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RE: You'll do as i say... - 4/18/2008 10:26:08 AM

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No, or else i'd be a Domme. *chuckle*

It's in the person's nature whether they're sub or Dom/me. Their nature can be influenced by events and upbringing, but it doesn't create a Dominant future. It may, however, create a rebellious child or a very deep chasm in the parent/child relationship.

yes but what im going for...is...the old saying.....that we end up being just like our parents. so if you have a dominant parent...you become dominant. but it can also backfire and create a scared submissive person.

I'd argue that the above approach to parenting is far from dominant, I'm not even sure I'd call it domineering so much as angry and insecure. Threating your child (whatever the age) seems to me like an out of control person and I don't think out of control equals dominant.

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RE: You'll do as i say... - 4/18/2008 10:27:05 AM

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faery try writing to prisoners. I spanked my son and daughter only once. After that the implied threat of a beating was enough. My son is 39 and 6'4 and he will still stand a distance away if he thinks I will say something to him. Go'es to show implied threats work great.

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RE: You'll do as i say... - 4/18/2008 10:31:15 AM

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My Dad used the Belt and any other Material that could be bent into a Loop to Beat my ass with.

Today I do not like being hit in any way and require that the person I am with enjoy what I am doing to them.

And I refuse to use belts.

Now do I think what My dad did was wrong? Nope! To this day I still believe I deserved every last whoopin I ever got.

Now Mom Yelling at me my entire childhood...... that really fucked me up, seriously, I still wake up in a cold sweat from time to time.

But I Yell a LOT and it is something I try to keep a lid on as often as I can.

So Freud would have a field day with me..... just after he came down off the cocaine.

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RE: You'll do as i say... - 4/18/2008 10:38:09 AM

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This is just a take on the whole "We are the sum of our experiences" argument that many 'nurture' proponents use in the nature Vs nurture debate.

It is rather flawed however because how We process those experiences will depend on our base nature. For some a dictatorial parent will be obayed, a pattern of yielding formed and a submissive adult ,,,, the same parent maybe faced (As My Own mother was) with a stone wall of rufusal "want to pull the whole your house your rules crap? Hasta la vista, I'm outta here", no yielding, no compromise, a pattern of stubbourn self-reliance and a Dominant adult.

Everything has an effect, nothing (in isolation) 'causes' it.

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