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RE: Rejected - 5/12/2008 4:54:11 PM

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ORIGINAL: MladyHathor

ok Guys, time to share a bit, we Dominas share what it feels like when we reject or get rejected---well when we reject someone we get at times called all kinds of things---and the testosterone really comes out---so what happens when you reject or get rejected?? Or does everyone just go off quietly into the night?

When I reject someone, I let them know why and then leave it be, unless miscommunication can be demonstrated. Then it's worth talking about.

When I'm rejected, I try to find out why and see if there's something to learn from. That's usually what dictates any further response, which, no, is not always quiet...

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RE: Rejected - 5/12/2008 5:31:25 PM

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If I reject someone or get rejected I simply move on.

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RE: Rejected - 5/12/2008 5:50:10 PM

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There's obviously something wrong with anyone who would reject such a glorious Master as myself. Therefore, being the benevolent Master that I am, I set her straight by 1) kidnapping her, 2) tying her up, and 3) applying the most delicious tortures until she learns the error of her ways and submits to me ... wait ... before you call the police ... yes I am just kidding. But seriously, who could reject such an irresistible Master such as myself?

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RE: Rejected - 5/13/2008 12:21:27 PM

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It makes a difference if the rejection is based on a misconception. If I am rejected because of who I am, then I admire the person who rejected me for her sense of wisdom. On the other hand,if she rejects me over a prejudice or because she misconstrued something I said, then I get really frustrated and it bothers me. However, I have always made it a point to be gracious about it. Indeed, I have found that on at least a couple of occasions, such rejections turn around later and a relationship (if only a good friendship) ensues.

Having read the posts here, I must say that I am not as easygoing about the whole thing as others. I really hate being rejected.

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RE: Rejected - 5/13/2008 1:05:51 PM

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MladyHathor,
Could'a sworn SG-1 did you in, like in season 3 or something. Oh, you're not THAT Hathor? Never mind.

The implication of your question is about deciding not to begin a relationship with someone, and my thoughts reflect that interpretation.

How someone deals with rejection tells me a lot about who they are, truly are, as a person. The Dom guys on here that call some sub gorgeous in the first email, then a b*tch in the second when they get rejected; well it just goes to show how immature they are. Same with the male subs who you have decided not to get together with calling you all kinds of names. There isn't much room in this lifestyle for immaturity, in my opinion. Anyone who acts like a spoiled five year old when they don't get what they want have a lot of issues to come to grips with before getting into any type seriously intimate relationship.

Aside from that, people get caught up in the rejection as if it was because they are somehow not good enough. They take it way too personally. It's rarely because someone is deeply flawed; often as not it's that the chemistry just isn't there. We would all be a lot better off if we didn't take all of this as some kind of personal insult.

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