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chellekitty -> hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/29/2008 3:57:10 PM)
i started thinking about this while i was reading SteelofUtah's post and how i flirt all the time without thinking about it...like a few weeks ago i was at a meeting and my Owner called me back to him with a sharp "woman" because the week before i had been talking to this guy and apparently i had gotten him all riled up and he didn't want it to happen again (the guy was a newcomer to the program - 12 step meeting, 12 step program - and was looking for anyway to change the way he felt) and all i was going to do was go say hi, see if his week had gone better...i didn't know i had been flirting with huge amounts of sexual under(over?)tones... anyway...this got me to thinking...is there a level of flirty-ness acceptable for men vs women in this lifestyle? or is it submissives vs dominants? does single vs in a relationship make a difference? is there i only so much societal influence can do before instinct takes over, especially in regards to dominance structure? i know i have my own views on the subject, but i would like to hear from others before i post them... take care chelle

Level -> RE: hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/29/2008 4:00:24 PM)
I like to flirt a little bit, but would cut some of it out, if I were with someone. Dominants can get away with more of it than submissives, I would guess, due to the power dynamics.

DesFIP -> RE: hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/29/2008 4:08:34 PM)
Some men like it when their partners flirt and make conquests, and they get to walk out with her knowing they're being envied. Others don't. Not a lifestyle thing, a compatibility thing.

sirsholly -> RE: hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/29/2008 4:13:44 PM)
assuming this has nothing to do with on-line flirting (i do grope my share of cyber-butt). Although i am friendly to others..men included..when i am with Sir i would never flirt. I feel it would be disrespectful to him. Just my 2 pennies.

Justme696 -> RE: hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/29/2008 4:25:12 PM)
I am not sure about flirting..I like that my girl get attention..but to much makes me jalous. If it starts to feel uncomfy,,,for whomever participates in the flirt..it should stop.

daddyncherry -> RE: hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/29/2008 4:35:17 PM)
i admit to having a very distinct lack of boundaries in a sexual kinda way....nothing is off limits for conversation and i NEVER intend it to be flirting at all..i actually don't even realize it if i do because i pretty much will talk about almost anything and answer most any question......To me it is just being straight forward......... But i will say this much, i make it VERY CLEAR that i am VERY taken and VERY MUCH NOT looking for ANYone....When i talk to people i do it with a certain amount of distance, never falling into the actual flirty type of behavior and if i ever sense for a moment that someone is getting the wrong idea i make sure to mention my Daddy repeatedly and it quells any thoughts from them pretty quickly (as evidenced by the discussion)

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/29/2008 4:37:00 PM)
you too??

adoracat -> RE: hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/29/2008 5:15:37 PM)
oh dear gods. Daddy says i'm so much of a kitten-in-need-of-pettinses that i cant help being flirty. i dont mean a thing by it, and i am absolutely in love with and taken and i wouldnt do a thing to damage my relationship(s). i've been called a butterfly before, also...not something serious, just something that needs to be pretty and fluffy and dont expect anything more than that. [:)] in any way, i'm generally shocked when someone takes me as being deeper than i appear (although i am! hee!) kitten

Padriag -> RE: hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/29/2008 5:39:05 PM)
I'm a huge flirt... pretty much anywhere, everywhere and in between... I have no idea what the "rules" may be regarding flirting with the "community"... now ask me if I care. [8D]

Missokyst -> RE: hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/29/2008 5:39:38 PM)
I am an admitted flirt. I flirt with males from 4 to 80, and even though I am homophobic I even flirt with females. But.. I regard it as social interaction. Engaging someone in personable conversation that makes THEM feel special and valued, and me feel happy. I see flirting as simply being charming. I do not see flirting as a road to get me into their bed. But, if I am with someone I keep close to them. I may be charming to other people, but not so much that my mate might feel slighted. For me my mate is main focus and my aim is to make him happy because I am in his life. So, if my mate wished me to step back, I would be right there at his feet. Flirting is a social skill, knowing how not to cross the line is a valuable part of learning to be social. Kyst

Prinsexx -> RE: hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/29/2008 5:40:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chellekitty i started thinking about this while i was reading SteelofUtah's post and how i flirt all the time without thinking about it...like a few weeks ago i was at a meeting and my Owner called me back to him with a sharp "woman" because the week before i had been talking to this guy and apparently i had gotten him all riled up and he didn't want it to happen again (the guy was a newcomer to the program - 12 step meeting, 12 step program - and was looking for anyway to change the way he felt) and all i was going to do was go say hi, see if his week had gone better...i didn't know i had been flirting with huge amounts of sexual under(over?)tones... anyway...this got me to thinking...is there a level of flirty-ness acceptable for men vs women in this lifestyle? or is it submissives vs dominants? does single vs in a relationship make a difference? is there i only so much societal influence can do before instinct takes over, especially in regards to dominance structure? i know i have my own views on the subject, but i would like to hear from others before i post them... take care chelle damn it chelle i thought your post read: ~the guy was a newcomer to the program - 12 step meeting, 12 step program - and was looking for anyway to change the way he felt) and all i was going to do was go say hi, see if his weed had grown better.- and I thought oh that's a good line....... xx yeah must get back into that flirty thang

ToysAndTies -> RE: hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/29/2008 6:16:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Missokyst I am an admitted flirt. I flirt with males from 4 to 80, and even though I am homophobic I even flirt with females. But.. I regard it as social interaction. Engaging someone in personable conversation that makes THEM feel special and valued, and me feel happy. I see flirting as simply being charming. I do not see flirting as a road to get me into their bed. But, if I am with someone I keep close to them. I may be charming to other people, but not so much that my mate might feel slighted. For me my mate is main focus and my aim is to make him happy because I am in his life. So, if my mate wished me to step back, I would be right there at his feet. Flirting is a social skill, knowing how not to cross the line is a valuable part of learning to be social. Kyst Very well put. I find that being likeable, interesting, and complimentary tend to bunch me in the flirty category. The same actions that I consider simple politeness and positivity are viewed by others as advances or at times inappropriate. Doesn't work on cops for me though...maybe I still need more practice....

