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RE: What can I do? - 4/15/2008 10:20:03 AM

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i think he's 2 years short of a ...um....er....

wait....maybe he was in a coma? and couldnt write?

yaaaaaaaa thats it.

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RE: What can I do? - 4/15/2008 10:33:52 AM

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Actually I had another account for sometime but never used it due to the fact I was over seas and traveled alot. Its hard when you deploy alot to find time to get online. Speacially when not all the places you are going have Inet access. I started a new account when I got back after I checked my old one and saw that no one was really sending me any thing. As for the profile, I made alot of changes. Updated and changed my status. I was oringinally a switch on my other one so I didn't see much reasion to change. But tastes change. I still need to get another picture to put in. I left my camera in my work truck.

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RE: What can I do? - 4/15/2008 10:59:33 AM

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My profile isn't anything to write home about but I am not looking either. I would add what you are looking for in a slave/sub/switch and redo what you wrote about the rope as it contradicts itself, in My opinion. Just My thoughts.
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RE: What can I do? - 4/15/2008 11:48:42 AM

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What I want to know is...what's a "Loli cloth"???

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RE: What can I do? - 4/15/2008 3:14:34 PM

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First response, just by reading your post. You have no profile. THAT could be the reason. Most people want to know what you are about, they want to know that you know yourself enough to post a profile. A single photo is not going to sell you. This is the Internet, you are chosen by your words, and if you have nothing to say, then why would you expect anyone else to have anything to say to you?

Now, I will read what others have said.

Welcome to the forums!

MoGa

I agree with Mistress that a profile is the most important thing that You can do. When i first looked at Mistress, my eyes were glued to Her profile's details and pictures. I needed to know everything i could about Her to see if She was what i was looking for. By not providing a profile, You are basicaly trying to sell a can that doesnt have a label. Submissives are more likely to overlook it because they do not know who they are looking at. Try creating Your profile and adding some journal entries and Your thoughts, it definatly helps people get to know who they are looking at. And a few more pictures wouldnt hurt too. Good luck on finding the right submissive.

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RE: What can I do? - 4/15/2008 4:53:00 PM

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I have been on this forum for 2 years and have had some what bad luck finding a submissive. I was wondering if any one could help me understand why.

1 - Read Stephann's guide on finding a sub as a male. It's a pretty good piece of work.

2 - I've been alive for 28 years and met a grand total of zero submissives who can keep up with me in the long run; I've been involved in "the scene", if you will, for quite some time as well.

Depending on your criteria and wants, it can be harder for some than others. To be fair, I'm not really expecting to meet anyone on here; I would suggest there are better places for you to look than online if you are male.

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RE: What can I do? - 4/15/2008 4:59:17 PM

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Be older. Young men don't fit the regulation stereotype of a dom.

Be a girl. More guys are into bdsm than girls. Chop chop.

Be rich. If you're not, you're automatically an immature person with questionable morals.

~~Fake it till you make it.~~ State how highly skilled you are at the fine art of domination.

Stop looking for a sub. People don't want something unless they can't have it.

Be an asshole. People are more suggestable when their feelings are hurt.

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RE: What can I do? - 4/16/2008 7:48:00 AM

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Men: Find a Woman here

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RE: What can I do? - 4/16/2008 8:27:33 AM

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OK so you had another profile and never used it, you have put naff all effort into your current one and you are already on here whining about not being able to find someone....... something tells Me that you don't quite grasp a number of the realitys here!

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RE: What can I do? - 4/16/2008 8:56:23 AM

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I have to dissagree with Real about meeting people from CM. Useing the search feature you can find a lot of people in your area to meet with. It depends on how much effort you want to put into it,

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RE: What can I do? - 4/16/2008 10:07:06 AM

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So you had a profile , left it untended ,you traveled ,you did not have the time ,you started a new profile , you changed roles , preferences,and you admit to not liking your pic , sounds like your understanding your own problems already .Living in a virtual box then asking why am i getting no responses when you emerge from solitary .In short Get out there , If your traveling then travel to some bdsm event and meet real live in person people . I am sure when your serious you shall meet people .

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RE: What can I do? - 4/16/2008 10:15:59 AM

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i must tell You that i perved Your new profile. It's interesting. But the picture (no offense intended) makes You look scary...And not in the hot, sexy, oh i want Him kind of way...But in the what the hell, creep, serial killer kind of way..
Good luck to You,
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RE: What can I do? - 4/16/2008 11:01:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: winterwolf23

Actually I had another account for sometime but never used it due to the fact I was over seas and traveled alot. Its hard when you deploy alot to find time to get online. Speacially when not all the places you are going have Inet access. I started a new account when I got back after I checked my old one and saw that no one was really sending me any thing. As for the profile, I made alot of changes. Updated and changed my status. I was oringinally a switch on my other one so I didn't see much reasion to change. But tastes change. I still need to get another picture to put in. I left my camera in my work truck.

