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RE: Conformity - 4/5/2008 5:29:40 PM

Prinsexx

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ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

I agree with Level - the only true nonconformists are the insane - for instance, Jeffrey Dalmar - keeping cold cuts of human in the fridge is about as nonconformist as you can get - but I also bet that he didn't ever think about conformism. He was too busy trying to not get caught, and find his next meat source. People like the unibomber would even be further along the nonconformist continuum - living out of society as much as humanly possible. That way he didn't even have to worry about driving on the correct side of the road, or wearing clothes in public.

the rest of us spend most of our lives conforming - we have to , to survive. I can tout myself as a nonconformist, but I still have to earn a living wage , and stay out of prison by following societies mores. Its in the privacy of my own brain that I can be noncomformist. Society can dictate what I do, but not what I think. And the more out-of-mainstream my thoughts go the better! more fun!

There used to be a huge chasm between my private and public faces.....as I grow older i learn to trust my creativity and lateral thinking more and more and actually get paid more and more to do so.
don't get me wrong.....I can still do maths and stats at quite a jigh level and i can still do deductive and logical reasoning. BUT I can also tap into that free flowing stream of consciousness and creativity.
I could be, have been near to and recognise the edge of insanity.
Internal conversion to external rules and regulations has never really been my forte though. Which is why i love the discipline and the control and 'shaping' that a good D type can give me.
It's like being earthed for me....pain that is.
The service role...that slave mindset.....well it's a perfect release from the freedom of non conformity.

< Message edited by Prinsexx -- 4/5/2008 5:30:11 PM >

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RE: Conformity - 4/5/2008 7:15:52 PM

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I have a strong desire to conform and sometimes this desire takes a very literal form: I want to melt into the environment. My secret wish is to conform so perfectly to my social environment, that I become almost unnoticable, indistinguishable from the background. I suspect that my desire to disappear is a feature that distinguishes me from other people making it hard to conform. This goes back to when I was a kid.

I think my urge to conform is closely connected to my kink. It is one means for exploring how far I can go in conforming to the wishes, desires, needs of another. At least in theory. Alot of people come to this stuff with the idea that its rebellious or sets them apart. Many d-types like the act of dominating rather than the result. They like overcoming resistence and when its not offered, they go out of their way to create it, looking for the buttons. Sometimes, I can rise to the challenge. Other times, I can't.

Oddly enough, being a deep conformist doesn't make it any easier for me to be a part of a group. Quite the opposite, I think.

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