lusciouslips19 -> RE: hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/29/2008 6:20:04 PM)
Your thread name cracked me up! I didnt know there was a 12 step program called Flirters Anonymous?[:D]

lronitulstahp -> RE: hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/29/2008 9:26:33 PM)
i flirt...it keeps the juices flowing. Even when i'm in a relationship. Flirting however, isn't the same as cheating...and i know how to draw the line between cute, and inappropriate. Babies, old people dogs...even cats, and we know how picky THEY are...most people and animals just like my sweet ass...and i like 'em back.

Gwynvyd -> RE: hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/29/2008 10:05:25 PM)
huggles Chelle Ya know there are some wankers out there that are soooooooo desperate for female attention that the fact you said Hi, How are you doing? and acted concerned for thier well being must mean that you want to marry them and have 3-4 kids.. or at least fuck thier brains out. Some times when this is not the case they get thier dick all in a knot and take it to your friends or boyfriend. "The big bad girl teased me.. Waaaaaah" ( Can you tell I have had this happen to me? chuckles ) then again some of us are natural flirt with everything that has a pulse (waves hello) types... some people just are not comfortable with that. In a serious relationship I tend to tone it down a lot. Those who usualy have groping rights.. get them revoked if my other half isnt down with it. Nothing like stanbding next to your girlfriend durring a grab fest and notice a line forming. so not cool for you ya know? I do however let the people I am even thinking of being involved with know that I am a huge flirt.. and that is not going to change. I will not stiffle my personality. I will tone it down a notch or 5 so they are comfy.. but not totaly. Asking some dude how he is because you were generaly concerned and because he took it as a flirt I do not see as your issue. I see as his lack of common sense. If you had been friendly to see if you could get him to open up in the group that is a good thing... people esp. the ones with dangling participles can be such silly creatures and get all worked up over the most innocent and silliest of things. Good luck on your Owner accepting you for the wonderful creature we all know you are. hugs Gwyn

adoracat -> RE: hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/29/2008 10:17:03 PM)
re-reads Gwyn's post "dangling participles"???? rolls about on the floor laughing whew, i needed that!! kitten [:D]

Kirren -> RE: hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/29/2008 11:06:23 PM)
quote: anyway...this got me to thinking...is there a level of flirty-ness acceptable for men vs women in this lifestyle? or is it submissives vs dominants? does single vs in a relationship make a difference? is there i only so much societal influence can do before instinct takes over, especially in regards to dominance structure? I think that as long as there are men and women, there will always be a difference in what is acceptable in who can flirt, how much, how often, and just plain how. For men, and Doms for sure, (IMO so dont shoot Me okay? I like living) flirting is a way of seeing what they can do. Lets take My Husband D, He flirts with anything that has boobs and moves. It makes Me insane...I can not stand it. But I dont get mad because I flirt. Now...heres the thing...I catch Him flirting with some elf in WOW...(His pc is right next to Mine) and I should keep My mouth shut...He catches Me flirting and its ON...and I do mean on...Dont ask Me why...I dont have a reason for that. I dont even think He does. I can only assume it is a possessiveness thing...Him saying "You are Mine and thats how its gonna be..." When in reality...which He seldom visist....I belong to Me, and I do flirt,...I am after all a very sexual person, and flirting is a very sexual game with Me... To Me...its more about the intellectual thing...This is because I am more intellectually driven...if some one can catch My mind...The rest of Me will follow. I dont think its the same for men. I read once that men are very visual and women tend to be more auditory...Men get turned on by what they see...women by what they hear...I think this is true. Is there a difference in the way people flirt when they are single and when they are in a relationship? Lol. Depends on who you are...when I was single, Id ask..."wanna go get a coke or fuck or something?" Now I just make sly lil comments. I think its a safe thing.... With subs and Dom's yeah its a different ball game...subs should only be concerned with the needs and desires of their Dominant. They should not be flirting with any one else, or trying to catch any one elses eye....Doms can if they want to...Im guessing because they say so...I dont really have a reason for that. I have D and I have kitten...I dont think I can handle any more at the moment. I dont think its societal influence, I think its base sexual or mental attraction that makes people flirt. Its just part of how we figure each other out.

Phin -> RE: hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/29/2008 11:10:53 PM)
chelle, a flirt? noooo.... and I am not either... who gives a flip about the acceptable level of flirtyness in the lifestyle, talk to your Owner and find the acceptable level of flirtyness in your relationship quote: ORIGINAL: Gwynvyd they get thier dick all in a knot damn that hurts just thinking about it... new pics to perve on 2 profiles... very hot, chelle and faery

Gwynvyd -> RE: hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/29/2008 11:17:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: adoracat re-reads Gwyn's post "dangling participles"???? rolls about on the floor laughing whew, i needed that!! kitten [:D] Happy to help.. that is just one of the many names we have for it here. Gwyn

adoracat -> RE: hi, my name is chelle, and i am a flirt... (3/29/2008 11:26:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Gwynvyd quote: ORIGINAL: adoracat re-reads Gwyn's post "dangling participles"???? rolls about on the floor laughing whew, i needed that!! kitten [:D] Happy to help.. that is just one of the many names we have for it here. Gwyn and its absolutely wonderful! kitten, still giggling

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