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Prinsexx -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 4:19:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael Want some cheese with that whine? Yes please what goes with malbec? Some 'worse' experiences are acute....like a simple single cane. Some worse experinces are chronic though with a burn that never seems to go away. Getting out the thread........to plant flowers as it's sunny out/ That might help.

TNstepsout -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 5:37:45 AM)
The worst experience I ever had was with the first Dom I ever played with. I had spent several weeks getting to know him online and then met he and his sub/wife for coffee. He had over 20 years of BDSM experience, had been married to his sub/wife for 8 years and even did demo's and talks in the local community. I was very nervous and scared but went to their house about a week later for my first ever scene. It was fantastic. It was fairly hardcore for a first time, but I loved every second of it. Then came the 2nd scene. Without going into a lot of detail, it included walking me barefoot through an abandoned house littered with broken glass and when I pointed out to him that there was glass on the floor he turned to me with this crazed look and told me he didn't care if there was glass and if I cut my foot he might take it out and he might not. (OK- I got the message-shut the F up), attempting to insert a butt plug with nothing for lube but a little bit of spit and punching me in the stomach. When I became completely hysterical and began sobbing uncontrollably he turned off the "psycho killer" persona and I made it through the day without being slaughtered and dumped in a ditch, for which I was extremely grateful.

DisenchantedLife -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 7:15:08 AM)
Ummm... worst experiences? I think when he tied me down, brougth out piercing needles smiling and despite my hysterical (and sadly pathetic) pleas shoved a needle through my clit. It really wasnt that quick. It took about 45 minutes for it to actually be done as even though my arms and legs were tied 4 corners to a bed, my hips/body jerked every time he got close to my wee wee with that damn needle. Not being able to walk for 3 days afterwards was pretty unpleasant and when he finally yanked the ring apart (that he had superglued together) was also unpleasnt. Umm... it was unpleasant when i was I was "suspended" in a closet and I had massive cramps ripping through my body. I learned how to find a place in my head and breaaaaaaath through each cramp. Eventually he took me down and than yelled at me because I couldnt breathe the way he wanted me too. Being able to curl up on the floor was my highlight. When I told him I was done with a scene and I was bored and he refused to listen and kept wacking away with a cane and I went into a panic attack and he didnt give a shit. I ended up breaking 2 sets of leather cuffs and covering a hood in snot because I was absolutely hysterical Being bitten so hard in my neck - I've lost feeling in an ear for weeks. Having handcuffs so tight its pinched (or something) a nerve in my hand where I lost feeling to two fingers for weeks. Having 10s units placed all over my body while I was handcuffed to a metal chair and having my arm shake uncontrollably and than things getting not so bad.. so he turns it up and turns it up and turns it up.. and than notices one slipped off (or two was it?) he replaces them and eletricity goes shooting through my body making me scream holy terror. Oh wait. I've another one. Once because I tried to break up with him, he managed to catch me off gaurd - handcuff me/tie me up.. and than beat me with a paddle until blood went flying. Amazing that blisters can develop from a continual wacking of a paddle and when they pop blood goes everywhere. I never knew. Oh wait I've another... when he tried to shove a butt plug in that was way too large for me and I was screaming at him to stop and he kept shoving. It obvouisly wouldnt go in... it was too large.. an I only bled a little. Honestly, I think the past 3 years was the worst "Bdsm" experience I've ever had. So much so, I doubt I'll ever have the stupidty to try again. While I logically know it wasn't BDSM - I also logically know i'm not taking a risk to find "bdsm" and end up with something else I can't get out of. Personally, I think the emotional/mental aspects of it was much worse than anything I could list physically. I know I'll never let anyone put a hood on me again, tie me up again, use a 10's unit it on me again, date anyone that remotely has piercing needles, or use handcuffs on me again. But who needs that shit? It'd be nice to be able to trust some one or feel like its okay to get close to some one and open up to them with out fear of them using the insides of me against me to manipulate control or brainwash me.

TrinityDejavu -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 8:37:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DisenchantedLife Ummm... worst experiences? .......... OUCH! Makes my eyes water just reading half of that lot huggles you

tightlockup -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 8:59:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NakedOnMyChain What's my worst experience? Not being able to play. [;)] here here

BlackPhx -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 9:03:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DisenchantedLife Ummm... worst experiences? Honestly, I think the past 3 years was the worst "Bdsm" experience I've ever had. So much so, I doubt I'll ever have the stupidty to try again. While I logically know it wasn't BDSM - I also logically know i'm not taking a risk to find "bdsm" and end up with something else I can't get out of. Personally, I think the emotional/mental aspects of it was much worse than anything I could list physically. I know I'll never let anyone put a hood on me again, tie me up again, use a 10's unit it on me again, date anyone that remotely has piercing needles, or use handcuffs on me again. But who needs that shit? It'd be nice to be able to trust some one or feel like its okay to get close to some one and open up to them with out fear of them using the insides of me against me to manipulate control or brainwash me. Hugs been there, done that and know how badly that t-shirt can chaff (2nd husband) Disenchanted, but believe me when I say it can be gotten beyond. You survived it, that was the first step. Accepting that it stopped being BDSM when it stopped being consentual is the next step. There are, sadly enough, many Sexual Sadists as defined by the Psychiatric Profession who take up the trappings of this life choice and hunt for victims, not partners, among us. There are however a great many healthy relationships that are also deeply BDSM in their base where both people thrive within it. I hope that one day you will be able to find such a relationship. You will know when it is right for you to try when you have met someone who has earned your trust and not betrayed it. It will happen, when you are ready, when you have reached a point where this is not all you can see coloring every aspect of your life and perhaps when you least expect it, but it will also be the first step towards taking back your sexuality and power. poenkitten

