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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/2/2008 2:24:11 PM   
Leatherist


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ORIGINAL: MamaDomme1

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ORIGINAL: onlinesub1

So a few months-years ago, the Mistress that owned me had to leave due to personal/family issues. The leave was sudden so there wasn't really any time to say goodbyes or anything. She finally comes back and since I never really had any issues with her, so I want her to take me back. She is also willing to take me back. Do you think it would be a good idea to get owned by this same person? She did leave once without a warning so it could happen again.


The topic is should I take a past Mistress back with the chance that she could leave again without warning. Try not going off topic >_>


No.  Don't do it.  She will pull the same stunt over and over again, as many times as you sit and allow it.  Being a submissive does not equate with doormat.


I think this attitude is disrespectful of people who have a trampling fetish! What if they WANT to be a doormat?



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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/2/2008 2:42:05 PM   
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I can handle it but should I invest my time again to someone that can leave without warning?


A hard thing and though I'm not particularly proud of it,  something my submissives must accept before they become involved with me.



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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/2/2008 2:46:13 PM   
ResidentSadist


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ORIGINAL: onlinesub1
The topic is should I take a past Mistress back with the chance that she could leave again without warning. Try not going off topic >_>

Did she contact you after she left?  Unless she was trapped without a phone, it seems a call after the fact would have been in order. If not, seems she has no regard for you and you should take thatinto consideration. 

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ORIGINAL: ModeratorEleven
Another fun thread cleanup.
Ok kids, that's about enough of that nonsense.  Play nice or be sent to your rooms alone without any dinner.
XI

If ModeratorEleven sent the OP to his room w/o dinner, would she in effect be his online mistress? 

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/2/2008 2:53:24 PM   
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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/2/2008 3:01:42 PM   
ResidentSadist


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Status: offline 		I will reiterate the question, was she an online mistress?  That would help clear the story up. 

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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss
Why are the hijackers of this thread continuing to hijack the thread after mod 11's asked you all to stop?

If I only mentioned that your post included nothing about the OP, that would be hijacking like you just did.  However, I do address the OP.



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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/2/2008 3:11:50 PM   
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I would really love to stick around and watch this trainwreck, but I have to get ready for a Hank Jr. and Lynyrd Skynyrd concert. And I don't care if you don't know who they are, LOL.


I wonder what hank and lynyrd are doing together.  I went to the show it's a great show if you leave before hank show up playing his billy tunes. 

Hey OP if your into humilation abuse stick with her... it should be a grand time.  Hell anyone can "vanish" due to family issues.  Come to think of it I may have used that excuse a time or three

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/2/2008 3:19:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		I thought the OP was just an online kinda guy?  So what's to lose but some time in front of the box, eh?  Get your fun where you can, OP, and don't whine when it's over.

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/2/2008 3:53:10 PM   
MamaDomme1


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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

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ORIGINAL: MamaDomme1

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ORIGINAL: onlinesub1

So a few months-years ago, the Mistress that owned me had to leave due to personal/family issues. The leave was sudden so there wasn't really any time to say goodbyes or anything. She finally comes back and since I never really had any issues with her, so I want her to take me back. She is also willing to take me back. Do you think it would be a good idea to get owned by this same person? She did leave once without a warning so it could happen again.


The topic is should I take a past Mistress back with the chance that she could leave again without warning. Try not going off topic >_>


No.  Don't do it.  She will pull the same stunt over and over again, as many times as you sit and allow it.  Being a submissive does not equate with doormat.


I think this attitude is disrespectful of people who have a trampling fetish! What if they WANT to be a doormat?




Damn, I forgot about that! 

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/2/2008 3:58:48 PM   
daddysblondie


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Status: offline 		It's ultimately your decision.

My experience is this, last year after a few months together, Daddy ended things essentially because he felt he needed to take a job that would advance his career considerably, but would have him traveling 80% of the time. It could be said that he left suddenly, but he did make the time for a phone call to tell me he was leaving and why. We had very little contact while he was gone.

Early this year, he came back (after leaving the travel job) and sought me out. We decided to get back together. With that said, I made the decision that I needed to put what happened in the past behind me. If I was busy worrying that "he might do it to me again" we wouldn't be where we are now, simply because I wouldn't have the trust for him that I do.

If you can put the "she might do it again" feelings aside and she's someone you want to be with, then go for it. If not, it's probably better to not waste her time or yours.

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/2/2008 5:57:33 PM   
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If ModeratorEleven sent the OP to his room w/o dinner, would she in effect be his online mistress? 


Only if she doesn't let him sit on the furniture or use the toilet.

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/2/2008 6:01:24 PM   
Griswold


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ORIGINAL: onlinesub1

So a few months-years ago, the Mistress that owned me had to leave due to personal/family issues. The leave was sudden so there wasn't really any time to say goodbyes or anything. She finally comes back and since I never really had any issues with her, so I want her to take me back. She is also willing to take me back. Do you think it would be a good idea to get owned by this same person? She did leave once without a warning so it could happen again.


