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Old experience still dont understand!! - 4/23/2008 3:45:51 PM   
chyanna


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Status: offline 		Before i met Master, i was seeing a really strict Dominant, i was tied hands behind back kneeling, blindfold on and every now and again He would strike my back with a crop.....

however  during this session He wished something of me and because he had a slight accent i could not make it out clearly so i turned my head slightly and said pardon Sir really politely and got totally thrashed.....was that the wrong thing too do? cos i thought saying pardon i didnt quite hear that was better than just kneeling there,,but it seems not,,,,its really confused me


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RE: Old experience still dont understand!! - 4/23/2008 3:47:08 PM   
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RE: Old experience still dont understand!! - 4/23/2008 3:47:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sounds like a reasonable thing to do to me, if you didn't hear someone clearly. 

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RE: Old experience still dont understand!! - 4/23/2008 3:48:59 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: chyanna

Before i met Master, i was seeing a really strict Dominant, i was tied hands behind back kneeling, blindfold on and every now and again He would strike my back with a crop.....

however  during this session He wished something of me and because he had a slight accent i could not make it out clearly so i turned my head slightly and said pardon Sir really politely and got totally thrashed.....was that the wrong thing too do? cos i thought saying pardon i didnt quite hear that was better than just kneeling there,,but it seems not,,,,its really confused me



Well hell...what did he expect you to do...cup your ear with your bound hand?
Sheeeesh...what a jerk!!


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RE: Old experience still dont understand!! - 4/23/2008 3:49:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		What is past is past, however it does sound like the thread Omega started something like "kneel bitch and obey"--no matter what--kind of hard when its "keel hitch and away"---
 


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RE: Old experience still dont understand!! - 4/23/2008 5:30:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		It wasn't the wrong thing to do, it was the right thing to do to cause him to thrash away at you.

So I take it you didn't ask after the scene what was going on with him and how you should respond next time?

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RE: Old experience still dont understand!! - 4/23/2008 5:35:25 PM   
chyanna


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Status: offline 		it was a bit difficult as he had punched me in the mouth.......he got very violent......very unlike Him

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RE: Old experience still dont understand!! - 4/23/2008 5:38:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: chyanna

it was a bit difficult as he had punched me in the mouth.......he got very violent......very unlike Him


Ya know...considering that it was "him" that punched you...and it was "you" that the punch came towards....something tells me it was QUITE like him.

(Color me crazy).

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RE: Old experience still dont understand!! - 4/23/2008 5:41:31 PM   
chyanna


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Status: offline 		well what i learnt from it is to know clearly what is expected of me with my Master and just comply

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RE: Old experience still dont understand!! - 4/23/2008 5:43:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well that's nice if you can understand what's expected of you.  The problem was that you couldn't understand what he wanted, not that you weren't going to comply. 

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RE: Old experience still dont understand!! - 4/23/2008 5:50:30 PM   
Poetryinpain


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Status: offline 		DISCLAIMER: I am not a psychologist.

But ... it seems to me as if it's possible that he is a little touchy about the accent making it sometimes difficult to understand him. When you indicated that you didn't understand, it may have tipped the balance. Perhaps somewhere else that day he had been ridiculed for the accent, or perhaps the accent had caused a misunderstanding that he couldn't control. Then your inability to understand was the last straw.

If that was the case, you were the recipient of the pent-up anger he held. The man seriously needs to learn how to deal with that kind of thing.

pip, of course this is all total speculation

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RE: Old experience still dont understand!! - 4/23/2008 5:51:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		He hit you because you asked him to repeat himself since you couldn't understand him???  What a dick. 

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RE: Old experience still dont understand!! - 4/23/2008 6:08:54 PM   
SteelofUtah


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I am sure he KNEW you had trouble understanding him and you asking "Pardon" implied you were not paying enoug attention.

I know a Sadist inparticular who woulkd whisper some of his commands to make his slave strain to hear him. If she ever asked "What?" or "Excuse me" or "Pardon" she was beaten.

The Solution to her issue was to learn to do NOTHING because she did not know what to do and therefor she owuld not be punished for not knowing she was supposed to do something.

However maybe this guy was just a dick.

All depends on the Dynamic

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RE: Old experience still dont understand!! - 4/23/2008 6:15:30 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: chyanna

well what i learnt from it is to know clearly what is expected of me with my Master and just comply


Not going against the standard replies you are getting here, because until, you learn what is expected, its impossible to actually do what is expected.

However, on the good side, if this caused you to be extremely motivated to do everything as your Master will want and you have strived to learn what ever that could be beforehand,  then it was not a loss.

MV

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RE: Old experience still dont understand!! - 4/23/2008 6:38:47 PM   
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RE: Old experience still dont understand!! - 4/23/2008 6:47:19 PM   
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RE: Old experience still dont understand!! - 4/23/2008 7:01:12 PM   
vivere


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Status: offline 		Dear one,  i am hoping that you will realize, if not now, then in time...that He did not treat you well in the instance you describe...that is why you felt confused, because you are offering ALL to Him, and instead of understanding, or love, you were mistreated.  I know, and i have been there in that same place, wondering and confused.  You have put yourself in His care, and He has a responsibility then, to NOT abuse or mistreat you.

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RE: Old experience still dont understand!! - 4/23/2008 7:02:44 PM   
vivere


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Status: offline 		I couldn't agree with you more....i guess i said it a bit differently....LOL

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RE: Old experience still dont understand!! - 4/23/2008 7:05:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well being as Mod11 has a craw for me... my prvious post has been deleted. so I will repost it with less I don't know what the fuck it was that got it pulled any way.

OP. Dump the asshole. If you are unable to get coherency in action from words, He is not worth your time.

Mod 11... Is this any fucking nicer?

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RE: Old experience still dont understand!! - 4/23/2008 7:08:09 PM   
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