tightlockup -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 9:04:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DisenchantedLife Ummm... worst experiences? I think when he tied me down, brougth out piercing needles smiling and despite my hysterical (and sadly pathetic) pleas shoved a needle through my clit. It really wasnt that quick. It took about 45 minutes for it to actually be done as even though my arms and legs were tied 4 corners to a bed, my hips/body jerked every time he got close to my wee wee with that damn needle. Not being able to walk for 3 days afterwards was pretty unpleasant and when he finally yanked the ring apart (that he had superglued together) was also unpleasnt. Umm... it was unpleasant when i was I was "suspended" in a closet and I had massive cramps ripping through my body. I learned how to find a place in my head and breaaaaaaath through each cramp. Eventually he took me down and than yelled at me because I couldnt breathe the way he wanted me too. Being able to curl up on the floor was my highlight. When I told him I was done with a scene and I was bored and he refused to listen and kept wacking away with a cane and I went into a panic attack and he didnt give a shit. I ended up breaking 2 sets of leather cuffs and covering a hood in snot because I was absolutely hysterical Being bitten so hard in my neck - I've lost feeling in an ear for weeks. Having handcuffs so tight its pinched (or something) a nerve in my hand where I lost feeling to two fingers for weeks. Having 10s units placed all over my body while I was handcuffed to a metal chair and having my arm shake uncontrollably and than things getting not so bad.. so he turns it up and turns it up and turns it up.. and than notices one slipped off (or two was it?) he replaces them and eletricity goes shooting through my body making me scream holy terror. Oh wait. I've another one. Once because I tried to break up with him, he managed to catch me off gaurd - handcuff me/tie me up.. and than beat me with a paddle until blood went flying. Amazing that blisters can develop from a continual wacking of a paddle and when they pop blood goes everywhere. I never knew. Oh wait I've another... when he tried to shove a butt plug in that was way too large for me and I was screaming at him to stop and he kept shoving. It obvouisly wouldnt go in... it was too large.. an I only bled a little. Honestly, I think the past 3 years was the worst "Bdsm" experience I've ever had. So much so, I doubt I'll ever have the stupidty to try again. While I logically know it wasn't BDSM - I also logically know i'm not taking a risk to find "bdsm" and end up with something else I can't get out of. Personally, I think the emotional/mental aspects of it was much worse than anything I could list physically. I know I'll never let anyone put a hood on me again, tie me up again, use a 10's unit it on me again, date anyone that remotely has piercing needles, or use handcuffs on me again. But who needs that shit? It'd be nice to be able to trust some one or feel like its okay to get close to some one and open up to them with out fear of them using the insides of me against me to manipulate control or brainwash me. Omg, I hope you find someone who will hug you, care for you and really love you. What a nightmare.

BlackPhx -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 9:12:56 AM)
A couple come to mind. A 4 year marriage that was very much like disenchanteds relationship, that I got out of when he started abusing my children. A couple in California that I went to visit who helped me find out that stepping on the clover clamp end not attached to my clit would snap the clit attached side off and the top of my head would head towards Saturn at Warp Speeds. Who then broke a hard limit afterwards and subsequently renegged on the return trip ticket stranding me in California..hmm not all bad as I got to meet many wonderful people on the trip home. I think the runner up for this however was the night I was playing in a wonderful club in NY. I was wearing a vampire corset..cuffed to a lovely St. Andrews and being flogged happily when two patrons decided to have a knife fight on the floor in front of me. They were serious, other patrons dove out of the way as the bouncers/DM's moved in and I discovered that there isn't a cuff that can hold me when a knife passes right by my vulnerable belly. I was off that cross and halfway across the room before the DM's got to them. NOT the time to be helpless. P.S. your whole life does not flash before your eyes..just the highlights. poenkitten

DisenchantedLife -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 10:55:17 AM)
I'm over it. No big deal. Its all pretty of matter of fact to me. Its okay people. Life knocks you down and you get back up again. I am back up again. It doesn't colour every aspect of my life, cos I dont think about it, I got too much shit to do.. I'm pretty much out of the nightmare. Things are good. Life is something to be thankful for and I am very blessed. I get tons of hugs -) Thanks. Poen that actually reminded me. LOL Of a time when clover clamps were attached to my nether lips and they were pulled and pulled and pulled... and wouldnt ya know.. the skin on the inside of my nether lips pulled right off with the clamps. I feel your pain! LOL Sorry to hear about you stranded in Cali. It does have loads of good people. = ) So for the OP : Seeeeeeeeeeee lots of bad things happen ALL the time. Its part of the game of life. Not stepping on the landmines and hoping to God you figure out which is a landmine and which isnt.

mistoferin -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 11:26:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Prinsexx Gang bang date raped (Rohypnol--flunitrazepam?), It is unlikely that Rohypnol would have been the drug used as it didn't hit the commercial market in Europe until 1975 and the first reported use of it for the purpose of rape wasn't until the late 70's. As to the rest of your post, I don't think that your experience is "BDSM" related.

