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My questions: What BDSM activities are always wrong .. not for just for you but for anyone? Why? Is there an activitiy within BDSM which if engaged in by someone you would believe them to need mental health therapy? Would you deem a dominant who engages in the activity to be automatically abusive despite the consent? If someone were engaging in a practice which you deem is wrong for them, would you point this out online? In person? Would you consider someone calling YKINOK to be wearing a BDSM Police Badge and is it okay for someone to wear that badge?
Celeste
You said BDSM activities rather than M/s or D/s activities which may change things a bit. But Going with the general theme here as I understand it - is there anything two consenting adults might do which I think no one should do (whether or not bondage related)?
I think fostering substance abuse addictions is unethical. I think turning your submissive into your own personal hit man is unethical (although tempting, ha!). I think playing with the dead is disrespectful, unless of course the dead, before actually being dead, made a request that he or she wanted to be played with. I think bringing harm to other innocent beings (human or non-human) is wrong and by that I mean do not pull in other creatures that may not know and understand what is happening, and cause them undue distress.
But for the most part, whatever two consenting adults want to do within the context of their personal expression and relationship, go for it.
Now, regarding mental health? I can only quote what MR said, because I fully agree with it: "Psychiatrists spend weeks getting to know patients before making a diagnosis. It's a bit silly to think that I could do it in three paragraphs."
That was brilliant because we do see a lot of Internet Shrinks here. It's enough to make you crazy!! 
As to your next question:
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Oh, btw everyone, if you have ever been on the receiving end of YKINOK, please feel free to share your experience and what brought such attention to you.
As the song goes..."Where do I begin?!"
Let's see, I engage in ass-to-mouth without scouring with ammonia and peroxide first (sarcasm), so my Master is abusive and does not have a care in the world about my health and well being and I must flee!! Flee for the hills to get away from this awful man!
I drove 2 hours to give him a blow job once and it stormed on my way home and took me 4 hours to return. This was somehow converted to him making me drive in a snow storm (in San Francisco???) and laughing at me all the while! Bad, bad dom. Evil man. I must run and run now!
He rarely uses lubricant when taking me anally. Do we not know this can kill me? This is NOT ok, you know. To not use lubricant. He apparently has no regard for my well being (even though I beg for it because it's hot to me, but then I'm mentally ill according to some here).
I was in an abusive marriage. This somehow makes me totally unqualified to partake in anything BDSM.
I am not part of any local community, which somehow removes any credibility I have to say anything on these boards.
I kissed his feet at the Las Vegas airport, which was a really awful thing according to some, as I subjected my "kink" on the world at large.
I don't limit what he can do to me, which, according to many, qualifies me as mentally ill.
He let a stranger come use a dildo on me, which was one of the most bonding moments between Mr. Wonderful and I, for reasons too involved to explain here, but according to some, he has no respect for me and doesn't care about me.
We engage in (drum roll and prepare for gasps) scat activities, which apparently is on "the universal standard limit list." So I am gross, mentally unstable, uncared about, and a count down away from death.
I actually do find chainsaws to be frightenly hot, which makes me a danger to society.
Oh, and because I claim to do some of these things, I must somehow find myself to be an elitist, an uber-slave, holier than thou, and a goddess to all.
The list goes on. All of these judgments, none of these people know me personally. I take you back to MR's quote: "Psychiatrists spend weeks getting to know patients before making a diagnosis. It's a bit silly to think that I could do it in three paragraphs."
However some of the therapists that I have been to actually took months, not weeks, before beginning to understand who they were dealing with.
Interesting thread! Sorry for the ramble, but I had fun putting it together. 
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