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Have I become a discarded sub? - 3/30/2008 8:57:24 PM   
starrystarrynite


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Status: offline 		I'm not sure who else to talk to about this, as the Master I thought I had has not responded to me, and I'm unsure if he ever will.  So, here I go, asking for other's Master's input into whether i'm just a frightened little kitten, or do have some serious and valid concerns.

After nearly two months of texts, chats, and one brief encounter, I met the man I had decided to be my Master for a weekend, well, what was supposed to be a weekend.  Seeing as we both had to be discreet, I was only able to get away for a weekend, and we had been planning it for quite sometime.  We were originally supposed to meet on Friday, and be together until Sunday, but then on the Tuesday before, he told me that he would have to work on Saturday afternoon.  I was upset by this, because well, one, i have to be honest that i didn't necessarily believe him, and my original thought was that he was possibly looking for a way out.  I did not share my concerns with him, I told him i was dissapointed but since beggars can't be choosers, i would take what i could get.  I got Friday.  We did meet Friday, and had Saturday morning together as well, and then he dropped me off at a hotel as i did not wish to go home.  I have not heard anything from him since then.  No email, no text, and he usually texts me everyday.  Have i become a discarded sub?  Or is my little brain just freaking itself out for no good reason?
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RE: Have I become a discarded sub? - 3/30/2008 9:02:06 PM   
subtee


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Status: offline 		Sweetie, I think so. But, since you had already developed a question of his trustworthiness:
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I was upset by this, because well, one, i have to be honest that i didn't necessarily believe him, and my original thought was that he was possibly looking for a way out.


and further since he wasn't man enough to speak to you through whatever means after you met him, you're better off without him, no?

quote:

but since beggars can't be choosers...


why do you characterized yourself in this way?


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RE: Have I become a discarded sub? - 3/30/2008 9:02:14 PM   
MisterStrongWill


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Status: offline 		Well sorry to here things are not going well.It does not sound promising.To much "discretness" can be a warning sign of other comitments. And weekend only meets can mean wife or girl friend. I would not let it get you down TRUE doms are here.Keep looking. Drop me a line to chat if you want some more insite.

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RE: Have I become a discarded sub? - 3/30/2008 9:02:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		How long ago did you actually see him?

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RE: Have I become a discarded sub? - 3/30/2008 9:02:50 PM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		This may sound silly but which Friday are we talking about?
I mean was it Friday, September 12th, 1994 or was it the one a few days ago?
That could make a helluva difference you know.

Without going to far, I can say this, when I meet someone for a first time, if I am interested in them, they are going to know it in no uncertain terms.And if we played together I would have talked to her that night and at least the next day to see if she was experiencing sub-crash at all and if so, to help her through it.

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RE: Have I become a discarded sub? - 3/30/2008 9:03:10 PM   
Pyrrsefanie


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Status: offline 		Have you tried actually contacting him?  You stated a need to be discreet -- well, maybe he's laying low for a bit after his excursion.

As for him looking for a way out on the first meeting, people DO have lives.  It happens.  It seems like you may be psyching yourself up over nothing.

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RE: Have I become a discarded sub? - 3/30/2008 9:04:54 PM   
starrystarrynite


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Status: offline 		We spent from 4pm on Friday till 11am on Saturday.

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RE: Have I become a discarded sub? - 3/30/2008 9:06:27 PM   
starrystarrynite


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Status: offline 		Ah crap...i think ia m experiencing sub crash.  I feel sick.

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RE: Have I become a discarded sub? - 3/30/2008 9:07:51 PM   
starrystarrynite


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Status: offline 		I did actually, and have not heard back from him.  He usually contacts me right away, and several times a day.

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RE: Have I become a discarded sub? - 3/30/2008 9:09:12 PM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		If it was this friday, then you know something about him as a person from the fact that he hasn't contacted you
barring an emergency
thats what you need to process
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RE: Have I become a discarded sub? - 3/30/2008 9:11:10 PM   
starrystarrynite


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Status: offline 		I characterized myself in this way because i did beg for him.

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RE: Have I become a discarded sub? - 3/30/2008 9:12:49 PM   
CalifChick


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Status: offline 		What does "need to be discrete" mean to you and to him?  Do you need to be discrete because you or he has a primary partner that is unaware of this activity?

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RE: Have I become a discarded sub? - 3/30/2008 9:13:36 PM   
ownedgirlie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: starrystarrynite

We spent from 4pm on Friday till 11am on Saturday.


If you mean Saturday as in yesterday, I think that's fairly soon to consider yourself discarded.

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RE: Have I become a discarded sub? - 3/30/2008 9:13:44 PM   
subtee


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Status: offline 		To be responsible for yourself, in this case, you can be a "beggar" after you have very carefully been a "chooser."

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RE: Have I become a discarded sub? - 3/30/2008 9:15:07 PM   
Pyrrsefanie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: starrystarrynite
I did actually, and have not heard back from him.  He usually contacts me right away, and several times a day.


So wait, wait... okay.

You guys played on first meet, then he stops contacting you -- I can see how that'd worry you, but as I said previously, that in and of itself means nothing if you haven't attempted to make contact yourself.

However, if you did try to get a hold of him and he hasn't contacted you since Friday... oh yeah.  Hate to say it, babe, but sounds like he hit it and quit it.

Live and learn, I guess.

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RE: Have I become a discarded sub? - 3/30/2008 9:17:16 PM   
starrystarrynite


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Status: offline 		I am.  I am at the end of a long relationship with my boyfriend.

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RE: Have I become a discarded sub? - 3/30/2008 9:19:53 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		And just beward when he gets horny and wants a reliable discrete piece of ass again.  Unless you can be happy just being a piece of ass.

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RE: Have I become a discarded sub? - 3/30/2008 9:23:41 PM   
angelikaJ


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quote:

ORIGINAL: starrystarrynite

Ah crap...i think ia m experiencing sub crash.  I feel sick.


drinking fluids helps

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RE: Have I become a discarded sub? - 3/30/2008 9:24:13 PM   
MisterStrongWill


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Status: offline 		Did you meet him on this site with your current profile?

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RE: Have I become a discarded sub? - 3/31/2008 12:15:33 AM   
kinkypuppy2


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Status: offline 		Could be yet another case of a wannabe, or one who lives only in a fantasy world. or married and wants some on the side


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