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RE: Munches - 4/24/2008 2:18:09 AM

catherinew

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I used Google. There was only one (monthly) munch in my city, so off I went. Took several months to start making friends, but that's only to be expected in any sort of group. The people were quite friendly and at most munches there were a few "oldies" who deliberately made new people feel welcome and chatted to them.

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RE: Munches - 4/24/2008 3:51:32 AM

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We made our own, however as I read about everybody else's munches I wonder if our little group can be called a munch LOL. We are just a bunch of folks who get together every third Thursday, complain about work, family, life. Laugh hysterically, tell outrageous stories (think the big one that got away stories) and once in awhile we talk about the upcoming events, and the scene we did, saw done. We do not have demos, or specific education, or anything structured, we are just a bunch of regular folks getting together with peers. Even if we are not a munch in the eyes of the world, I wouldn't change a thing.

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RE: Munches - 4/24/2008 6:28:17 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DavidsGem

Brightest Blessings

We made our own, however as I read about everybody else's munches I wonder if our little group can be called a munch LOL. We are just a bunch of folks who get together every third Thursday, complain about work, family, life. Laugh hysterically, tell outrageous stories (think the big one that got away stories) and once in awhile we talk about the upcoming events, and the scene we did, saw done. We do not have demos, or specific education, or anything structured, we are just a bunch of regular folks getting together with peers. Even if we are not a munch in the eyes of the world, I wouldn't change a thing.

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Thats EXACTLY what a munch is. People are always suprised at a munch like this, at how everyone is so "normal".

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RE: Munches - 4/24/2008 8:10:00 AM

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**snickers** whats normal? Anyways DavidsGem, most of the munches I've been to are like that, also depending on where we are meeting. One of them, (the one I usually go to now.) we are fortunate to have a banquet room, and our servers are pretty openminded, so we can talk about whatever we want without worry.

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RE: Munches - 4/24/2008 1:06:38 PM

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i was in an IM with someone i'd met online and he suggested a munch group. What a disaster!! A total newbie i asked a lot of questions and was met with a 'you'll have to figure it out for yourself' and what was worse is i found there were two groups in the city one was play only the other was education but you couldn't join the educational group until the folks knew you sufficiently in the play only group to recomment you. The folks in the play-only group were cold, nasty and told me no one could be trusted unless they were willing to play in public. Sounded backwards to me, but after enough of being a pest, they told me to seek a differnent group much further away that would take on a newbie within an educational environment. That's the group i joined.

Never quite got past my early experiences so i only attended when the discussion was something of interest to me or to attend demonstrations which interested me.

Wow. In my mind their attitudes and practices are wrong on so many levels.

I didn't find my local group. One of the members saw reference to kink in our AOL profile and contacted me with an invitation. So glad he did.

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RE: Munches - 4/24/2008 1:19:39 PM

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I cheated. A 30-year poly secondary has been active scene for a couple of decades, teaching, writing erotica, and traveling to leather events around the country. He and his primary act as host/ess at the local weekly munches. Didn't have to look, just had to ask where they are.

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RE: Munches - 4/24/2008 1:53:41 PM

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Our local group (RSVP) has frequent social events, including twice monthly munches, coffees, ladies-only coffees, twice monthly play parties at the dungeon, themed parties, educational/demo events and impromptu get togethers.

Our munches are held the Thursday after a play party.... there's one tonight. The munches are held at a variety of local restaurants that have large enough private rooms to accomodate our numbers, which can range from 20-50 people. Everyone visits, and tries to make new folks feel welcome and less nervous. Our leader, who is a wonderful submissive lady, will wait for a bit, then stand up and welcome everyone. She then makes certain that everyone is aware of the rules about not discussing who you see, what you see and what you hear. She will announce upcoming events and sometimes will have a short topic that she will present. All of this is done in between the servers coming in and out bringing food and beverages.

Weather permitting, we always go to coffee afterward and visit some more! *It usually takes a monsoon, lightning and/or hail to keep us away from coffee.

We're a friendly, laid back bunch and try to be welcoming to those new to the lifestyle, or just new to the area. We've had lots of new folks come to our munches who have gotten to know our members from our chatting in the "South" room on Alt.com.

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RE: Munches - 4/24/2008 3:13:41 PM

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Google.

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RE: Munches - 4/24/2008 4:09:07 PM

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my now regular munch i knew of in passing through the UK BDSM website IC - But i became involved in it because it is my Master's regular munch and i have been taken along ever since i moved here.

All of the other munches i have been a regular at in the past have been through friends on the scene and IC.

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RE: Munches - 4/24/2008 4:17:39 PM

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I've found the various yahoo BDSM groups are an excellent reference point for munches, and more importantly contacts for the organisers if you are a newbie so you know someone to meet you if you when you arrive. In the uk www.informedconsent.co.uk carries an excellent list of munches.

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RE: Munches - 4/25/2008 7:09:20 AM

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I had to do a *lot* of online searching, because all the links that led me to the Augusta area BDSM community were dead or just led to websites mentioning it but not telling how to get in touch with it; this was 2 or so years back.

This was *so* true! I actually had to find the local group by going the long way around and going to things in Atlanta first. Can't tell you how happy I am that I did though. Now I feel at home in both. The only drawback is when there are two things happening on the same date and I want to attend both.

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ORIGINAL: eyesopened

i was in an IM with someone i'd met online and he suggested a munch group. What a disaster!! A total newbie i asked a lot of questions and was met with a 'you'll have to figure it out for yourself' and what was worse is i found there were two groups in the city one was play only the other was education but you couldn't join the educational group until the folks knew you sufficiently in the play only group to recomment you. The folks in the play-only group were cold, nasty and told me no one could be trusted unless they were willing to play in public. Sounded backwards to me, but after enough of being a pest, they told me to seek a differnent group much further away that would take on a newbie within an educational environment. That's the group i joined.

Never quite got past my early experiences so i only attended when the discussion was something of interest to me or to attend demonstrations which interested me.

I am very sorry that this was your experience, and I can promise you that it isn't that way today. (If you're talking about the group here, and not one that you might have attended when living somewhere else.) We actually have a set up where we have socials, as well as munches, so new folks can come, ask questions, get to know us a bit, etc. It gives people a chance to come out and meet others, in a vanilla setting, so they can decide if they'd like to try more or not. For those who don't want to meet everyone all at once, getting an invitation to a group event can be as easy as talking with one of our board members over coffee (well, you can have coffee, I'll stick with diet pepsi) so we can have a chance to meet you.

Maybe you'll give us another try sometime.

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