Okay and all that is the reason you are having trouble finding a sub here.

Glad I could be of service.

Have a Nice day

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RE: What can I do? - 4/16/2008 5:10:16 PM

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Spell check. Seriously if you can't spend one minute c & p ing into word and running spell and grammar check, then why should anyone else waste a minute reading it.

That line about belting a sub in the mouth for speaking out of turn. Eww! Sounds abusive. You might want to reconsider your actions there. Like using clear communication to express what you think of as acceptable speech and what is beyond the pale. Also a learning curve. If someone's naturally sarcastic and you don't appreciate that, then don't belt her in the mouth for being who she is, find someone who naturally talks the way you like. And if they occasionally slip up, then remind them that's not allowed. Remember she's spent the last 20 years talking the way she does, it will take more than one minute explanation to change her patterns. It takes 30 days of everyday practice at minimum to learn a new habit. If you aren't living together then it will take a lot longer than 30 days. You need to be realistic instead of expecting an insta-sub.

You need to learn how to teach so others can learn. I see no signs of that. Lots of books out there that can help, courses at night school on how to have a win/win strategy.

You don't talk about anything that interests you. The only thing I know about you is that you own a work truck and that's from this post, not from the profile.

A new picture. Lose the hat. Have your chin pointing down, not nose up in the air. Smile. People are much more approachable when smiling, not smirking.

The rope comment. Sounds as though you used real people to learn on and fucked up hurting them a lot. If so, you need a course in how to learn things safely. If instead you mean that your worked at your rope work and knot tying along for months to be sure you were doing it correctly before attempting it on your sub, then say that. But personally I believe you took unacceptable risks by not telling them the truth. If so, apologize to them, and never do such a thing again. Go to workshops. Hell, go to shibaricon held in the Chicago area to learn.

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RE: What can I do? - 4/16/2008 5:42:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

I have to dissagree with Real about meeting people from CM. Useing the search feature you can find a lot of people in your area to meet with. It depends on how much effort you want to put into it,

Your mileage will definitely vary on this stuff. For me, it's a three part dance:

1 - I only have so much I am willing to reveal at first, and I am dangerously patient.

2 - My standards are very high.

3 - I'm not exactly looking.

If you don't fit that profile, my experience is non-representative. I think meeting people on here is also easier if you are older, which might account for some of your success, Dnomyar.

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RE: What can I do? - 4/16/2008 6:32:31 PM

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Alright....why in the name of hell would a submissive send you an e-mail when your profile would clearly show you hadn't been on CM for months? A dom who is active on the site and in the forums is lucky to get a few e-mails, a dom who can't be bothered to come online shouldn't expect any.

   As for finding someone now, I suggest you put some actual time into it. Lots of us pervs spend literally hours on this site: reading, posting, and searching for potential partners. You can't expect the subs to do all the world.

   I suggest you run your profile through spell-checker. Good grammar is sexy.

    I also suggest you find a profile that makes you look a little less..."special". That photo, combined with the spelling, makes me think you might have serious mental disabilities. Now, I suspect you don't, but a potential sub might think that.

    One line in your profile threw me off especially. "any one intrested in haveing a fun time at my expense(yes I am a spoiler) drop me a line and we can arrange some thing." To me, that suggests you are willing to pay to play. Which suggests there you can't be in a relationship for some reason or another. Which is as off-putting as the lack of capitalization and misspellings.

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RE: What can I do? - 4/16/2008 6:42:33 PM

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ORIGINAL: winterwolf23

I have been on this forum for 2 years and have had some what bad luck finding a submissive. I was wondering if any one could help me understand why.

Hi Matt,

i think your profile looks good. i really like your honesty and openess and your interests and IF i was 30 years younger and living near Chicago and not already owned, i would be interested in writing to you and seeing where things could go. But, since i'm not, all i can offer you is this bit of advice.

While i think your profile sounds really good, i did see some spelling and grammar errors in it. Some people really care about that sort of thing, for some reason. i sent you a c-mail with the spelling corrections and a few other editorial notes, if you want to use them. Good luck to you in your search. You're young and time is on your side. Some things shouldn't be rushed.

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RE: What can I do? - 4/16/2008 7:32:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: winterwolf23

I have been on this forum for 2 years and have had some what bad luck finding a submissive. I was wondering if any one could help me understand why.

Get off the computer and get a life.

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RE: What can I do? - 4/16/2008 7:42:31 PM

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RE: What can I do? - 4/16/2008 7:43:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: winterwolf23

I have been on this forum for 2 years and have had some what bad luck finding a submissive. I was wondering if any one could help me understand why.

It's the hat.

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