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ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves

We give sex lessons on this and here's a few helpful pointers from those training classes.

-A submissive is there to serve, so if a Mistress wants sex the sub needs to be selfless, attentive, observant, and obedient.

-The sub must ask the Mistress what she wants. The sex is for her, not him.

-The sub must not ask or expect anything in return. That is up to the Mistress.

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ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued

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DominantJenny:
As has been said, everyone is different.  I very, very rarely want that kind of aggression from my partner... and I, too, am more than happy to hear "Mistress, may I fuck you?".  On those occasions when he tries to initiate very aggressive behaviors, I communicate pretty clearly through either body language or words as to whether it's a good idea at the moment.  Sometimes, I like to turn it on its head, too.

You talk about both this aggressive kind of seduction and a very "gentlemanly" sort of seduction.  I understand that it may just not be your thing, but I'd encourage you to explore the possibilities in "submissive but not passive" demonstrations of desire like assuming vulnerable positions and reaching out from them with your mouth, arms, and *ahem* other parts, for example.  I'm not wording it as well as I could, sorry. Long day. :)

Dominant Jenny, while you may not feel so, I think you expressed yourself extremely clearly and well, especially your description of "submissive but not passive demonstrations of desire".  This is something new to me and I'll need to work on it a bit.  To me, there is a certain romance and respect in the way you noted "assuming vulnerable positions".  This sounds yummy and yet another doorway for communicating affection to my partner.  I'll have to let this percolate into reality.  Thank you.  And gee, yet another thumbs up vote for "Mistress, may I fuck you".  In the right context, there seems to be a unanimous, Dommely, positive response to this approach.  I never would have thought this so I've learned a great deal from everyone.

After reading this thread, thinking about the phrase "Mistress, may I fuck you" is rather sexy.  I mean, it's respectful, yet passionately, deliciously vulgar; it communicates great affection and desire; it asks for permission; and, given the context in which we're all talking about, it is a huge compliment to a Domina.  Yes.  I'm beginning to see the attraction here. :-)

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AcademyForSlaves:
We give sex lessons on this and here's a few helpful pointers from those training classes.

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- The sub must ask the Mistress what she wants.  The sex is for her, not him.

- The sub must not ask or expect anything in return.  That is up to the Mistress.

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Aww, thank you! :)  I'm glad it was helpful.  And since you complimented my communication skills, I have to return the compliment... that last paragraph there?  Oh, yes, most exactly. :)

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ORIGINAL: ElanSubduedYour delineation between more formal dynamics and romantic dynamics is interesting because, to me, a more formal relationship *is* a romantic relationship!  I think what you mean by "formal" though is a relationship that is more service-oriented.  Yes/no?

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The words "<chosen title>, I want to fuck", regardless of whether said with a tone of subservience or not, are demanding.  The actual mascot is:  "<chosen title>, may I fuck you" or "Darling, you look and smell so delicious, I'd like to fuck you".

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

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ORIGINAL: darchChylde

One piece of advice...

Avoid slapping her ass while calling out "Who's your daddy?!".  While this is not something that i have ever done, even with vanilla partners; i find it hard to believe that many dominant women will take it very well.

I dunno.  I am thinking that I would just start laughing REALLY hard.  Which could be dangerous.