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Rejected - 4/7/2008 6:29:03 AM

MladyHathor

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ok Guys, time to share a bit, we Dominas share what it feels like when we reject or get rejected---well when we reject someone we get at times called all kinds of things---and the testosterone really comes out---so what happens when you reject or get rejected?? Or does everyone just go off quietly into the night?

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RE: Rejected - 4/7/2008 6:42:31 AM

Gemini1766

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I feel sad, down, and such. Never mad, never angry. I know things don't work out and I accept it. But it is a blow to the ego.

Besides, someone who rejects me... well that's their loss really and I pick myself up and move on. I'm intelligent, caring, attractive, traits that some appriciate more than others.

Cheers!

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RE: Rejected - 4/7/2008 6:43:02 AM

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That's what I do. Unless it's a ltr, and that's a whole different ballgame.

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RE: Rejected - 4/7/2008 6:43:41 AM

LaTigresse

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Those I reject just tend to disappear, which is rather sad.

If I am rejected, I just assume it was for good reason and don't give it much thought.

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RE: Rejected - 4/7/2008 6:46:33 AM

Gemini1766

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Those I reject just tend to disappear, which is rather sad.

If I am rejected, I just assume it was for good reason and don't give it much thought.

In my younger years, I would probably not bother to go out of my way to remain friends, LaTigresse. Once rejected it's difficult to face the one who has rejected you. Now, however, I'd accept that we were not meant to be in that kind of a relationship and I'd look to keeping the friendship going.

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RE: Rejected - 4/7/2008 7:43:02 AM

Leatherist

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It doesn't even phase me any more.

But it's not like I really invest any emotion or expectation into contacting a stranger-I'm just pleasantly surprised when someone is actually interested.

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RE: Rejected - 4/7/2008 8:59:15 AM

IronBear

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I never have dealt with rejection well internally. It is just part of my nature that when it happens the first think I ask myself is why? And then what did i do to bring this on? Then experience and logic takes over and i usually find that there were incompatiblities I hadn't seen and salmost inveriably it worlks out for the best. My public face usually takes the like ... Next! Do I get angry and nadsty aboiut or to the person who rejected me? Never. In a number of cases we ended up being good friends. If however the rejection was due to another puttoing the proverable knife in my back, I get icey cold and lethal regarding that person.. On the occasions when I have rejected some one, it is usually for compatablity reasons and try to let them down gently. It sadens me but rejection goes with the teritory of living in human society. I'm both Celt and Norseman, I brood deeply but I get over things and move forward.

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RE: Rejected - 4/7/2008 9:16:48 AM

MasterGreg43

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I had some bad and good, some quiet rejection, but people are who they are and u May start out agreeing that a release from consideration or ownership is warrented, but once the change back to a lesser life from the full real time lifestyle is hard at times, and then its that signing of contract that all u own belong to ur Master willingly, and He May give back what He choose to give back is where it gets tricky, but court of lawd favors contract, and sub have nothing but bad mouth left to do for which most submissive woman will find a Dom or sub that will listen.

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RE: Rejected - 4/7/2008 9:58:10 AM

Dnomyar

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When I get rejected I go to the other person and

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RE: Rejected - 4/7/2008 10:04:17 AM

MissIsis

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I don't take it personally. Like a new hire who doesn't work out. They may not be good for the job I hired them for, but they may be great at another job. The person may not be a good fit for me, but they may be great with someone else. I would much rather be rejected. I consider it a gift of sorts, because that rejection leaves me free to pursue other options that will be much more pleasing to me.

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RE: Rejected - 4/7/2008 10:30:22 AM

Luciferica

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Just calmly walk away..unless they torment me or are asses about it, then I lose my temper and tear them a new one

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RE: Rejected - 4/7/2008 11:09:53 AM

RavenMuse

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I assume You are refering to rejected approaches rather than when something is taken up and somewhere along the line, one or both realise it isn't working can call it a day.

Frankly until there has been somekind of formal commitment made, eg I've met them, there is a spark and they submit then a rejection is not something I am much concerned about. All sending an intro mail means is... I think I see some potential that maybe worth looking closer at.... if they don't see that potential, fair enough, it takes two to tango and until both can see and want that potential then you have lost nothing as there has been nothing built to loose.

Some folks have more fragile egos though and turn childish when rejected.... more common from male dims than from femsubs. As I hear far more 'horror storys' from friends and ex-girls than I encounter of that form of behaviour.

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RE: Rejected - 4/7/2008 12:25:40 PM

MagiksSlave

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Rejection sucks, no one likes to be rejected and how one handles regections defines their charector. Domanents who call names and throw fits when rejected always make me giggle because well that is so uncontrolled childish and un Dom like and i find it humerouse aspecially when they do it because they are the Dom and they should be doing the rejecting.

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RE: Rejected - 4/7/2008 5:37:43 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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There's either forming a different relationship, or going away quietly. To me there simply are no other options.

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RE: Rejected - 4/7/2008 5:56:39 PM

Lordandmaster

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Laugh...hardly.

quote:

ORIGINAL: MladyHathor

Or does everyone just go off quietly into the night?

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RE: Rejected - 4/7/2008 7:10:23 PM

Missokyst

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If it is some connection that is under a year, I just move on. No big deal, other than a bruised ego for a while. If it is internet related it is nothing, no harm, no foul, no impact, I could care less. If it is over a year connection then I have some emotional investment in him. If I have lost interest (which rarely happens for me before 5 yrs), then we stay friends but move on. If I have not lost interest, I find that little closet I have inside my head and retreat for a long time. The end result though, is always "we remain friends".
Kyst

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RE: Rejected - 4/10/2008 5:56:32 PM

AMaster

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Rejection is such a strong word. If someone approaches me and I know we don't have enough in common to continue a dialog, I say so. This does not mean there is anything wrong with that person, They are not being rejected. When someone tells me that I am not what they are looking for, I do not feel rejected. I understand that I am not for everyone. I move on with no hard feelings. No one can be all things to all people. The only thing that bothers me is when one just ignores me- not a "no thanks" or even a "get F*****." The lack of common courtesy and manners is what gets to me. Still I move on and don't feel personally insulted.

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RE: Rejected - 4/10/2008 11:48:03 PM

MasterFireMaam

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Mostly I wonder why, then just chalk it up to their personal preferences that really have nothing to do with me. I rarely get really upset over it, but then, I rarely invest much into it emotionally unless I know they're really interested in pursuing something with me.

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RE: Rejected - 4/11/2008 12:12:55 AM

SteelofUtah

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

Squee!

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Viva La NNY

and NAILBUNNY is GOD!!!

Okay Back to the point.

Rejected...... Well I take it poorly.

Just Read My Threads.

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RE: Rejected - 4/11/2008 1:01:43 AM

Leatherist

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Some have a slightly negative reaction to being rejected.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H1sS1TmXF38&feature=related

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