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RE: Frustrated and letting it show. - 3/28/2008 10:07:17 AM

Dnomyar

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LadyHathor I do get number 2 a lot. Mostly is it. "I don't know how you get all of those subs how about fixing me up with one of them". My favorite is "Can I come and watch you." Another "I am the best at eating pussy let me come and show them" Another "let me be you slave and I can help you when you have more than one sub over".
I have to say one thing . I don't bitch about it like the women do. Mabey it is my devious side. I like to play mind games with them.

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RE: Frustrated and letting it show. - 3/28/2008 10:09:53 AM

Dnomyar

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Eland I was waiting for form letter #7 from you before I responded to them.

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RE: Frustrated and letting it show. - 3/28/2008 3:18:37 PM

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I just wonder if telling these guys how they're coming across might help them straighten up and act like humans at some point in the future.

Sorry for responding to myself here, but I wanted to post an update.

When I got home today and checked my inbox here, I was surprised to find a response from one of the fellows to whom I recently sent a nasty-gram. I was even more surprised when I read the email. He thanked me for being up-front with him about how I felt and apologized for being a jerk. He completely backed off of the "I want to be your sub" schtick, talked to me like a person and asked me quite nicely if I would be interested in meeting him for coffee/lunch/dinner so that we could get acquainted. He came across as very sincere, not at all slick or suck-upy.

Perhaps some of them are trainable. We'll see.

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RE: Frustrated and letting it show. - 3/28/2008 3:23:03 PM

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I've developed a new way to combat those pesky pervs...

I respond to them by telling them to check out my blog/website, and proceed to Rick Roll them.

If you do not know what it means to be Rick Roll'd, http://www.smouch.net/lol

now you've gone and made me start crushing on you.

p.s. a girl was at a party with me this weekend, carrying around a ukelelalai (i'm not spell checking that) and anytime a guy hit on her she'd use it to rickroll him. It was glorious.

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RE: Frustrated and letting it show. - 3/28/2008 3:24:37 PM

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What can you do? Take control and DO the searching. Go out and find a man. There are so many profiles on here, spend time reading them, and take action -- I have found that for every 3 emails I sent out, at least 1 starts a fairly good dialogue....it's much better when you are in the driver's seat, and as the "predatory" you can set the tone....

This is certainly good advice. When I get to the point where I'm really motivated to find someone, I'm sure that this is what I will do. I'm not particularly motivated at the moment. I've got the hubby and some wonderful playmates and the grankids and a lot going on at work, so a partner search isn't a priority for me right now. In a few years when things settle down I'm going to get serious about it. I am open to having someone wonderful fall into my lap, though, so I pay attention to the emails I get.

Truly, though, I haven't had much luck when I initiate contact. This isn't limited to collarme or kinky personals or even to online stuff. I don't think I've ever been any good at picking out the right man. My Al found me, and I tried to get rid of him. Twice. I will be eternally grateful for his persistence. We celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary this week, and are just as in love as we were on our wedding day. I kept the boyfriend at arms length for a year before realizing that he was smitten and that if I had any sense I would be, too. It was several years before I realized that a good friend is really devoted to me in his own subtle way and is someone who is really perfect for me and an excellent fit with me and Al. I may not be able to reel him in - he's not relocatable at the moment - but you never know. I've met a number of nice fellows online, all of whom initiated contact with me. That's not to say that every fellow who has contacted me has been a prince - far from it - but all of the princes I've become involved with have come to me.

The history of my relationships with the fellows I've approached is pretty dismal. I don't understand it. I'm not one of those people who makes the same mistake over and over. Every relationship I have initiated has been a very unique mistake - not even the people closest to me can see a common thread. I'm glad that when I'm ready to hunt again I'll have my Al around to offer a second opinion.

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RE: Frustrated and letting it show. - 3/28/2008 4:34:48 PM

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Maybe I am jaded but I have found that those that email first with silliness, then correct their behavior, end up reverting. Now... I put rules on my profile, they break them, they get blocked. I have saved myself a lot of time... pissed a few off... but still, I don't have to deal with them reverting anymore. We are adults here... if they can't figure out simple emotional health and social skills... they need a different kind of trainer.

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RE: Frustrated and letting it show. - 3/28/2008 7:41:38 PM

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That (rick roll)was the most annoying thing to happen to me here.....a warning to the nice people next time please...

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RE: Frustrated and letting it show. - 3/28/2008 7:45:01 PM

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That (rick roll)was the most annoying thing to happen to me here.....a warning to the nice people next time please...

I agree. That was really irritating.

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RE: Frustrated and letting it show. - 3/28/2008 7:49:56 PM

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“Would you be my girlfriend and give me lots of sex?”

On a lot of sites, this DOES work. In fact, there's surveys that have been done about using the line, "Wanna fuck?" in a bar...if you hit enough people, someone will eventuall say yes.

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RE: Frustrated and letting it show. - 3/28/2008 8:00:00 PM

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That (rick roll)was the most annoying thing to happen to me here.....a warning to the nice people next time please...

I agree. That was really irritating.

Ditto. Couldn't close the blasted browser...had to force-quit it. Seriously, warn next time.

