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A hot way to do this? - 4/13/2008 4:36:21 PM

junecleaver

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Let's see if I can say this properly...

I have heard a lot of people (myself included) complain about being 'checked in on' by the person topping them--like pausing to ask if they are okay, ask how they are feeling, etc. This used to happen with my dominant a lot until he knew me well enough that he no longer needed to ask me to figure out if everything was going smoothly. I guess it's just the nature of the beast. I'm usually very screamy and squirmy and if I react differently, he'll pause to ask me if I'm okay. So sometimes it still comes up. While I do think that in many cases it is necessary, it's usually not very hot. Make sense?

So my question would be...how do you check in on someone in a 'hot' way? Touching them? A certain tone? etc etc

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RE: A hot way to do this? - 4/13/2008 4:44:00 PM

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Trust?

I pay attention, but I trust that the person I am playing with will speak up. (Or signal, in the event that she is gagged)

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RE: A hot way to do this? - 4/13/2008 4:46:23 PM

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He has come up behind me and run his fingers or hands on me softly somewhere, or gently grab a handful of my hair, and in a "sensuously eeevil" way, whispered in my ear.... "had enough?"

I asked Him for water once during play - mostly because I was thirsty, but also to take a brief break from things. I kept my eyes closed and I felt Him back beside me...... He said, "Open your mouth." Then I felt his mouth softly on mine and cold water flow from His mouth to mine. OMG, that was the HOTTEST thing ever!

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RE: A hot way to do this? - 4/13/2008 4:59:25 PM

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my Master checks in on my on a very regular basis.. i don't know how i would describe it exactly.. but its always hot.
Maybe just because it's Him.. and i don't mean that in a kiss arse way, i just react very intensely to His voice, all it takes is a slight change of tone and.. poof.. i'm away with the fairys.. and yes.. even when He is just asking how i'm doing.

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RE: A hot way to do this? - 4/13/2008 5:01:40 PM

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quote:

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I asked Him for water once during play - mostly because I was thirsty, but also to take a brief break from things. I kept my eyes closed and I felt Him back beside me...... He said, "Open your mouth." Then I felt his mouth softly on mine and cold water flow from His mouth to mine. OMG, that was the HOTTEST thing ever!

Mmkay, that was super hot! *melts*

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RE: A hot way to do this? - 4/13/2008 5:02:52 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

I asked Him for water once during play - mostly because I was thirsty, but also to take a brief break from things. I kept my eyes closed and I felt Him back beside me...... He said, "Open your mouth." Then I felt his mouth softly on mine and cold water flow from His mouth to mine. OMG, that was the HOTTEST thing ever!

*puddle*

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RE: A hot way to do this? - 4/13/2008 5:12:32 PM

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I've only had one that would ask me things like "am I hurting you?" when he was fucking me. And once he very gently tapped me with his belt and said "did that hurt". I just assumed he was being careful and feeling me out because he didn't know me very well. I wasn't really turned off by it, but I much prefer the ones who aren't afraid to hurt me, and who "check up" on me in more subtle ways, like by just looking at my face, or grabbing me by the hair and turning me towards them for a look. I can't really blame a guy who wants to make sure he's not hurting a chick, but it doesn't exactly make for a hot scene. I think reading a bottom comes with experience. And I sure as shit would NOT want to be the dom. I think they have a much tougher job.

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RE: A hot way to do this? - 4/13/2008 5:19:32 PM

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hand squeezes are good ways of checking without interrupting flow

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RE: A hot way to do this? - 4/13/2008 5:43:14 PM

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I find it very hot when Sir checks up on my - very loved and cherished. I also love it when he runs his hands over my body on the parts that he has just beaten. I certainly don't think of it as an interruption in play.

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RE: A hot way to do this? - 4/13/2008 5:45:41 PM

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Daddy checks in on me more when we play publicly because the noise is so great in the club at times and hearing the subtle changes in my voice is more difficult. He usually gets close to my ear and asks softly, "Feeling ok? - Getting wet?" So while he is indeed checking in, it's sexy and like a purr in my ear which is a huge turn-on, but also lets Him know if something needs to be changed.

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RE: A hot way to do this? - 4/13/2008 6:00:49 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead

quote:

ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

I asked Him for water once during play - mostly because I was thirsty, but also to take a brief break from things. I kept my eyes closed and I felt Him back beside me...... He said, "Open your mouth." Then I felt his mouth softly on mine and cold water flow from His mouth to mine. OMG, that was the HOTTEST thing ever!

*puddle*

Absolutely

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RE: A hot way to do this? - 4/13/2008 6:18:33 PM

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Early on with my partners I used to do the same thing.... verbally ask where her headspace might be. It never really seemed to detract from scenes, but I realized over time that with whatever partner I might be with, I didn't really need to do much checking in.

With my partner now, I'm exploring something new to me: choking. Although I doubt I'd ever elicit a safe word, I do receive a 'tap' when she knows we're on the brink of crossing a safety line. Even within a couple of inches or so, it's possible to find a place where a choke can go on for a minute or two, and other places where a few seconds is more than enough. I let her knowledge guide me in what I do to her, without anything being said (relevant to stopping or continuing). Whatever other mood is going on is kept going.

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RE: A hot way to do this? - 4/13/2008 6:25:55 PM

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As for one of the methods I use to "check in on" My Love, she is naturally non present when in the grips of... extacy... so to try to get her to think, let alone speak is usually a moment breaker. I may just press my body against hers put my mouth to her ears, and in my special southern fried aussie redneck voice, say "Does this please you?" The shakes that follow tell me "yes". so I press on.

