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Wasted Time... - 4/5/2008 8:47:25 PM   
onlinesub1


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Status: offline 		I am not really sure where to post this, so please move it to the correct spot if needed.

I have been a "sub" (judge me for it being online only I don't care) for 8 years or so. Ever since I found collarme.com, I ran into a ton a people to talk to. I'll describe some but I won't say names (even though some of those #*@^! deserve it)

Mistress One: Ok, I been with this Mistress for 2 years. The first couple of months was really good. She controlled me so well, I would be willing to do anything. Her collar I had to "wear" was shaving a certain part all the time and make sure it stayed clean. As much as I hated to shave it, I was willing to. After time went on, she changed for the worse. I tried to stick with her no matter how much abuse I went through, but at the end I left her. It was sad to leave but it was driving me insane and she refused to change back.

Mistress Two: She was good but faked her death to get away from me. She disappears for 6 months and 2 weeks ago I see her online

Mistress Three: Another good Mistress that disappears for 2 years. I finally got to see her again but she won't take me back. She said her life was to busy but I don't believe it.

Mistress Four: Like 4 days ago, I talk to someone who seemed nice. First real convo from her: "Hey give me your bank account info because I need to do something about some check..whatever" I say no so she tells me to fuck off.

Mistress Five and Six: They didn't own me, it was more of someone I can go to for advice. One stops coming online and another just doesn't care about me anymore

Master One: only master I ever talked to seriously, nice guy and all but we lost contact over time. He didn't own me, just someone I could go to for advice.

Those are the main people I dealt with ever since joining collarme. I am still looking, but I keep losing hope everyday =/ Am I wasting my time?
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RE: Wasted Time... - 4/5/2008 8:51:22 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		Online submission is very difficult to stay connected to. You are going to find that you are going to have it rough being strictly online. Wasting your time, no, but expecting a LTR from online only is probably not going to get far. Most people get bored and move on to more real life things. You will always be able to find people to play with, but finding someone lasting might be your biggest challenge.
Good luck
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RE: Wasted Time... - 4/5/2008 8:51:43 PM   
xxblushesxx


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From: Kentucky
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RE: Wasted Time... - 4/5/2008 8:55:24 PM   
petpete


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Status: offline 		Submissive 1 : Get a life.

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RE: Wasted Time... - 4/5/2008 8:57:22 PM   
metamorpha


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Status: offline 		Don't listen to bitchy answers - they are having fun at your expense.

I was engaged to a man who "died" - chances are that he died only to me, not in real life.  I know the pain of dealing with that.

Hang in there.  You will find someone real.  Don't give in to scams (it seems you avoided one).  There are real people out there who will truly care about you.  I wish I could wave my magic wand and have you find one tonight.

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RE: Wasted Time... - 4/5/2008 9:02:36 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		Online is difficult.  I won't even enter into it, I need a realtime connection to stay interested.  Obviously you are getting something from it or you wouldn't still be pursuing it, but you are in a minority. 

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RE: Wasted Time... - 4/5/2008 9:05:58 PM   
onlinesub1


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Status: offline 		I like the whole online thing, it's just I never find anyone to stay with long enough. Hell, I connected with people just as friends outside collarme for a hell of a lot longer than those mistresses. I known people for like 6 years and we still talk together. Could it just be this website?

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RE: Wasted Time... - 4/5/2008 9:15:32 PM   
MissAngelandsub


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Status: offline 		Well from what I have seen if you stay in the forums long enough and talk in them you may find someone that contects with you. Also, do you think you would ever move from online to real time? Most people don't want online only they want to sometime move to real time... Something to consider anyway :-) Good Luck

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RE: Wasted Time... - 4/5/2008 9:16:49 PM   
kallisto


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ORIGINAL: onlinesub1

. Could it just be this website?


Yep, I think you've hit the nail on the head.   It's the website's fault.   Now we know all the ills of  the world are to be blamed on this website.  Including your own misfortune.  I had a water hose bust in my kitchen a few days ago.  I wonder if that was the website's fault as well? 

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RE: Wasted Time... - 4/5/2008 9:32:53 PM   
MissMagnolia


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Status: offline 		metamorpha, don't presume to tell this person not to listen to the opinions of the posters. You may not like the answers, but that's what a forum is for. The OP asked a question, and people are responding. There will be many types of responses, as individual as the people who are posting. None are right or wrong.

OP it isn't this website. You seem to have had an inordinate amount of bad luck with a variety of people over a long period of time. The only common factor in all these liaisons is you. Therefore, you need to look to your own behaviours.

Are you deliberately, or subconsciously, choosing to submit to people who are not emotionally/physically able to give you want you want/need? Why must it all be online for you? Why can you not take it to a physical level? Are you married? Afraid? Perhaps that should be a question you ponder on.

Yes, I know some people are happy with online submission. However, the chances of finding a dominant you click with, who also wants only online play and who is sustained by long term online only without the chance of meeting, is pretty slim.

As DV said so succinctly, people get bored with online. Many people see online play as exactly that, play, a game. Not something that is a forever thing. It's human to meet people in real life, especially those we are close to.

Anyway, good luck, but don't blame the site.



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RE: Wasted Time... - 4/5/2008 9:35:34 PM   
Leatherist


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Status: offline 		If you spend your entire life in front of a computer screen in a fantasy world-yes, it's a total waste of time.

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RE: Wasted Time... - 4/5/2008 9:39:55 PM   
atursvcMaam


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Status: offline 		i am perplexed.  how does one fake their own death on line, and who lets you know? 

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RE: Wasted Time... - 4/5/2008 9:42:56 PM   
Leatherist


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The same way one fakes glowing refferences for total creeps..

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RE: Wasted Time... - 4/5/2008 10:23:19 PM   
MaamJay


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Status: offline 		To a point it IS this website ... because MOST of the people here who are serious at all, are wanting to be together in meatlife. So though they may use online as a technique for meeting people ... they don't want to linger online forever. While I did the whole online thing in the past, it palled, though admittedly it was more rewarding for my sub side than for My Domme side. Basically that was because subs are the ones "doing" things ... whereas for the Dominant, it just becomes an endless round of thinking up something feasible for the sub to do without getting any really tangible benefits for all that work. An online sub can't do Your housework, wash Your clothes, cook You a meal, serve You a drink, provide their ass for You to really spank or sexually satisfy You in the flesh, only in the mind. Most Dominants ultimately come to want more!

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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RE: Wasted Time... - 4/5/2008 10:32:48 PM   
Leatherist


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Status: offline 		Amen. I couldn't put up with that crap for two weeks-much less two years. It's sort of like that game where you have to keep feeding the imaginary "pet". or it dies.

I'm afraid I am just not that masochistic.

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RE: Wasted Time... - 4/5/2008 10:34:30 PM   
MissMagnolia


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Status: offline 		A tamagotchi

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RE: Wasted Time... - 4/5/2008 10:35:49 PM   
atursvcMaam


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Status: offline 		one of these days i hope to be able  to take gullible out of my profile.

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RE: Wasted Time... - 4/5/2008 10:39:16 PM   
atursvcMaam


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

A tamagotchi


Gezundheit.

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RE: Wasted Time... - 4/5/2008 10:40:34 PM   
MissMagnolia


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Status: offline 		Fanx!! Now who has a tissue, cuz the dancing booger is just embarrassing

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RE: Wasted Time... - 4/5/2008 10:40:39 PM   
Leatherist


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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

A tamagotchi


Pretty much.

Be very very thankful that they never come to online forums to complain about being "neglected"

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