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RE: Frustrated and letting it show. - 3/28/2008 8:33:42 PM

azropedntied

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Almost makes me glad i do not get mail ... almost .

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RE: Frustrated and letting it show. - 3/28/2008 8:59:26 PM

Pyrrsefanie

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ORIGINAL: MistressNoName

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ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama

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ORIGINAL: ShellyD

That (rick roll)was the most annoying thing to happen to me here.....a warning to the nice people next time please...

I agree. That was really irritating.

Ditto. Couldn't close the blasted browser...had to force-quit it. Seriously, warn next time.

I figured most people would realize that if it's something I'm sending to annoying people on the internet, it's probably a "click at your own risk" type thing. I guess you all see why it's so effective now!

It's kind of a rite of passage on the internet now -- hell, they've even got T-shirts saying "I got Rick Roll'd."

You all should be grateful I didn't link Meat Spin, which by the way, if you value your mental state, DO NOT GO TO MEATSPIN. EVER.

< Message edited by Pyrrsefanie -- 3/28/2008 9:01:17 PM >

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RE: Frustrated and letting it show. - 3/29/2008 12:26:34 AM

MistresssAria

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"I’ve been feeling a bit ornery lately and have been responding to a few of these fellows. I’m not nasty in those emails, but I’m not particularly warm, either."

Half the time a nasty letter back is what they WANT.........we call all these assholes who do such things wankers.......is that just a Chicago thing?

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RE: Frustrated and letting it show. - 3/29/2008 12:29:57 AM

MistresssAria

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ORIGINAL: Pyrrsefanie

I've developed a new way to combat those pesky pervs...

I respond to them by telling them to check out my blog/website, and proceed to Rick Roll them.

If you do not know what it means to be Rick Roll'd, http://www.smouch.net/lol

OH MY GOD that was fucking amazing.

Not to mention good for learning karaoke lyrics ;)

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RE: Frustrated and letting it show. - 3/29/2008 8:39:10 AM

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Just to play devils advocate...

If you walked down the street, of course men are not going to approach you and ask if you want to have sex with them.

But what if you dressed like a hooker? You probably wouldn't be so shocked.
The problem is that the profiles here are so sexual in nature (listing all the kinky activities one loves), that I think it just puts many men into that sex mode. Not really sure what the solution to that is... other than that big delete key!

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RE: Frustrated and letting it show. - 3/29/2008 1:18:24 PM

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Just to play devils advocate...

If you walked down the street, of course men are not going to approach you and ask if you want to have sex with them.

Ok, I'm not sure that really follows. Many women dress VERY prevocatively when they go to bars and clubs. One might even say "like a hooker". It still isn't considered good manners to introduce yourself by saying "Hello, my name is Dick, would you like to watch me cum on my face?"

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RE: Frustrated and letting it show. - 3/29/2008 6:48:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: TallDevoted1

Just to play devils advocate...

If you walked down the street, of course men are not going to approach you and ask if you want to have sex with them.

Ok, I'm not sure that really follows. Many women dress VERY prevocatively when they go to bars and clubs. One might even say "like a hooker". It still isn't considered good manners to introduce yourself by saying "Hello, my name is Dick, would you like to watch me cum on my face?"

Hmm... but I bet if you handed out pamphlets at the door to the club that had semi-nekkid pics of yourself and a listing of all your preferred sexual kinks, you might get more than a couple of, um, Dicks approaching you ;) It just seems that the sexual context of places like collarme is somehow read by certain guys as being permission to be crude. I have no doubt its incredibly annoying.

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RE: Frustrated and letting it show. - 3/30/2008 7:38:00 AM

TNstepsout

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Heh- when I read your response I realized I missplled provocative. Oh well.

I guess you have a point. Being on a sexually oriented website seems to short circuit what little "self-editing" some men have left.

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RE: Frustrated and letting it show. - 3/30/2008 3:05:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: TallDevoted1

Just to play devils advocate...

If you walked down the street, of course men are not going to approach you and ask if you want to have sex with them.

But what if you dressed like a hooker? You probably wouldn't be so shocked.
The problem is that the profiles here are so sexual in nature (listing all the kinky activities one loves), that I think it just puts many men into that sex mode. Not really sure what the solution to that is... other than that big delete key!

This is actually a sort-of good point...from personal experience, though I don't have a pic posted that makes me look like a hooker, I am still aware that what I wrote in my profile and on my website can give a submissive a good headful of ideas about my personality and style of personality and what I might want to do to them...and that could in turn, get their heads a-spinnin' a bit...Not that I am offering any excuse for bad behavior, but I also wonder if some subs (male or female) simply are not sure how to respond to or approach a Dominant Woman within the context of a kinky/sex/personals site...

Then again, even hookers expect a level of "good" behavior...ie- look, but don't touch, unless you're paying; pay me up-front; don't expect a fuck if you've only paid for a blow; respect my safety rules - use a rubber, etc.

Still, an interesting point. Thanks.

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RE: Frustrated and letting it show. - 3/30/2008 4:54:56 PM

LadyJeelys

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Ok, I'm curious. I did click on the link and got the song..and that was it. What happens if you're not using Opera?

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