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RE: Training a Partner - 4/8/2008 11:48:17 AM

sassysexygirl

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ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

http://xeromag.com/fvbdsm.html

There's some good stuff for newbies on this site.

greetings E/everyone
greeetings angel

thank you!! a great site to share with new ones

well wishes,
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RE: Training a Partner - 4/8/2008 12:32:08 PM

Morniel

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"Screw the Roses" is without doubt the WORST book I've ever come across.

That said, it's still worth borrowing a copy, for information purposes.

However, the best way to "start", is simply to talk to each other. What do you like? What does he like? What have you daydreamed about? What has he wondered about?

Then when you have an idea, look around at the sites mentioned, and hey, surf actual "pr0n" sites to see photos of what you're thinking about. Some of them will be glamour-porn, with models and sets and whatnot, and some will be what I think of as "housewife-porn" which is more like candids of real people.

But talk first, and listen!

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RE: Training a Partner - 4/8/2008 12:41:24 PM

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I'd say start out with talking,showing him some things online, maybe even leaving a window open on the computer for him to stumble upon. But if you're having sex and need a bit of spice, introduce him to your world by saying especially dirty things. I don't know the dynamics of your relationship but when I start calling myself names in the heat of the moment, Alpha can't help but step into a more dominant role. I got him to slap me for the first time (subtly, not "topping from the bottom") by saying, "this slut needs to be slapped for being such a whore!" (that reminds me, I need to find more descriptive words for a promiscuous woman, lol)

roleplaying might be a good way to start as well, if he feels comfortable with it. one of my favorites is an interrogation scene with a corrupt cop and a hooker trying to stay out of jail.. leads to handcuffs, name-calling, and most of all, him being in control of the situation. All sorts of fun stuff.

Best of luck!
-C

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RE: Training a Partner - 4/8/2008 12:49:50 PM

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ORIGINAL: Riesa

Not sure if this is the right forum to post this in but here goes.
I have had an interest in Bdsm and Dom/Sub Relationships. I had a previous partner who got me interested but we played a while, then we split, But before I had any chance to explore further. I met my current partner, we have been together a year, he know about my interests, but we havent took it further. He would like to 'play' with me and wants to Dominate me, but we don't know where to start with him learning so to speak.

If he has not shown interest in a year. I don't think he has much interest. It's not rocket science.

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