RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from?

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from?

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from?

Page: << < prev 1 [2] 3 4 5 next > >>

Login

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 10:20:43 AM

softness

Posts: 2918
Joined: 8/1/2006
From: Leeds, UK
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: camille65

Bugs. I'm totally fine with any dom wanting to protect me from bugs, or birds.

nodsnods .. what is the point of keeping a Dominant around the place if you cant rely on them to protect you from spiders?

_____________________________

proudly wearing the blue collar of consideration to DK Leather, Leatherdykeuk, and LeatherEagle of the UK KRueL Leather Family

veritas, respectus honorque in corio

(in reply to camille65)

Post #: 21

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 10:21:22 AM

lanie38

Posts: 120
Joined: 9/14/2007
Status: offline

Hmmm...I wish they would move this to Ask a Master...would be interesting to see the answers...

In my own experience, I usually hear this line spewed by Doms who tend to equate fragility and weakness with being submissive. Not my kind of Dom...

_____________________________

Don't be so humble...you're not that great. ~ Golda Meir

(in reply to LaTigresse)

Post #: 22

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 10:24:30 AM

faerytattoodgirl

Posts: 5824
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: softness

quote:

ORIGINAL: camille65

Bugs. I'm totally fine with any dom wanting to protect me from bugs, or birds.

nodsnods .. what is the point of keeping a Dominant around the place if you cant rely on them to protect you from spiders?

haha....and what if there is a mouse in the house??? will they try to catch it with a rifle? or poison guns??? like al bundy in married with children (who never actually caught it...cause they called the exterminator and he got it in 2 seconds)

_____________________________

I did not reply to your cmail.

I am flawed.

Imperfect.

MUST SPANK!!!

SPAAAAAAAANK!!!

(in reply to softness)

Post #: 23

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 10:25:12 AM

domiguy

Posts: 12952
Joined: 5/2/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: LilMissHaven

I've searched the site and found many places where protection is discussed but never quite to my satisfaction.

I'm constantly barraged with emails from Dom's driven to protect me and for the life of me I can't figure out what they are protecting me from that I can't already protect myself from.

Are we under attack?
Have aliens landed?

I know I'm coming off as sarcastic but I'm seriously confused, in this day and age if a woman can't protect herself there probably isn't much chance someone else can.

Silly lil' subbie.....

http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/chi-chicago-cougar-shot-webapr15,1,5227121.story

You all need protection from cougars....They have been known to consume, depending on the girth of the sub of course, three or more subs in a single sitting.

I will protect you. For some pussy of course.

_____________________________

(in reply to LilMissHaven)

Post #: 24

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 10:25:51 AM

LilMissHaven

Posts: 734
Joined: 12/19/2007
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: softness

I think I am mostly protected from myself.

We are in a situation where day to day I take care of myself, I decide whether this or that situation is safe, I make the judgement call son if to walk home or get a taxi, I decide whether I am well enough for this or that activity blah blah. I make all those decisions using my own fully able mind but also from within a framework He has set up to prevent me from acting against my logical better judgement.

As an example. I work in a pretty challenging inner city school. Its rough. There are drugs and violence throughout the school and so fights are fairly frequent. I have been seriously assaulted several times by violent pupils. I am known for getting stuck into the middle of the fights to break them up, I am a big girl, it rarely lasts long after I am in the middle of it. I love my job, I love the kids I work with and at the moment I wouldn't have any other job in the world. My insticts override any safety concerns I have about myself, and my instincts tell me to stop those children from killing each other in some stupiud fight. I have a duty of care to them, and I will always put my duties of care above my personal wellbeing. Needless to say this behaviour causes .. errr... a difficult conversation from time to time with Him. Last week a boy had me in a pretty nasty arm lock for a few minutes, I was fine and talked him down, but it could very easily have not gone that way. It is hardly safeguarding property to stick it in the middle of a brawl, He undertsands why I do it, but He still does not accept it as good behaviour. His wishes are that I keep myself safe and so now I follow those wishes. However difficult and challenging it my be for me to do this, it is for my own good, and for His happiness.

This example is of me being protected from myself. He knows I dont need all that much protection from other people. Many many Dominants do not accept that women who wish to be owned can also be fiercely strong and independent and self reliant, they see women who wish to be owned as helpless victims prey to any and all who would wish to absue them. Often this is the case, and while there are still women out there who are unwilling or unable to effectively run their own lives without "protection" there will be Dominants who assume we are all that way.

