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RE: More attractive. - 4/28/2008 5:55:14 PM   
HerLord


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Status: offline 		Your question here sorta limits my answer being as A) I am not actively seeking, and B) I AM the D type so I don't really know what would attract a sub beyond what works for me.

As for what draws them to me... Who the hell knows? It takes some thing special to get past the asshole in me. Here are the rest of my thoughts on your question.

Honesty. That is really all that truly matters. With out it there will be no progression to further. I am honest to the point of brutality, (another of my specialties, brutality) and will tolerate no less. IF that is met then the rest sorta just usually settles itself from there.

Appearance in pics is almost insignificant beyond the ability to pick some one out of a crowd for a first meet. I don't do pics so if you got 'em or don't, means little to me. However, if you have a disfigurement such as mel gibson in man without a face, I am thinking that the reaction you get without forwarning of such is probably not one you would be looking for. Not that that would make a person disqualified, but by not knowing in advance that there were things physically about you that I am not interested in or unprepared for, my reactions will not be as predictable as if I had seen these features in a pic. Such as obesity, disfigurements, scars, crewcut hair... etc.

Accepting. Not that you would have to agree or even tolerate, just accept that I am who I am, and that I choose who and what I choose and don't give a shit, what some one else thinks about my choices. Please note that I do not nor will I specify non judgemental. Judge all you please, just don't share it with me, cuz I have already judged what I give a damn about.

I think I will leave it at that for now. Thanks for your question.

Peace
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RE: More attractive. - 4/28/2008 6:32:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've had some women say some very nice things to me, they were smart, intelligent and lovely. (Made my day I tell you). I've even had a few guys call me a "cute young thing". I have no idea what they were high on. I'm too old to play games so I just lay it out. I'm suspicious when someone wants to move in after chatting for a couple of days. I've been hurt and so I am slow to move into a relationship. But, I hope that I will find "the one". I can only hope she finds me attractive.

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RE: More attractive. - 4/28/2008 6:39:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

What makes some Dom/Dommes more attractive to subs/slaves.


Their brain.

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RE: More attractive. - 4/28/2008 9:41:40 PM   
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RE: More attractive. - 4/29/2008 12:52:49 AM   
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ORIGINAL: metalmiss

Although i have been known to make the first contact with a Dom rarely, if ever.. When i am considering replying to an approach from one i take alot of weight in my decision from their profile.
Have they put any effort into it? Does it tell anything of themselves? Is it just the usual generic "kneel bitch" bullshit.. or does it show soul? Do they sound like a real life person or a fantasist? Are they intelligent? Articulate? Is their profile clear, specific, does it inspire me?

i guess the point i'm trying to make is that when a profile is all us s-types have to go on, a lot hinges on that defining whether a Dom is "attractive" or not.

A little off topic, but metalmiss, I can see why my good friend Raven chose you, or you chose him. You sound like a lovely girl.

Congratulations,

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RE: More attractive. - 4/29/2008 2:05:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		What makes a person in general attractive!?

For me it is a certain sense of humour, the possibility to talk, discuss, etc...
The look counts, but I think that every person has to have a big portion of soul to look good.
You can have the perfect shape, the perfect body, if your eyes don't glow, if there is no charisma that doesn't count for me.

I have made the experience, that persons with self-confidence, a happy life and a lot of energy are pure "sex". Those people can enter a room and you have a certain feeling of appearance. Whow, overwhelming! I wouldn't consider myself to be bisexual, but there where three to four men with this special appearance that overwhelmed me. Some people have it, and I think every one can get it just by making everything around that to feel happy.


That is some attraction you only feel in personal contact, though I think you can also transport such feelings be written speech...Therefore I appreciate meeting real people (for example the local SM-Community), or arrange a fast real date after getting to know someone in the internet.

Greetz
Jonas

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RE: More attractive. - 4/29/2008 2:31:19 AM   
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RE: More attractive. - 4/29/2008 2:36:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: eyesopened

and owns a big, loud, bad-ass Harley


Yeah, I forgot that point. That really helps a lot

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RE: More attractive. - 4/29/2008 3:23:04 AM   
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RE: More attractive. - 4/29/2008 4:43:47 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Jonasw you brought up a good point. Charisma. Mabey that is the answer. I believe that everyone has their own type of charisma. When yours matches theirs that is what causes the attraction. I think that we can control it and turn it off and on when we want to.

