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NakedOnMyChain -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 6:48:24 PM)
Oh, I forgot this one when I was posting my other worst experience. Unfortunately, it's the same dominant as the first story. I had never played with said dominant before and I always like to play with someone at least once before a public scene if I can. So I and my best friend went to his house and he demonstrated a few things on me. It was supposed to be light play just to give me an idea of his style. Well, I can take a fairly large amount of pain compared to what he's used to, and I don't typically make a ton of noise when I'm playing. That pissed him off and he decided I needed to be taught a lesson about using my safeword. He and his submissive kept telling me that I was a tense and I should loosen up, to the point that it became irritating. I told them that I was quite relaxed, I just don't make much noise when I play, especially sexual noises because it's not sexual to me, except in certain scenarios. That made the dominant angry and he retaliated by pulling out dual crops and cropping my ass as hard as he could. Eventually I called "red". It was to the point where my best friend, his other submissive was about to call the scene for me. My butt looked like raw hamburger meat and it drew some nasty blood blisters.

Mugiwara -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 6:56:19 PM)
Every time he smacked my ass with the belt, he'd apologise for hitting me too hard. :-/

BossyShoeBitch -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 7:37:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross quote: ORIGINAL: Prinsexx Gang bang date raped (Rohypnol--flunitrazepam?), at 14 years old. On the other hand you can now take some pleasure knowing that's been a fantasy of mine since before I was 14 and you've re-sparked some great masturbation fodder for me later. For some reason I feel really, really close to you now LA! [sm=bowdown.gif]

aBondageTop -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 7:59:27 PM)
Telling my girlfriend 18 years ago that I was into bondage. Now she's my ex-wife, and my daughter has asked the court to allow her to come live with me after years of emotional abuse from her mother. Of course she makes sure to mention "bondage porn" to the jury every chance she gets.

aBondageTop -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 8:05:58 PM)
My worst BDSM experience was telling my girlfriend 17 years ago that I was into bondage. She didn't object at the time. Now she's my ex-wife. After years of emotional abuse, my 15-year-old daughter has asked the court to let her live with me. Guess what my ex-wife brings up every chance she gets?

NakedOnMyChain -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 9:37:21 PM)
So was it seventeen or eighteen years ago?

Hippiekinkster -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/8/2008 10:57:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TrinityDejavu quote: ORIGINAL: DisenchantedLife Ummm... worst experiences? .......... OUCH! Makes my eyes water just reading half of that lot huggles you Really. Sick fucks like that should be hooded, dumped in a van, taken to some abandoned warehouse and have the same shit done to them.

snugglepet -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/9/2008 12:00:55 AM)
My worst experience was with a boyfriend/Dom wannabe, he made me feel comfortable and sex was fun, slightly rough, blindfolds some light bondage and he told me to turn over the he wanted to do it from behind (me being naive) assumed he mean doggie style, he promptly pinned my hands (which in itself was alright) but then pinning my hands and body he shoved his unlubed cock into me anally and despite my crys of pain (which i usually enjoy) and begging to stop, it only seemed to make him go harder and faster. So much for loving anal, which i hear can be a very lovely experience.

JulieorSarah -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/9/2008 1:02:47 AM)
In my earliest days of this, had played with only one, he'd been in the scene for years and due to the ending of a long term D/s relationship had not played for ages ... he new i was just testing the waters and was very kind, patient and tolerant of my non-stop questions, and ever stopping during play. He pushed me only that little bit further at each play. Safewords were always, always respected. It got to the point where i just wanted more. I found another 'dom' and the first time we played, i got in his car, we went to his home, i had no idea where we were. After some initial light play, i was attached by wrists to a solid wooden overhead archway another man (not arranged or discussed) turns up! No condoms were used! afterwards he drove me back to my car. I went to the first Dom's house. I was in so much trouble ... as he said if it had been a vanilla date would I have put myself in such danger? Of course not. I abstained for three months had all the tests and was all clear - thank god. and in the last month ... on here with a dom - we emailed, phoned and agreed to meet briefly for a quick dinner. It all went well, we were as each described, conversation flowed, and a good time was had by all until i walked him to the car, parked in what is a concreted empty city block... i'd made it very clear that living in a small community discretion in public was paramount. He undid my top, and as i did it up saying No quite clearly, pushing his hands away and stepping back, he stepped forard and undid my fly ... then two passing firemen assisted. He drove away and i went on my way. Later he called, felt he'd only 'done my job as a dom'! My concern was would he respect safewords.. His was i was not sub. .. we agreed to let it go. Both are rather tame in comparison to those before me in the thread, however i've learned from these and others ... don't put yourself at risk, keep the first meeting short and trust your instincts, if it smells a little off, it is ... however with the second i didn't see it coming and don't know what else i could have done. to prevent it

