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RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 4:18:58 PM

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huh?

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Illusions u live in due to ur fears and once u overcome it, u come to realize what u just did and accept it as is!! u grow into acceptance of the fact that u do feel better & very secured when ur Dom is around unless He is the cause of ur fears.

ur confused? what part don't u understand... btw u r soo-oo beautiful to meeee...can't u c?????

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RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 4:38:15 PM

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I didn't have the time or energy do read the five pages of responses to this thread before i posted. i usually read all before I respond...but i have found from reading numerous profiles of Doms who purport to protect submissives from others the very ones they need to be protected from in a bunch of cases...when i was looking for many years i always steered away from those types of profiles...it smacks to me of the famous line "those who can do those who can't teach" or in this case "protect"..but i have nothing against real teachers as they are the backbone of society...

edited to add: I thought of this some more after i posted. Since i never really dated till i was 41 years old (being 17 to 41 in the same relationship) and had some common sense in place...maybe if i was 18-30 years old i can see where i could have wanted someone to protect me or felt it was a good thing even if it wasn't...but..i would learn soon enough the same thing i talked about above...ha ha

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RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 4:42:31 PM

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THEY ARE PROTECTING YOU FROM ME...

I am known for eating just the labia of a newbie and throwing the rest away.

What a waste of the "other"white meat! Don't you know that there are starving BDSM participants in Bangladesh!
Shame on you!

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RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 4:46:26 PM

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White meat?? it is red meat, more pink, unless you like it spicy, the Dark meat!, yum.

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RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 4:51:45 PM

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I choose to protect My kitten from herself. She is extreamly gulible in that when some one ( mainly a Dom) will come along and tell her that they want to give her the moon and the stars and then they fall thru, she gets crushed and she goes into a depression to end all depression. I have explained to her, and given her affirmations to assert in her mind that " she does not NEED a man to complete her". Another thing I work on with her is that she feels that to be of any use, she needs to constantly spend money on people. I had affirmations in place that she "is important simply because of who she is not what she has to offer." These seem to be working, and from what most define as a soft willed, fragile girl, has emerged the beginnings of the very strong very independant woman that I know that she is.

I would define that as protection worth having. Anything else is as useless as trading protection from cougars for pussy.

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RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 5:01:36 PM

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I am gonna guess that they are protecting us from harm or damage or the big cruel world. I know I can hold my own, and fend for myself, but that sickeningly sweet romantic part of me finds it cute that a man would want to step in and make sure no harm became of me...

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RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 5:10:08 PM

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White meat?? it is red meat, more pink, unless you like it spicy, the Dark meat!, yum.

{{ears perk up}}

Oy! Did someone say dark meat????

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RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 5:26:03 PM

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Well i don't know about subbies/slaves needing protection but i think my bro-in-law needs protecting from himself. Perfect example: recently he decided it would be a good thing to go down an icy hill standing on a piece of plastic. Before going down, he said "What could go wrong?" to my sis. He then started down the hill, went flying and almost felt his ankle snap.

This is but one of many "good" ideas he has had over the 14 years we have known him. Personally i think he is badly in need of some help but when i suggest it, he just laughs...

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RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 5:33:58 PM

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i didn't even try to read through the whole of the thread, but Ma'am most often protects me from myself from things like (these all have happened) 1) falling off of floors 2) stepping on my own knees 3) repeatedly kicking myself in the balls (though the first was Her fault, even if i am obligated to accept the responsibility *wink*)

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RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 5:40:03 PM

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I had situations in my life where I needed protection and didn't get it. While married, I was horribly sexually harassed by the men at my workplace. Even though this harassment culminated in me being beaten and miscarrying his child, my husband did NOTHING to stop what was happening to me. He wouldn't even go to my workplace and warn them. I felt worthless and unloved.
After I got involved more deeply in D/s I found out that a REAL man would have stood up for me when I was unable to do it for myself. I've since divorced, and protection is one of the things I seek most in a Dominant.

Isn't that kind of "protection" best coming from HR and the cops, and not some guy (husband) showing up and threatening the harrassers?

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RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 5:48:44 PM

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RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 6:14:42 PM

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Cougars....They are the only thing in this Country aside from a grizzly that take down a charging sub.

Be afraid...They are everywhere.

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,351337,00.html

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RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 6:17:12 PM

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Sometimes He just protects me from myself..

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RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 6:20:02 PM

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Cougars....They are the only thing in this Country aside from a grizzly that take down a charging sub.

Be afraid...They are everywhere.

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,351337,00.html

i thought you were talking about slightly older women going for younger men, hehe

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RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 6:25:27 PM

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Not much.

It's basically a chest beating scheme to attempt to justify control. I personally think the overblown romantic conceptualizations and rationalizations behind most of it is ludicrous.

If you want to be owned-find someone competent to do it.

That's all the justification you really need-unless you are so stuck in the vanilla world that you can't imagine doing it any other way.

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RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 6:34:01 PM

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Not much.

It's basically a chest beating scheme to attempt to justify control. I personally think the overblown romantic conceptualizations and rationalizations behind most of it is ludicrous.

If you want to be owned-find someone competent to do it.

That's all the justification you really need-unless you are so stuck in the vanilla world that you can't imagine doing it any other way.

Agree 100% ...Even in the 'nilla world people are hooking up on a regular basis...Going to fuck a stranger tonight after the Cub game....Oh my God! I forgot the number of my safe call....Oh no! I'm going to die.

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RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 6:37:36 PM

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Cougars....They are the only thing in this Country aside from a grizzly that take down a charging sub.

Be afraid...They are everywhere.

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,351337,00.html

i thought you were talking about slightly older women going for younger men, hehe

lol...It crossed my mind...But for some reason I can't picture an "older woman" taking down a charging sub. Unless they haven't got any in quite some time....A desperate cougar is one of the most dangerous animals to confront.

Marlin Perkins: I'll stay in the truck while Jim approaches the cougar with a rope....The cougar appears to be in heat. If jim loses his footing it could be dangerous.

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RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 6:38:22 PM

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To be less flip than i was in my last answer, other than protecting myself from my foolishness and habit of overthinking; even if Ma'am doesn't actively protect me from tangible danger, i feel safe when i'm with Her. Isn't that better than having a Dame (feminine of Knight) in shining leather waiting to give me happily ever after?

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RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 6:42:13 PM

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Marlin Perkins: I'll stay in the truck while Jim approaches the cougar with a rope....The cougar appears to be in heat. If jim loses his footing it could be dangerous.

*snicker* I loved that show!

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RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? - 4/15/2008 6:42:44 PM

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There are still a few good men out there, the first responsibility falls to the sub on who she decides to trust with her well being. I at first trusted the wrong person that responsibility for that mistake falls entirely on MY shoulders nobody else's.

Master has never used the word 'protected' with me. He never promised to look after me, to save me from myself, or anything like that. He knows I can handle my world and all that entails. He enjoys having a strong, intelligent submissive. Interestingly enough, though, I do feel protected with him. In the sense that I know he won't hurt me intentionally. He wouldn't harm me. I am safe with him, both physically and emotionally. In that sense, I feel very protected. I've been hurt in the past, and feel a bit bruised inside because of it. The faith I have in this relationship is helping me heal. It may sound corny, but it is as it is. I feel I can be vulnerable with him without the fear of being emotionally trampled on.

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