NakedOnMyChain -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 11:45:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Prinsexx quote: ORIGINAL: HeidiAnn My worst experience too is being promised a good D/s session and ending up getting boring vanilla sex.:) Such a rough life i've had. heidi Some of 'em think their boring vanilla sex IS bdsm.... And sometimes it can be. It can look vanilla and boring to anyone who would happen to witness, but it's what is going on in your head that makes it a scene.

HeidiAnn -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 12:52:57 PM)
quote: And sometimes it can be. It can look vanilla and boring to anyone who would happen to witness, but it's what is going on in your head that makes it a scene. That is what i keep telling myself.:) For someone else it might've been a very good session, but i didn't get anything out of it. i'm still working on my communication skills. As my dad always says "a disappointment is just a wrongly set expectation." heidi

marieToo -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 2:10:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HeidiAnn My worst experience too is being promised a good D/s session and ending up getting boring vanilla sex.:) Lmaoo... Been there too.

marieToo -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 2:11:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Cuffkinks quote: ORIGINAL: marieToo I was once chased out of someone's house because I chickened out of a very scary scene that seemed, well, like he really wanted to hurt me. He went ballistic when I bailed out, chasing me up the stairs and into the dining room and telling me to get out of his house, I was rushing to get my dress back on and I grabbed my coat and purse and went running so fast that I twisted my ankle coming out of his front door and I fell down 5 cement steps. I sprained my ankle and had scrapes and bruises all over myself from the fall. I ran to my car, realized that I couldn't find my keys, and had to go back onto his front lawn (in the dark) to find my car keys. It was quite a nightmare. Looking back on it I laugh at this very hard, but at the time....oh my god. I have to admit...The exit was exciting by itself, but I'm curious about what the scene was. Oh god, no. I just couldn't.

ELUSIVE1 -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 2:29:46 PM)
I have had some wild, fun times doing TTWD-and I also take full responsibility for my own choices and well being...the only REALLy bad scene I experienced was a 'non-scene' with a former Dominant- we were in my room sitting having that 'let's both walk away with our dignity still in tact' talk when my dog started spassing out...I had to leave and see who was coming into my house, she only acted that way with strangers...I returned to my room and he was no longer sitting where I had left him...the door closed behind me and he put me in a choke hold (Yeah, the police aren't even allowed to use that anymore)...I am pretty sure I was out for a few minutes, but I stayed on the floor, and refused to move--yeah he tried to scene, tried the stern domly voice, I wasn't having it...he left, I am fine--lesson learned, no more breaking up with someone on my home turf...

Smythe -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 3:19:00 PM)
Not getting too graphic here but my worst experience had to do with a very bad smell wafting from my victim. Close second --->. The first time I ever went to a public event, I walked in and saw a very non-fit person completely sausaged in saran wrap. Smythe

Prinsexx -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 4:08:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mistoferin quote: ORIGINAL: Prinsexx Gang bang date raped (Rohypnol--flunitrazepam?), It is unlikely that Rohypnol would have been the drug used as it didn't hit the commercial market in Europe until 1975 and the first reported use of it for the purpose of rape wasn't until the late 70's. As to the rest of your post, I don't think that your experience is "BDSM" related. I'm not in the mood to argue over what it was.....and I wasn't in the mood after it had been put into my glass of wine....BUT it was neither commercial use and it definitely wouldn't have been reported. I would have reported it if I had been able to recall it but it took 20 years to do so. The use of a date-rape drug on the streets and its reported use does follow that time lag pattern. I did question mark which one it was in my post. Have sent you PM.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 4:14:46 PM)
Hiding? That's an interesting one. I'm certainly willing to go half on air fare, but it will take a few months to make the arrangements.

bozeman20 -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 4:27:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NakedOnMyChain quote: ORIGINAL: Prinsexx quote: ORIGINAL: HeidiAnn My worst experience too is being promised a good D/s session and ending up getting boring vanilla sex.:) Such a rough life i've had. heidi Some of 'em think their boring vanilla sex IS bdsm.... Vanilla sex day after day, year after year does amount to torture in my opinion :)

ResidentSadist -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 5:04:24 PM)
You are in public, you fuck up and tag a nerve bundle with a needle. She is prideful and says nothing but slowly faints away from the pain instead. You pull the offending needle and she comes to spewing vomit like a projectile from a horror movie. Of note, 20 minutes later she was fine and we were back at it.

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