Pyrrsefanie -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/9/2008 1:19:24 AM)
When I was sixteen I wanted to be a Suicide Girl so badly that I got a fake ID and made a profile on One Model Place. Got a nibble from a thirty-six year old guy who was local and seemed okay, so I waited until one day when my mother was at work (because she very rightfully would have flipped if she knew what I was doing) and had him come over to shoot some photos. Red flag number one was when I confessed to him that I was underage and he said that taking naked photos of me was still legal. Red flag number two would be that the first thing he brought upstairs with him was a bunch of rope and some very evil looking toys. I'm going to spare you all the details of exactly what he did to me for four hours while my mother was at work. The worst part was that this bastard identified as a dominant and proceeded to blackmail my naive self into keeping quiet while he forced me into submission. According to him, if I told anyone, everyone would know what a slut I was, he'd say that I wanted it, and he'd ruin me so that I'd never be a pinup girl. Nope, he even had plans to make me an eternity cuff to go around my ankle to prove that I was going to be his slave forever. I kept my mouth shut for seven months. Seven months of being forced to kneel to him and do everything he wanted me to before I finally grew a pair and made some threats of my own. I slept with a knife under my pillow until the day we moved out of that apartment because I was afraid he'd come back for me. This was, by the way, my first physical experience with a male "dominant." The sick fuck even used to show me pictures of his daughters (who at the time were 4 and 6) and bring me drawings that they'd make especially for me, who he told them was his "friend." I never called the police and never told anyone out of shame, because I know what happened was my fault for being unsafe in the first place. I'm haunted by the guilt of realizing what he's probably going to do to other foolish girls and probably his own kids because I was too much of a chickenshit to blow the whistle on him.

Prinsexx -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/9/2008 3:34:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Hiding? That's an interesting one. I'm certainly willing to go half on air fare, but it will take a few months to make the arrangements. You're a sweety at heart I know. We just think very differently. I'm totally a divergent and lateral thinker and sometimes even get lost on the school run. If I ever come stateside I'm going to need a trackig device. Getting lost has always been my worse experience on any level.

YourhandMyAss -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/9/2008 3:37:26 AM)
hey fat people an out of shape people deserve to play just as much as you do lol. quote: ORIGINAL: Smythe Close second --->. The first time I ever went to a public event, I walked in and saw a very non-fit person completely sausaged in saran wrap. Smythe

SimplyMichael -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/9/2008 8:29:55 AM)
quote: I never called the police and never told anyone out of shame, because I know what happened was my fault for being unsafe in the first place. That was in no way your fault, the fault all lays at his feet, which should be cut off, by the way. You DO have a tiny bit of resposibility for being irrisponsible and stupid. It wasn't you that made what happened ugly, YOU didn't do ANY of that, HE did. If he had turned out to be a nice guy you would be writing about how it had been a pleasant experience. The fault is all his girl.

submissivemomma -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/9/2008 8:49:43 AM)
When I was married we played once. I was into bsdm and he wasn't, he just thought of it as kink. Looking back now i should have never let him near me with a rope. He tied my arms and hands behind my back really tight...too tight. My left arm started to go numb and swell up. I begged him to stop and untie me but he took the oppertunity to indulge in my least favorite form of sex...anal...without lube. Everytime he would move the pressue of his weight would cause my shoulder to hurt. When he was done he untied me. We had to wait for the swelling to go down before we could unrap the rope from around my left arm. Turns out that at some point he had dislocated my left shoulder and he had to pop it back into place for me.

mistoferin -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/9/2008 10:29:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Prinsexx quote: ORIGINAL: mistoferin quote: ORIGINAL: Prinsexx Gang bang date raped (Rohypnol--flunitrazepam?), It is unlikely that Rohypnol would have been the drug used as it didn't hit the commercial market in Europe until 1975 and the first reported use of it for the purpose of rape wasn't until the late 70's. As to the rest of your post, I don't think that your experience is "BDSM" related. I'm not in the mood to argue over what it was.....and I wasn't in the mood after it had been put into my glass of wine....BUT it was neither commercial use and it definitely wouldn't have been reported. I would have reported it if I had been able to recall it but it took 20 years to do so. The use of a date-rape drug on the streets and its reported use does follow that time lag pattern. I did question mark which one it was in my post. It wasn't meant to be an argument. It was more of an FYI in case you were really trying to figure out what the drug was. You posted that you were 14 at the time of the event. If your age is correct on your profile that would mean that this occurred in the same year that the drug was first synthesized and two years before it was available in Europe. Therefore the likelihood of it being THAT drug is pretty low. Yes, you did question mark which drug in your post.....but both drug names listed are the same drug. I got the impression from the OP that she was looking for BDSM related experiences and I am sorry but I do not see any correlation between what you posted here and BDSM. I am left to wonder how you make such a correlation and why you chose to share this particular event in a way that draws a connection to WIITWD. quote: Have sent you PM. Yes, I got it. I didn't have to look anything up, I'm pretty familiar with drugs and date rape drugs as I have worked as both a substance abuse counselor and a sexual assault counselor. I don't understand what you meant by "I know enough about micro dot, cocaine, mandrax (look it up) and nembutol in sex scenes to keep my mouth shut about most of it. And ketamine, and snorted alcohol etc etc." Why would knowledge make you wish to keep your mouth shut? Again, my post was not intended to be an argument but I have to say that I found it in rather poor taste to receive a "don't argue with me" e-mail.