Always a great topic. How to be more sexy when not being. Love to read more. Hope there are some more good ones!

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RE: A hot way to do this? - 4/13/2008 6:35:39 PM

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Grab her by the hair on the back of her head-and look into her eyes.

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RE: A hot way to do this? - 4/13/2008 6:42:52 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

I asked Him for water once during play - mostly because I was thirsty, but also to take a brief break from things. I kept my eyes closed and I felt Him back beside me...... He said, "Open your mouth." Then I felt his mouth softly on mine and cold water flow from His mouth to mine. OMG, that was the HOTTEST thing ever!

*fans self* OMG that is hot.

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RE: A hot way to do this? - 4/13/2008 6:46:14 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

I asked Him for water once during play - mostly because I was thirsty, but also to take a brief break from things. I kept my eyes closed and I felt Him back beside me...... He said, "Open your mouth." Then I felt his mouth softly on mine and cold water flow from His mouth to mine. OMG, that was the HOTTEST thing ever!

If I were thirsty and some women offered up some semiwarm water from her mouth with the thought that this would sate my thirst I would be livid...

"I'm dying of thirst here....And you bring me four ounces of spittle laden water?....What in the fuck is wrong with you? Are you familiar with glasses or mugs? In fact you dumb cunt I'm pretty fairly fucking confident, unless you won the bronze at the special olympics, you might be aware that they are now bottling the shit....Now get your ass up and get me some fucking cold and clean water."

As far as "checking in" it is rather odd to think to think that a woman wouldn't say something if she was not enjoying herself....I guess it all depends on what type of person that you are seeking.

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RE: A hot way to do this? - 4/13/2008 6:53:11 PM

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quote:

If I were thirsty and some women offered up some semiwarm water from her mouth with the thought that this would sate my thirst I would be livid...

"I'm dying of thirst here....And you bring me four ounces of spittle laden water?....What in the fuck is wrong with you? Are you familiar with glasses or mugs? In fact you dumb cunt I'm pretty fairly fucking confident, unless you won the bronze at the special olympics, you might be aware that they are now bottling the shit....Now get your ass up and get me some fucking cold and clean water."

Oh God... I laughed so hard it hurt. LMAO

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RE: A hot way to do this? - 4/13/2008 6:58:10 PM

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Awwwwwwww come on schnooky guy, it was HOT..... and the water was cold.

Besides, how is sub suzie gonna put water in your mouth from hers, when her mouth is wrapped around the Domidong?

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

If I were thirsty and some women offered up some semiwarm water from her mouth with the thought that this would sate my thirst I would be livid...

"I'm dying of thirst here....And you bring me four ounces of spittle laden water?....What in the fuck is wrong with you? Are you familiar with glasses or mugs? In fact you dumb cunt I'm pretty fairly fucking confident, unless you won the bronze at the special olympics, you might be aware that they are now bottling the shit....Now get your ass up and get me some fucking cold and clean water."

As far as "checking in" it is rather odd to think to think that a woman wouldn't say something if she was not enjoying herself....I guess it all depends on what type of person that you are seeking.

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RE: A hot way to do this? - 4/13/2008 7:16:23 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

He has come up behind me and run his fingers or hands on me softly somewhere, or gently grab a handful of my hair, and in a "sensuously eeevil" way, whispered in my ear.... "had enough?"

I asked Him for water once during play - mostly because I was thirsty, but also to take a brief break from things. I kept my eyes closed and I felt Him back beside me...... He said, "Open your mouth." Then I felt his mouth softly on mine and cold water flow from His mouth to mine. OMG, that was the HOTTEST thing ever!

OMG! Yes, this is very hot!

The first time Master did this to me, I nearly jumped out of my skin, it was so unexpected. I was tied, spread eagle onto His bed and, after a bit (

), He paused and asked if I was thirsty. I nodded. I couldn't figure out how I was going to drink on my back. Master picked up the water glass and drank. I though it was another mind-f*ck and I wasn't getting any water. He then leaned over me as if to kiss me and I felt a cold trickle of water run into my mouth.

To be so dependent and helpless that I cannot even drink for myself is very sexy (and a mind-f*ck in and of itself.)

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RE: A hot way to do this? - 4/13/2008 7:22:20 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: hejira92

quote:

ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

He has come up behind me and run his fingers or hands on me softly somewhere, or gently grab a handful of my hair, and in a "sensuously eeevil" way, whispered in my ear.... "had enough?"

I asked Him for water once during play - mostly because I was thirsty, but also to take a brief break from things. I kept my eyes closed and I felt Him back beside me...... He said, "Open your mouth." Then I felt his mouth softly on mine and cold water flow from His mouth to mine. OMG, that was the HOTTEST thing ever!

OMG! Yes, this is very hot!

The first time Master did this to me, I nearly jumped out of my skin, it was so unexpected. I was tied, spread eagle onto His bed and, after a bit (), He paused and asked if I was thirsty. I nodded. I couldn't figure out how I was going to drink on my back. Master picked up the water glass and drank. I though it was another mind-f*ck and I wasn't getting any water. He then leaned over me as if to kiss me and I felt a cold trickle of water run into my mouth.

To be so dependent and helpless that I cannot even drink for myself is very sexy (and a mind-f*ck in and of itself.)

So, sooooo hot!
*sigh*
I hope I'm so lucky.

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