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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 2:16:25 PM

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BTW .. Why is it only females Domme's who want tribute?

You said a mouthful. Probably because there are 100 horny guys on this site for every woman.

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 2:20:55 PM

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This is a tough question!

I think I would not. Or not necessarly.

Then again, if you ASK for one, as in it's required, well..... I'm not sure. You would certainly be opening yourself to being branded one.

I'm still really uncomfortable with the tribute question. For My part, I like getting gifts, but I don't ask for them because guys are so sensitive about dealing with a pro. Besides, it's not a necessary thing for Me.

What I have a problem with is those Ladies that say they request a tribute to weed out the fakes. I'm sorry, but that sounds more like an excuse to Me. I don't see how it can do such a thing.

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 2:46:31 PM

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Oh, also on the subject as it's been brought up:

Asking for an item or telling someone you want them to buy a certain something for you is not the same as it being required or being payment. How and why on that make it so or not.

Example:

I'm an asker/teller when it comes to gifts. It's part of how I was raised (while you weren't going to get everything you wanted, family wanted a clear list of your desires so they could get you something that you'd like on holidays) and much how I prefer it from others.

My spouse knows this and appreciates the fact as there's no game-playing of hinting, playing coy, or other manipulations or confusion in what would make me smile to receive.. If I like and want something, I say so whether if it's something I'd like someday on a holiday or if I want it that minute. -And wish to god that he was an asker/teller, too. Folks, like him, who aren't are a nightmare for gift-giving.

I just had my birthday last week and about 2 months out he asked me what I wanted, being able to expect a frank answer from me. I told him. I got it*. We had a wonderful night.

Telling someone "I want you to buy me this" can be payment, but it can also just be someone who doesn't bother with game-playing and hints and similar.

*I got a pinata filled with little fun games and glow sticks and a couple sets of plugs for my stretched lobes, then a chocolate cake with chocolate frosting with candles indicating I'm 25 (I'm 31, is a joke I won't waste your time with unless curious), and then we went out to a mutual favorite restaurant and walked around in the warm night air. :D

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 4:17:10 PM

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bad. I am thinking of turning into a pro-sub and charging for honor to whip me and make me clean your house.....Subs...are you with me????? Talk about TPE!!!!!! LOL.

So ----- if you have a sub charging "tribute" and a domme charging "tribute", then can you call it even?

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 5/4/2008 6:45:27 PM

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Said it before and I'll say it again.

This is one thing I understand but just don't GET.

I don't get the throught Process. I understand the desire and the draw, I just don't get the follow through.

I could never be a John.

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As I've said before.... NOTHING IN LIFE IS FREE... We all are Pros and Johns everyday... whether it's with our families, Jobs, Government, ETC... Who was lucky enough to not be used today or didn't have to pay with your blood, sweat or tears???

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 5/4/2008 7:26:40 PM

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Basically the issue is that there are many whores who use the word tribute, as a code word for payment.
They realized early on that if they call it a tribute, as opposed to fee or payment
it makes it easier for the loser givingthem money to justify the it, and they dont have to face the fact that they are such a loser, that unless they pay money no woman wants to be with them.
(unfortunately if they just had some self esteem, they might be able to meet a woman wh owasnt a prostitute)

Bottom line,if you have to pay for someone'e attentions/affections/interest
in a sexual manner,
then you are a John, a loser, and that is pathetic.

If you pay a bunch of money or stuff, just "to be freinds" with a woman,
then you are a sucker
which is worse in some ways...
and the woman who is doing this to you (although not a whore) is a user.

Oh course, the prostitute who charges a "tribute" also is trying to distance herself from the fact that she is ho, so it serves that purpose as well.
I have noticed many of the prostitutes who specialize in BDSM often make a point of saying they are not ho's
lol
right!

we ALL know they are, but if it makes you feel better
sure
shitting in a guys mouth, and then tying up his dick, kicking him in the balls, and spanking his bare, fat, flabby ass,
and then letting his slimy, chubby tongue lick your feet..
yeah, I guess thats just "role play"
youre so much better than the other type of ho's out there.