I am often guilty of brilliant ideas gone very wrong. The main cause being that once the idea hits I'm quick to jump on it without thinking it thru. Can we say...impulsive much?!?!?!

For instance, everyone knows I broke my foot when one of my horses stepped on it what only one person knows is that it happened after a very brilliant idea came to me on how to break and ride an unbreakable, priorly abused horse fueled by alcohol my mind didn't stop to ask what could happen instead I just tried to jump on.

So, you give a valid example...protecting ones self from themself.

The question remains though is it a Dom I need or a padded cell?

_____________________________

I must first learn to master myself, before I can truly be owned by one.

(in reply to softness)

Post #: 25

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 10:26:42 AM

BRNaughtyAngel

Posts: 1821
Status: offline

He protects me from the lizards that run amuck on his front porch......

. He just shoos them away so they don't jump out and skeer the bejeesus outta me.

And He usually protects my ass by fucking me on my back when we're out in the sun, so it doesn't get sunburnt.

And I'm sure He'd protect me from any alien

attacks or zombie attacks

..... but then, I'd protect Him too, so it's a mutual protection society in our relationship.

(in reply to LilMissHaven)

Post #: 26

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 10:28:24 AM

LilMissHaven

Posts: 734
Joined: 12/19/2007
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

quote:

ORIGINAL: LilMissHaven

I've searched the site and found many places where protection is discussed but never quite to my satisfaction.

I'm constantly barraged with emails from Dom's driven to protect me and for the life of me I can't figure out what they are protecting me from that I can't already protect myself from.

Are we under attack?
Have aliens landed?

I know I'm coming off as sarcastic but I'm seriously confused, in this day and age if a woman can't protect herself there probably isn't much chance someone else can.

Silly lil' subbie.....

http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/chi-chicago-cougar-shot-webapr15,1,5227121.story

You all need protection from cougars....They have been known to consume, depending on the girth of the sub of course, three or more subs in a single sitting.

I will protect you. For some pussy of course.

I own 3 rifles and 2 shotguns...And rarely miss where I'm aiming

_____________________________

I must first learn to master myself, before I can truly be owned by one.

(in reply to domiguy)

Post #: 27

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 10:34:04 AM

subtee

Posts: 5133
Joined: 7/26/2007
Status: offline

Rodents, slitherers and large arachnids. Maybe toads. Badgers for sure, those bastards are mean. Probably wombats, but I'm not sure. Your occassional cranky camel. Bears of course, and Hitchcockian birds. Bats, duh.

Sub-eating things like sharks and cougars. Gators and crocs and fish with teeth. That's just weird anyway. Ostriches and emus and kangaroos--these are your kickers.

Stingy things like, well, sting rays (Steve Irwin, RIP).

Things you may want to ride but perhaps shouldn't, like mentally unstable elephants or llamas.

Like that.

_____________________________

Don't believe everything you think...

(in reply to LilMissHaven)

Post #: 28

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 10:38:13 AM

LilMissHaven

Posts: 734
Joined: 12/19/2007
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: lanie38

Hmmm...I wish they would move this to Ask a Master...would be interesting to see the answers...

In my own experience, I usually hear this line spewed by Doms who tend to equate fragility and weakness with being submissive. Not my kind of Dom...

NOT the Dom section!! *whispers* Don't you know they're scarey?

lol Ok all joking aside I just honestly didn't think to post there I try to be respectful of their personal space and posting areas. Therefore, I posted here in the general section because I wanted everyone's opinion not just one section of the forum. I'm sure that eventually it'll be moved or become a flame war because someone forgot to bring their sense of humor but until them I'm actually learning a thing or two and getting a good chuckle.

_____________________________

I must first learn to master myself, before I can truly be owned by one.

(in reply to lanie38)

Post #: 29

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 10:45:54 AM

domiguy

Posts: 12952
Joined: 5/2/2006
Status: offline

They shot that cougar about a mile and a half from where I live....Kind of cool.

When they performed the autopsy it was determined that it had been feasting on subbies. Many environmentalists were outraged that the cougar was destroyed....said Ben Dover Director of the Lincoln Park Zoo...."Now that this cougar, a top tier predator of subs, has been removed from the ecosystem we expect the population of subs to go unchecked and rapidly grow...What you can expect as grocery stores and fast food restaraunts become more crowded and heavily grazed that an undernourished and sickly herd of subs will inevitably result from the lack of feed and overcrowded conditions. Who wants a thin sub? Although we will expect the normal mortality rate to continue which can be attributed to such things as advanced age, disease, continually making poor decisions, running with knives and rape...The lack of a major predator will have a ripple effect that cannot be ignored...The only chance to save the herd lies in the hope that a serial killer or two decides to prey upon the vast Chicagoan herd....A few must perish for the good of the entire population."

