinion that really matters to me is my own, and that pisses some people off. I am always trying to learn from others, but at the end of the day, it is only myself I must contend with. I believe Dommes are just like anything else in life - there are some good, some bad - yet it is the bad ones that get the most attention since people prefer to point out the negative then applaud the positive.

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RE: Give Me a dollar - 3/26/2008 9:10:13 AM

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It might strike some as strange, but clip has to ask for permission, even to buy Me pizza for dinner.

This is not strange to me and when I have a relationship that is mostly D/s -- or anything that resembles that -- the s part must ask permission to spend any money on me. While I don't believe its my job to pick up the tab on everything, I do try. I have this thing, if you can't financially afford a submissive, you shouldn't have one. That said, I'm more practical, because I really can't always foot the bill all the time.

That said, my boi and I have a very broad relationship and mostly we split things, but I believe I bear the bulk of the expenses most of the time. I make a good deal more than she does and so the partner part of my relationship with her makes me inclined to do that too. Don't get me wrong, she pulls her weight financially but whoever is with me needs to keep up, travel, go to events etc.

Last night is an example, we went to a meeting of a local group, it was $10 for non-members, I paid. It seemed appropriate.

So, yes, I find what you say normal, if you want to pay and you're mine.. you'll need permission. The only exception I make on spending money on me is gifts -- but I don't ask for anything.

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RE: Give Me a dollar - 3/26/2008 9:37:01 AM

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does that qualify as earned income?
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RE: Give Me a dollar - 3/26/2008 9:47:14 AM

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Guess i need to save up for that week long stay at Lady Pacts bed and bondage .single bed ?double?or the rack ?bed of nails in the honeymoon suite ?

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RE: Give Me a dollar - 3/26/2008 9:54:48 AM

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You got a dollar, hey hey hey hey!

Seriously though, I don't understand the head-up-ass syndrome that some femdoms develop. What's the point? It seems to me like the snotty ones are probably insecure in their own abilities, and so they attempt to chase people away from ever discovering the problem by exerting their dominance in an overbearing manner to ANYONE who so much as says "hello!" to them.

And as for the argument that being "paid" somehow makes someone a better Femdom... yeah, I know plenty of people who receive large paychecks that don't know their ass from a hole in the ground. Getting paid simply means you've found someone willing to throw money your way, NOT that you're particularly good or "the best" at what you do.

No offense meant to all of our lovely non-stupid pro-domme friends and the businesswomen/businessmen among us!

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RE: Give Me a dollar - 3/26/2008 3:16:51 PM

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If a sub a had some years back gave me a grand because I needed it *but didn't ask for it*, does that mean I was Pro years before I said I was?

I like subbies who hand-make gifts.

Now I just need a subbie to hand-make me a money-printing machine.....................

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RE: Give Me a dollar - 3/26/2008 3:23:18 PM

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WAIT
If I gave Fox gas money so he can come visit, does that make him a pro sub too?
Oh the implications

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RE: Give Me a dollar - 3/26/2008 3:32:45 PM

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Uh oh. By these implications, we could probably all be EXPERTS AT EVERYTHING.

Seriously, this post is great.

I've daydreamed about going Pro at some point, but I'd have to have a lot more experience before I ever considered it seriously.

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RE: Give Me a dollar - 3/26/2008 3:53:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistresssAria

If a sub a had some years back gave me a grand because I needed it *but didn't ask for it*, does that mean I was Pro years before I said I was?

I hope you charged him interest on that thousand. ;)

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RE: Give Me a dollar - 3/26/2008 5:22:33 PM

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WAIT
If I gave Fox gas money so he can come visit, does that make him a pro sub too?
Oh the implications

LOL. That reminds me of something that happened years ago. I spent the night with a lady friend of mind, who was vanilla by the way. I had forgot my wallet, and I didn't have any money with me. I needed some gas, so I asked to borrow 20 bucks. She gave it to me, but didn't want me to pay it back. I tried to insist, but she playfully said, "Nope, this makes you my whore." I laughed and said, "And a cheap one at that, it seems." I hadn't thought about that in years; thanks for the memory jogger.

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RE: Give Me a dollar - 3/26/2008 5:28:31 PM

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Ma'am has, on occasion, given me money to buy smokes. Even though this new-found expertise may come in handy, i don't know if i should tell Her that She inadvertantly patronized a pro-submissive. Advice?

Perhaps you should just be happy that my love for you and wanting you to have things that in some cases you need outweighs my sadistic streak in watching you shake from not having it? LOL just a thought my pet....

i'm sorry, Ma'am; could You please repeat that? i go to a happy place whenever i realize i manage to have the love of someone like You, i sort of missed everything You said afterwards.

Nice save darch

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RE: Give Me a dollar - 3/26/2008 5:36:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistresssAria

If a sub a had some years back gave me a grand because I needed it *but didn't ask for it*, does that mean I was Pro years before I said I was?

I hope you charged him interest on that thousand. ;)

Yea, he should've known better than to give me something without my permission ;)
I punished him by paying my rent & bills ahahaaaa ;)

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RE: Give Me a dollar - 3/26/2008 5:48:19 PM

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Aren't we going a bit far here in thinking that everything bought for another is to the tune of some D/s subtext? I keep reading about (in profiles and various forums) women that insist on being pampered and spoiled and what have you, and that there's some expectation that a guy will either adopt a domme that never has to break a nail, otherwise adopt a sub that never has to leave her cage.

I paid for dinner the other day for a lady friend. Guess I am a client now.

Then again, another day, she paid for mine. Guess I'm a pro-something.

Lately I've been wondering...I could totally be an escort. Dress up nice, be fun and interesting, see beautiful places and meet other interesting people (or their escorts) and actually get paid for it. In fact...anyone know a good agency?

Cheers all : )

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RE: Give Me a dollar - 3/26/2008 6:16:41 PM

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I'm glad everyone is enjoying the thread in the spirit it was intended. I've been having fun reading it. (Even now that I have the 'hey, hey, hey, hey' bit stuck in My head now.)

And, look! It's a pro domme thread with nobody beating a dead horse! Yea!

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RE: Give Me a dollar - 3/26/2008 6:25:20 PM

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Yep, this past weekend I told My sub to give Me a dollar. The reason? This makes Me, officially, a pro domme. Now I can give Myself the supposed authority, recognition, and stature that all pro's require, just because I made a buck. I can now promote Myself as a therapist, counselor, or any other title I would like, just because I made him open his wallet.

Ok. I can't even go on with the ridiculousness of the OP. In fact, I gave the dollar back. The point of the matter is, nobody gets more legitimacy just because they are getting paid for wiitwd. There's a post going around the general discussion board just now that someone feels, because they made some money off of this, they are more entitled to direct others on how they should think and what they should do, just because they turned a buck at it.

Sorry. I just had to get that out.

Hmmmm??? I was wondering?

if getting paid makes one a more valid Domme, does this make the Sub that pays more of an authority or a sub that doesnt pay mo better???

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RE: Give Me a dollar - 3/26/2008 6:28:24 PM

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You know what they say...... No cents no feeling....

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