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ORIGINAL: aidan

If we're talking about sexual attraction, what inspires lust and that subspace high...okay...

For me, it's a sense of helplessness, of vulnerability, of fear. She is strong, powerful, a force of nature and I can do naught but weather her, to endure her whims, and hope that eventually there will be some kind of respite, some form of mercy. She stands above me, impossibly tall through perspective and the mind-altering chemicals that the brain produces, a ziggaraut of wild feminine power, a snarl and smile intertwining on her lips.

I can wriggle, try to flex my arms when she pins my wrists down. I can even go savage, snap and bite and roar; hell, she wants that. It makes her laugh, because this is all lead up to a forgone conclusion. She knows I can't resist her will, mentally or physically. She knows I'm at her whim, that she can do whatever she likes, and that I'm terrified because I know that will include a good deal of pain and scariness.

And she knows I'm twisted enough that the idea makes me slickly, stiffly, drippingly wet.

*pant, pant, pant*

So. A sense of physical and mental  power, and the inclination towards using it in a predatory fashion. Yes.

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ORIGINAL: aidan

Hehe, I'm afraid that particular Quest Item cannot be traded or sold to any vendor. 

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ORIGINAL: aidan
She knows I'm at her whim, that she can do whatever she likes, and that I'm terrified because I know that will include a good deal of pain and scariness.

And she knows I'm twisted enough that the idea makes me slickly, stiffly, drippingly wet.

*pant, pant, pant*

So. A sense of physical and mental  power, and the inclination towards using it in a predatory fashion. Yes.

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ORIGINAL: sjskuared
Love and fear are the two strongest emotions.  Being used, being wanted to that degree is exciting.  Being able to please your partner and make her happy is a high as is knowing that she has the power to torment you and train you to be what she wants.  As a man I don't usually feel like a sex object as women sometimes have been seen in the past.  Part of that is exciting to know that you can be used that way.  Another part of pleasing her is knowing that she is going to tell you what she wants and make you do it, there is a lot more communication and less privacy.

I don't understand what women see in men they dominate.  Both roles are against society's expectations or traditions.

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ORIGINAL: AllforFun

so in the end....we are adrenaline junkies looking to push the envelope to that ultimate goal....and what happens if we ever get there? I guess thats why Im here.

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ORIGINAL: Shawn1066
Adrenaline junkies?  Speak for yourself, heh.

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ORIGINAL: AllforFun

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ORIGINAL: Shawn1066
Adrenaline junkies?  Speak for yourself, heh.

Actually, I was speaking for myself. Unlike you, I dont not have an owner and thus have not formed that special loving bond. what brings you and I here are indeed different things, notice how I use "I" and not "we" at the end of my initial post.

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It may be against society's expectations, but it isn't really against our traditions; one thing I can say from personal experience is that women are pigs. We may not mention it at the dinner table or run into a wall because we're rubber-necking a desirable man at the shopping mall, but we notice male beauty and we objectify you to pieces in the privacy of our wicked thoughts.

That's the great thing about men who stand in the spotlight.  At the end of the day, I'm not sure that musicians, actors and athletes get so much sex for any reason other than the fact that women get to waive our society's usual eye contact restrictions on the female gaze for loooooong periods of time.  The longer a man is on stage, in the arena or on the screen, the longer we get to look over every inch of him, mentally undressing him and admiring the way he moves, etc..  No accident that rock muscians tend to wear tight and revealing clothes, or that gladiators fought half-naked.  The women-folk like to be entertained.   

Now personally, I'm a genuine voyeur, which is why I take erotic photographs.  If I avoid eye contact with a man, or avoid looking at him directly, sometimes it's just to keep control--he's so beautiful to me that it hurts.  I've been told that it can be deliciously dirty the way I pick out some pretty but unexpected piece of a man's body to eroticize--his lovely mouth, his thighs, his hands.

So to respond to the last sentence--what I see in a man I dominate is that he's a man!  And I like men.  Men are sexy.  The fact that he's a submissive man means that I can look him over, play with him, use him any way I want.  What more could a woman want?

What I can't understand is why all women aren't dommes! 

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ORIGINAL: AllforFun

Ok, my bad Shawn. sorrry.......