< Message edited by domiguy -- 4/15/2008 10:47:03 AM >

_____________________________

(in reply to subtee)

Post #: 30

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 10:45:55 AM

petitespitfire64

Posts: 182
Joined: 10/4/2007
Status: offline

I had situations in my life where I needed protection and didn't get it. While married, I was horribly sexually harassed by the men at my workplace. Even though this harassment culminated in me being beaten and miscarrying his child, my husband did NOTHING to stop what was happening to me. He wouldn't even go to my workplace and warn them. I felt worthless and unloved.
After I got involved more deeply in D/s I found out that a REAL man would have stood up for me when I was unable to do it for myself. I've since divorced, and protection is one of the things I seek most in a Dominant.

_____________________________

**Daneene**
"The right thing to do isn't always the popular thing to do"

(in reply to camille65)

Post #: 31

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 10:48:59 AM

SteelofUtah

Posts: 5307
Joined: 10/2/2007
From: St George Utah
Status: offline

Only because I feel the need to randomly play devils advocate will I answer the UN-popular answer.

Personally I am aware that I cannot protect them from anything really, but I have said I am willing to protect them from getting hurt again.

Many submissives are filled to the absolute Brim with sob stories and Horror happenings about how this guy came into thier lives turned them upside down and left them a shell of thier former selves. Sometimes it really happened too.

So I guess when I have said I want to offer you my protection I guess I mean that I am wanting to protect thier best interest and be the best most honest person I can be. I guess I am saying to them that I am willing to be different and I am willing to protect you from having to continue on being used and abused because I don't want to do that to you.

But then again as I understand it all the others guys say that too so I guess offten times saying I want to protect you is just a nice thing to say. It sounds romantic and is usually taken romantically but everyone else is right it literally means very little, but emotionally it can mean the world.

When I tell my girl I want to protect her she knows that it means that I was to keep fer from having to protect herself. I know that she knows how to, but I want her to know that I want to keep her from having to find herself in a situation in which she needs protection from as often as possible. In that degree when I say I want to protect her what it means is that I want to keep her safe.

Now the main problem is people use this phrase for just about anything and so it loses meaning after a time, but all in all I still think the sentiment is a sweet one.

Just the Devils Advocate in me wanting to play along

Steel

_____________________________

Just Steel
Resident Therapeutic Metallurgist
The Steel Warm-Up © ™
For the Uber Posters
Thanks for the Grammatical support : ) ~ Term

(in reply to kittinSol)

Post #: 32

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 10:51:25 AM

hopelessfool

Posts: 988
Joined: 7/29/2005
Status: offline

My (invisdible) D type would only step in when Ive done something stupid, like get myself into a situation with several very angry very large men, and they arnt there to protect me.
If you havnt learned this little tid bit of information, I can be a smart ass, and now and again get my poor little bottom in trouble. Its not that I need protecting. Its knowing I cant win this fight on my own, and run behind my D type and say do you mind? Also Spiders, and snakes he has to save me from those. The cat sometimes in the morning when she trys to kill me. Myself when I put various brusises with out knowing where they came from. The Stop Kitten dont move... Your about to run into a door... Again.

_____________________________

" I have nothing left to give, I have found the perfect end, You remain to make it hurt, disappear in to the dirt, carry me to heavens arms.....Dear Agony Just let go of me, suffer slowly, is this the way its gotta be, Dear Agony...."

(in reply to LilMissHaven)

Post #: 33

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 10:52:30 AM

windchymes

Posts: 9410
Joined: 4/18/2005
Status: offline

They're there to offset the "I'm just a pooooooor, helpwesssssss, fwail, fwoundering, chubbie-subbie, wandering the wowld (well, the intewnet) in search of a Big, Weal, Twue, Mastewwy Dominate to wescue me from the big bad world....and make me into a teeny, tiny, eeny, weeny, good, weeeeetle subbie just fow him!"

_____________________________

You know it's going to be a GOOD blow job when she puts a Breathe Right strip on first.

Pick-up artists and garbage men should trade names.

