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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW

I got it the first time and didn't need you to clarify. Maybe I didn't make that clear.

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Oh maybe now I am being a bitch, but that could just be a perception. Get my point?

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Your response could be perceived as snarky and condescending.

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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW

Do you think a title, age and experience automatically give one respect?

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ORIGINAL: JohnWarren

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ORIGINAL: pyrobabe
Master and I have a saying "The only way to be a great Master/Mistress, is to have served as a great slave first."

Mistress Carol

I've seen some very good tops come by that route, but I've also seen some remarkably lousy ones.  The problem seems to be that some come out of it with the attitude "I don't have to communicate.  I know what a bottom wants; I was one."  Not a receipe for success.

Much of this may come from the fact that this was the model adopted by those we refer to as The Old Guard.  However, many see their "you must serve first" as a simple con job so that the old farts had plenty of young guys to fuck.

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ORIGINAL: pyrobabe
Master and I have a saying "The only way to be a great Master/Mistress, is to have served as a great slave first."

This folks  has a lot of merit in my book,While there isn't a way for all to serve,there should have been a way if only for a short while, days,a week anything that gives the insight to this slave/submissive thing......I was sub for about a year at the age of 15,It didn't take long to flip her and her sister..While I very young  back then,it still today gives me a better prospective on the submissive side...maybe in my old age I"LL just run away and become some sweet womans boy toy,her servant for life smile...Any thing that gives a new prospective into the subbie thang is a big healthy view...bounty

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ORIGINAL: Archer

The only problem with not showing a level of respect automatically is the impression you give to someone who really has been around, done stuff, contributed to what you have today, etc.

I know a woman who is adjusting to the idea of not being shown the level of respect she had become accustomed to.
This woman had worked for a long time with a group that had provided one of two top level local play and education spaces, she had been involved in the start up of an event that had served for many as an eucational forum where they got there start.

Burn out and other things had left her going private, later other things brought her back out and she floundered for awhile.
all her "cache" built up respect for things she had done, the knowledge she had built up and shared etc, had disappeared as the folks she had been around to introduce and educate years ago were in many cases no longer involved in the community. Took her awhile to adjust to the idea that, Yes she had paid the dues, worked for the community but the community has a short memory sometimes.

Years spent earning respect, for naught because young/new folks knowing nothing about what she had done years ago not giving her her due respect because the actions building that respect had been forgotten. Now she has made some adjustment but it still stings a bit for her to see some of the folks she remembers coaching a bit when they were new, and people she taught skills to years ago, being accorded respect from those same new folks who treat her as if she has to prove to them she deserves that added respect.

So the other side of the Nobody gets respect from me untiol they prove it, is remember you are going to have to deal with the same thing. Write a book, present classes, mentor dozens of folks but that record means nothing because the new guy who just walks in can fall back on the You don't get his respect until you prove yourself to him.

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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW

I have been visiting another forum and a dominant in the lifestyle has caused a stir. She is very adamant because she is 62 and has 45 years of experience that she is due honorifics and automatically is due respect. I know because she repeatedly states" I have 45 years of experience and should be treated accordingly." My thing is that she is very rude and condescending to others. She is not showing respect to others so why should she be given any? Do you think a title, age and experience automatically give one respect? Or should their actions towards others determine respect?

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She is not showing respect to others so why should she be given any?

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The only problem with not showing a level of respect automaticly is the impression you give to someone who really has been around, done stuff, contributed to what you have today, etc.

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ORIGINAL: sabis

She was deeply and horribly offended that we did not all immediately begin deferring to her vision of the One Twue Way, 

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ORIGINAL: gypsygrl

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She is not showing respect to others so why should she be given any?

I have a real hard time respecting people who don't treat others with respect.  It's like their disrespect rubs off on me.

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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW

I have been visiting another forum and a dominant in the lifestyle has caused a stir. She is very adamant because she is 62 and has 45 years of experience that she is due honorifics and automatically is due respect. I know because she repeatedly states" I have 45 years of experience and should be treated accordingly." My thing is that she is very rude and condescending to others. She is not showing respect to others so why should she be given any? Do you think a title, age and experience automatically give one respect? Or should their actions towards others determine respect?

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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW

I have been visiting another forum and a dominant in the lifestyle has caused a stir. She is very adamant because she is 62 and has 45 years of experience that she is due honorifics and automatically is due respect. I know because she repeatedly states" I have 45 years of experience and should be treated accordingly." My thing is that she is very rude and condescending to others. She is not showing respect to others so why should she be given any? Do you think a title, age and experience automatically give one respect? Or should their actions towards others determine respect?