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RE: More attractive. - 4/29/2008 9:43:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		charismatic presence --some people have it, some don't -- people gravitate to those that have good or bad  --   for example 2 extremes of charsima individuals were JFK and Hitler  or Martin Luther King and David Koresh  

Should have read all the posts before responding to not the point was already made



< Message edited by Maya2001 -- 4/29/2008 9:44:32 AM >

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RE: More attractive. - 4/29/2008 10:14:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		Is Dnomyar crying for help? Is this just another ad?

There was a rumor that Dennis Kuchinich ran for President just so he could get a date. Dnomyar seems to be hinting that he can't get much action.  Poor baby.

Dnomyar looks like a kindly, elderly uncle. Maybe he should dress in black leather. Maybe he should be photographed naked to the waist so as to better display his piercings and tatoos. He might also consider getting a Harley and start lifting weights.  

Alternately he might just try not to be such a weenie. 

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RE: More attractive. - 4/29/2008 10:18:46 AM   
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<--------still weeding through overwhelming responses from dominants and submissives since switching profile photos 


< Message edited by sambamanslilgirl -- 4/29/2008 10:19:32 AM >

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RE: More attractive. - 4/29/2008 12:14:29 PM   
lizcgirl


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Status: offline 		HONESTY is the biggest turn on for me. I can not stand liars or people who misrepresent themselves. Attitude is another- I have it in spades so I don't find meek and mild attractive at all-- I want a Dom who can not only keep up with me, but outdo me as well. Confidence, without being too cocky, and a great sense of humor. As far as physical attraction, He has to be taller than me. lol That sounds silly, but I just can't imagine being dominated by some one I could break with my thigh if I wanted to. And I like it when He has facial hair and especially tattoos- I don't really know why, maybe it feeds into the 'bad boy' image I loved growing up, but it is definately a turn on for me. Personally though, it isn't the physical traits that attract me first. I find that the more I know about a person, the more I care about a person, the more attractive they become to me physically. I DO know that rudeness and lying are an immediate turn OFF and a total lack of interest from that point.

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RE: More attractive. - 4/29/2008 4:00:52 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl



<--------still weeding through overwhelming responses from dominants and submissives since switching profile photos 



I don't blame them.

pip, wondering if I should put one of my 'other' photos as my main pic.

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RE: More attractive. - 4/29/2008 4:49:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

cjan let me try to get this straight. You don't get it. You do get it, You still don't get it. You don't have to get it. You left out I don't care if you get it. Cali I let level start the list for me. Im just expanding on it. Which number do you perfer??


Tsk tsk......

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RE: More attractive. - 4/29/2008 5:02:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SensibleSam
Is Dnomyar crying for help? Is this just another ad?

Alternately he might just try not to be such a weenie. 


Some of us find him stunningly, puddle-inducingly attractive just the way he is. 

Cali


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RE: More attractive. - 4/29/2008 5:27:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Level
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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar
Cali I let level start the list for me. Im just expanding on it. Which number do you perfer??

Tsk tsk......


Oh wait, I just re-read that and now I see it a different way... my cell number since I rarely answer my home number - it's always for some deadbeat who had the same number a few years ago.  (Call me)

Cali


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RE: More attractive. - 4/29/2008 7:34:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		A good pic will attract my attention
but its a well written profile that will get me to actually write.
but to hold my interest
the person must be able to communicate.
I could go on and on and list qualities that I like in others
but its often more an intangible thing.
Some people have it, others don't.
for me its just that simple.

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RE: More attractive. - 4/29/2008 7:51:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		The 2 dominants in my life are polar opposites in many, many ways but at their core both of them are honest, forthright, intelligent, sensual, sexy and sadistic. They each have their own ‘style’ of domination but philosophically they are a good match for me.  Not to mention both of them appreciate my humor!

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