(in reply to petitespitfire64)

Post #: 34

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 10:55:31 AM

BOUNTYHUNTER

Posts: 9259
Joined: 2/5/2004
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: subtee

Rodents, slitherers and large arachnids. Maybe toads. Badgers for sure, those bastards are mean. Probably wombats, but I'm not sure. Your occassional cranky camel. Bears of course, and Hitchcockian birds. Bats, duh.

Sub-eating things like sharks and cougars. Gators and crocs and fish with teeth. That's just weird anyway. Ostriches and emus and kangaroos--these are your kickers.

Stingy things like, well, sting rays (Steve Irwin, RIP).

Things you may want to ride but perhaps shouldn't, like mentally unstable elephants or llamas.

Like that.

Bears are bad here as well tee and the ol' boogie man that walks at night all Thur the woods,hes partial to disobedient little subbies smile...
On a serious note if you depend on most Dom's for protection then you are into a world of shit...Most offer protection to keep you tied to them while they figure a way into you panties....I would be wary of those offering such but of courses there are a very few good guys in white hats out there...BH

_____________________________

US going to hell in a hand basket/

(in reply to subtee)

Post #: 35

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 10:58:32 AM

lanie38

Posts: 120
Joined: 9/14/2007
Status: offline

Wow this was a very serious situation! Not to mention illegal.

But that being said, this certainly isn't your SO's responsiblity to protect you from, you should of followed the proper channel, reporting this to your superior, filing formal complaints, seeking legal advice etc...

I think involving someone whom you have a personal relationship with would of only exacerbated the situation..

quote:

ORIGINAL: petitespitfire64

I had situations in my life where I needed protection and didn't get it. While married, I was horribly sexually harassed by the men at my workplace. Even though this harassment culminated in me being beaten and miscarrying his child, my husband did NOTHING to stop what was happening to me. He wouldn't even go to my workplace and warn them. I felt worthless and unloved.
After I got involved more deeply in D/s I found out that a REAL man would have stood up for me when I was unable to do it for myself. I've since divorced, and protection is one of the things I seek most in a Dominant.

_____________________________

Don't be so humble...you're not that great. ~ Golda Meir

(in reply to petitespitfire64)

Post #: 36

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 10:59:55 AM

Dnomyar

Posts: 7933
Joined: 6/27/2005
Status: offline

Hands camille my can of raid.

Sorry you will have to protect yourself. These people will shoot me if I try to protect you.

(in reply to camille65)

Post #: 37

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 11:05:01 AM

Dnomyar

Posts: 7933
Joined: 6/27/2005
Status: offline

petitie I like how your protecting my ass from getting burnt from a hot seat on that bike.

(in reply to Dnomyar)

Post #: 38

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 11:08:35 AM

domiguy

Posts: 12952
Joined: 5/2/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: petitespitfire64

I had situations in my life where I needed protection and didn't get it. While married, I was horribly sexually harassed by the men at my workplace. Even though this harassment culminated in me being beaten and miscarrying his child, my husband did NOTHING to stop what was happening to me. He wouldn't even go to my workplace and warn them. I felt worthless and unloved.
After I got involved more deeply in D/s I found out that a REAL man would have stood up for me when I was unable to do it for myself. I've since divorced, and protection is one of the things I seek most in a Dominant.

I can see that it is clear that you really needed a guy to tell you to quit your job...How else would you be expected to arrive at such a determination?.....

Watch out I think there is a cougar behind you.

< Message edited by domiguy -- 4/15/2008 11:10:43 AM >

_____________________________

(in reply to petitespitfire64)

Post #: 39

RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 11:10:07 AM

orfunboi

Posts: 1223
Joined: 10/22/2005
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: LilMissHaven

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Whyyyyyyyyy don't you know?!?!?!

They are protecting you from the other big bad eeeeeeeeeebilllll doms!!!

(because they are afraid you will find out what a putz they are and run off to a "REAL" Dom!)

I will not laugh
I will not laugh
*smothers a giggle*
I will not laugh
I will not laugh
Ah screw it

Yea, go for it, I did

(in reply to LilMissHaven)

Post #: 40

Page: << < prev 1 [2] 3 4 5 next > >>

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from?

Page: << < prev 1 [2] 3 4 5 next > >>

Jump to:

New Messages	No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages	Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages	Locked w/o New Messages

Post New Thread

Reply to Message

Post New Poll

Submit Vote

Delete My Own Post

Delete My Own Thread

Rate Posts

Collarchat.com © 2025

Terms of Service

0.078