The topic is should I take a past Mistress back with the chance that she could leave again without warning. Try not going off topic >_>


Kinda hard with a Domme to say "well baby..you left with no warning so...you need to put something on the table"...but....

(That's exactly what I'd say).

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/2/2008 8:48:35 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Even though I have a feeling you are going to take this the wrong way, I'm going to try to give you advise that you asked for.

I know you're thinking that this doesn't have to do with whether you were *owned* by an online *mistress or not, but it really does speak to the question.  I can understand entirely that someone who had a desperate family emergency, job relocation, or something similar, had to just pick up and go.  These things do happen in life, so I can get that.  There are situations where a person needs to pick up and physically move away from another person.  It isn't always by choice, but by necessity.

If this was an online connection, My first question would be, did they have to move away to somewhere without internet access?  Maybe there are places in South America or the Orient where the technology just wasn't available to keep in contact.  No net, no cell phone, no way to continue.  I'm the biggest computer twit on the face of the planet, but if a connection to someone was important to Me, I would find a way to maintain communication with the other person. 

If she dropped you like a bad habit, and you get back into a similar situation with her, you have to accept the possibility that it might happen again.  You have to decide if you can handle the potential outcome of trusting her, and having it end the same way it did before.

*And, just because you told Me not to.......



I'll miss the concert, but I'll get to meet OldB at ARM tomorrow night.  Ha ha!

Ut oh!  Shhhh. 




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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/2/2008 9:29:27 PM   
OldBastardly1


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Status: offline 		LadyPact, I don't think I will be at ARM, but you can meet me at CAP, which is my night.


And to the OP, so I stay on topic.....seriously, if you and this Mistress care for each other and you both want to re-establish a relationship, why not do it? What do you have to lose?


edited to wink at Mod 11...see? I can play nice.

< Message edited by OldBastardly1 -- 5/2/2008 9:30:21 PM >

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/2/2008 9:36:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: onlinesub1

So a few months-years ago, the Mistress that owned me had to leave due to personal/family issues. The leave was sudden so there wasn't really any time to say goodbyes or anything. She finally comes back and since I never really had any issues with her, so I want her to take me back. She is also willing to take me back. Do you think it would be a good idea to get owned by this same person? She did leave once without a warning so it could happen again.

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/2/2008 11:04:55 PM   
Maya2001


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Status: offline 		Where was the family emergency ....Sibera, Jungles of Bornea???? In this day and age there is no excuse not to make contact  without an explanation, computers are accessible from any public library, phones can make can calls globally...does not sound like this person was too into you if they could not bother to send you a message and just left you hanging ...if it was me ...absolutely not

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/3/2008 1:01:37 AM   
ResidentSadist


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ORIGINAL: Maya2001
Where was the family emergency ....Sibera, Jungles of Bornea???? In this day and age there is no excuse not to make contact  without an explanation

I agree... seems she was rather ill mannered if not completely heartless.

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/3/2008 1:10:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: onlinesub1

So a few months-years ago, the Mistress that owned me had to leave due to personal/family issues. The leave was sudden so there wasn't really any time to say goodbyes or anything. She finally comes back and since I never really had any issues with her, so I want her to take me back. She is also willing to take me back. Do you think it would be a good idea to get owned by this same person? She did leave once without a warning so it could happen again.


The topic is should I take a past Mistress back with the chance that she could leave again without warning. Try not going off topic >_>


My initial thought when I read the heading was "How the bloody hell do you expect amny one to tell you?  Presumably know the woman and I immagine you know yourself, so why ask total strasngers who know heither of you and mostly don't give a root anyway?"  I guess you must be seeking some form of validation like a sheep requires the rest of the mob to agree or it's not on....  OK I can understand but really you need to make up your own mind. Just remember about half the replies you can get here or anywhere else, is going to be from parole who want to bugger you arpound and watch the mess you get in.  Some, a very few realy good people will reply and attempt to give you good advise. Your mission, should you chose to take it, is to select the honest genuine replies intended to help you.----- This message will self destruct in 30 seconds after you read it. If you see it still here you are being delusional and it is all in  your immagination..

BTW... best of luch and if you do go back (possitions reversed, I'd take a girl back), I hope you have a jolly good time.

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/3/2008 5:51:37 AM   
MladyHathor


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Status: offline 		sweetpea, shit happens----now in these days of cell phones and internet, I really don't get nor do I personally tolerate the no contact tactic---however, make your concerns known and make your decision.

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/3/2008 7:42:49 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Ask her if the family issues are likely to occur again.

The good thing here is that there wasn't any anger or animosity between you. She told you that some issues had arisen and she wouldn't have any more time for you. She didn't walk leaving you confused and wondering what happened. We all know life can get in the way.

Can you deal with this if it happens again?

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/3/2008 8:38:53 AM   
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