BlackPhx -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/9/2008 3:45:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Pyrrsefanie I never called the police and never told anyone out of shame, because I know what happened was my fault for being unsafe in the first place. I'm haunted by the guilt of realizing what he's probably going to do to other foolish girls and probably his own kids because I was too much of a chickenshit to blow the whistle on him. I don't know how long ago this was Pyrr or where, but different states have different laws and Statute of Limitations expiry dates on crimes. You may still be able to charge him, or at least let someone know so they can make sure his kids are ok and he has not done this to someone else. You however are NOT at fault. Yes you broke your parents rules and allowed someone in the house, however, HE was the adult, knew exactly what he was doing and what to say to get you to do it. He knowingly broke several laws, blackmailed you and continued to do so. I am sure you are not the first or the last and prosecution for certain types of crimes can be done many years later. Think about it, but don't blame yourself..you were a child, and while you may have known better by the rules of your parents, that doesn't mean you deserved what happened. poenkitten

Carrera23 -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/9/2008 8:06:48 PM)
I have to thankfully say, I am one of the lucky ones I guess. The closest thing I have ever had to a bad experience was my Master getting too much of a wrap around on the belt while kind of showing off in front of his friends. After he gave me the good swat... he relized how he messed up and felt so bad. Me and my Master have pretty much always been open with each other. He knows alot of my history and is well aware any triggers or flashbacks I might have from play. He always seems to make sure everything is fine. Granted, sometimes in play, him asking me over and over "Are you okay?" seems to get a little old. But after reading everything here, I am thankful he takes that extra step for me. I just also want to say my heart goes out to every one of you that have had problems, (even the ones that only get vanilla sex when they want more [;)].) Life gives us a lot of twists and turns that maybe should not happien to a lot of us. I know I have had quite a share of them in my life. But we can't sit back and focus on things that went wrong, only how to make things better, learn how to make things better, and just try to be happy! (I hope that last part was not too bad, was trying to end on a happy uplifting note.)

lapresence -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/10/2008 12:48:26 AM)
My worst experience actually lasted for months (I'm only giving basic details - It is what I learned that is important anyway), and it was my fault. One, I took a man I didn’t know to my home because I felt bad that he had driven so far just to come meet me. Then I told my safe call everything was okay. Which it was at the time; we hit it off smashingly. But he didn’t leave and I didn’t worry about keeping up a safe call. I couldn’t even go to the bathroom by myself, at first I thought it was just a weird little kink of his. Slowly he let me know who he was and I became very scared. He’d made poison he’d wanted to use on his mother among other things. He let me know how he’d not been happy and then he met me. He told me that if I ever left that he’d blow his brains out in a store parking lot. As my fear grew of him, I was too afraid to get anyone else involved because he always carried 3 guns on him (and owned a lot more). I figured that I had gotten myself into the situation, that I needed to get myself out. I did get myself out. And I left the lifestyle for a couple years. But you can take the girl out of the lifestyle, but you can’t take the lifestyle out of the girl. What I learned: Take care of yourself first. If someone drives far to meet you, it is their responsibility to make sure they can get home. If they need to they can sleep in their car. If I don’t know them, they don’t go home with me. Period. I also only meet people who live close to me, cause I’m a sucker with too big a heart sometimes, and I don’t want to face that dilemma again. Safe calls are beautiful things. And if you need help, get it. Don’t worry about inconveniencing others. If it is too much they will tell you. But try whatever you need to in order to be safe and comfortable.

LadyLynx -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/10/2008 6:53:11 AM)
Pyrrsephanie, SimplyMichael is right, it is NOT your fault, and even the tinny,tiny little bit that is, can be excused because you were still a kid. Prinsexx's story may technically not be related to BDSM,(in the sense of what I think the OP was looking for.) But in the sense that the incident affected her later interests into the lifestyle Does. Quite a few times while reading this thread, caught myself swearing and wanting to take at least some of those 'so called Doms' and knock their heads together. The ones who raped, definately do the same and more to them. I thank the Gods often, that so far, my worst experiences were these: a so-so blah flogging experience. (which at the time frustrated me, because I love being flogged.) and when making out with a 'bed buddy' I (being in a slightly silly mood.) went "weeeeeeeeeeeee!!" he burst out laughing, unfortunately ended losing the interest. Oh and the same friend tied my arms to my back, and that arm getting majorly cramped. Ouchie!!

Justme696 -> RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? (4/10/2008 8:14:08 AM)
quote: Pyrrsephanie, SimplyMichael is right, it is NOT your fault, and even the tinny,tiny little bit that is, can be excused because you were still a kid. it is a great lesson for other kids though, !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!don't do it!!!!!!!!!. Don't fake ID's to be with adults. (for the rest i hope the guy drops de*d) this thread is hard to read.... iI hope all with bad experiences..are doing well now..and can continue there lives with a smile in time.

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