BTW, I have nothing against hos
i just hate to see some ho's (ie BDSM prostitutes) try to pretend they are not ho's
they are....

The Pro_Dommes I know are more than happy to admit they are SEX WORKERS,
and dont try to pretend they are something else,

just my 2 cents worth anyway

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 5/4/2008 7:36:57 PM

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Whatever helps you sleep at night. Last time I checked, you weren't a sovereign or other government. Look, I don't care what you want to call it. You can call it "Blue Tokies from Heaven" if you want.

If you want to pull out only the words that fit you, so be it. It doesn't change the meaning.
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but if i ever prodomme again im going to
use that

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 5/5/2008 3:34:30 AM

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NOTE: Not a rant or an issue with either one, just curious without stealong a thread---do you ( the general populis out there) think Tributes are the same thing as paying a Pro?

I for one do not--as I even ask for what can be considered a tribute--a white rose (it helps Me pick someone out of a crowd at a first meet, then I like it from there on out)--

The white rose thing I certainly don't see as in the same bracket as 'tribute' dear Lady just a touch of class on Your part. It is a token gesture that takes some effort for your boy to get for You which pleases You and costs almost nothing compaired to what some expect to be paid... I mean tributed.. for their service topping.. I mean indulgence.

Start favoring that Your boys bring you diamond necklaces and I'd change My mind

The small and meaningful things are tasks, gestures and something I am likely to have My girl do for Me on occassion.... it costs more for a decent pair of stockings than for a white rose and I expect them to take onboard My prefferences for what they will wear to meet Me for the first time even before I have a 'right' to demand it. Just for example.

Once it gets to the point where it is the monetary value that is the issue rather than what it means then you are getting into pro territory. Yes I have a low opinion of it... but if there are idiot boys out there with more money than sense then there will be those who take advantage of them. Not My problem so long as they do so 'over there' and not right under My nose else I'm likely to 'share My opinion' of it.

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 5/5/2008 3:43:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: MladyHathor

NOTE: Not a rant or an issue with either one, just curious without stealong a thread---do you ( the general populis out there) think Tributes are the same thing as paying a Pro?

I for one do not--as I even ask for what can be considered a tribute--a white rose (it helps Me pick someone out of a crowd at a first meet, then I like it from there on out)--

Pros make lots of monies, a tribute, (at least to me) would be something that wasnt neccisarily worth lots of monies, and probably never monies....

A tribute I like for a good first meeting would be something simple, (cant think of any exaples, been up too long)

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 5/5/2008 4:47:39 AM

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If the tribute is $ then it is the same as paying a pro, in my mind.
if the tribute is something, as you suggest,like a rose.... that to me is more like a token of appreciation.

monetary = payment.

admittedly > I am still learning about this general topic of tributes and hiring pro's ..

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 5/5/2008 4:57:15 AM

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I even ask for what can be considered a tribute--a white rose

I like the white rose.. nice touch.

Do I think a cash tribute is the same… if it’s per/sessions on an ‘outcall’ or ‘incall’ it would seem that way to me.

If you get a gift or inherit assets when you take a slave into your life and your home, then that’s the same as marriage.

I have received gifts and inherited dowries when taking slaves into my home.

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 5/5/2008 5:40:59 AM

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I see a difference. Money can change hands between two people for a wide variety of reasons - a fee, payment, compensation, a gift, a donation, whatever but it's the understanding arrived at between the two people involved which indicates the nature of the transaction.

A tribute to me is a gift in a way, but more in the sense of an award, an accolade made to someone who's achieved something.

Whenever I see the word 'tribute' on profiles on CM I think more in terms of 'donation' because I often feel the underlying motivation is the same - it's someone who needs the money and they feel that BDSM is more acceptable than selling their bodies. It's charity. But then again you can't jump to conclusions. It might also be a Domme trying to establish herself as a Pro-Domme who thinks that 'tribute' is an appropriate code word. The difference lies in the intention, and that might not always be clear.

This is not quite the same as a Pro-Domme who's invested the time, money, energy and learned the principles enough to provide a reputable service out of BDSM.

Nor is it the same as a symbolic gesture of buying a Domme flowers or some other gift to express appreciation for her time and attention.

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