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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/3/2008 8:51:09 AM   
MistressOfGa


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ORIGINAL: BRUTALMASTER1974

it not for you to say it up to the mistriss

Did you read his OP or just the title?
quote:

I want her to take me back. She is also willing to take me back.


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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/3/2008 11:57:13 AM   
Poetryinpain


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Status: offline 		I think there's another dimension to this whole story. I have two comments.

1 - It's possible that the mistress needed some time to take care of the family emergency and thought there might be too much drama if she clued the sub in. So she simply disappeared. At least she contacted him when she returned - I think it was a while back that she returned, and only now that she is saying she'd like to get back together again.

2 - At this point, the sub is uncollared. He has the right to make the decision about whether to go back to her. In fact, he has the responsibility to do so. We can only give him advice; the final decision is his alone.

Look at all sides of the issue, think carefully about it, and make sure you and she are on the same page before making the decision.

pip, look both ways before you dash out into traffic

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/3/2008 7:11:35 PM   
IronBear


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BRUTALMASTER1974

it not for you to say it up to the mistriss


WRONG!!!!!!!  I don't care who or what orientation (submissive or slave) some one is, unless and untill they are formally collared, they stand on an equal footing with any Dominant as far as such things go. In such cases NO DOMINANT and I don't care if it God, Allah or what ever your Deity is, they have no control over an uncollared sub.slave and have no right to try to school yart bully tactics to get said sub/slave to obey. The sub/slave has every right to decide if he or she will rejoin a previous Master.Mistress.

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/3/2008 8:05:20 PM   
deliteme


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Status: offline 		I must agree with IronBear.... Currently I am uncollared and until I am..I am the equal of any Dom, Domme, Master, Mistress, whatever on this site because until I give them my submission, they have no control over me, my thoughts or actions.

I would sit down with her and let her know how you felt being left high and dry, it was disrespectful of her, and even if she couldn't ring there is still snail mail for Gods sake. A postcard wouldn't take much, much less a 5 minute phone call from a phone box, cell phone or something.

Would you be willing to sign yourself over to someone who is so disrespectful of you, your hrealth and wellbeing? Isn't a Mistresses role to look after and care for you not just toss you to the curb because the excrement has hit the fan?

As for time frames - I once had a house full of guests for dinner, was literally serving the food when the phone went and it was my father saying mum was dying and if I wanted to see her, I need to get there now. "There" was 400 k away so I packed an overnight bag, tossed the baby under my arm, threw the dog in the car while the partner ushered the friends out the door. I rang people while we drove, rang work to say I may not be in, rang His work like wise etc etc. It can be done. Needless to say we got there in time, but it is not a time I would like to repeat.

Now if I can ring my work at a time like that...I am sure a caring Mistress can find time to you her collared sub/slave.

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/3/2008 8:11:02 PM   
AveAboy


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Status: offline 		i dont care what anyone says....

adding capers to your bagels with lox does not make them any better.
they're already perfect!
mmmmmmm

Oh, I'm sorry, did you say NOT to go off topic?

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/4/2008 10:32:49 AM   
Deliena


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ORIGINAL: deliteme
I once had a house full of guests for dinner, was literally serving the food when the phone went and it was my father saying mum was dying and if I wanted to see her, I need to get there now.
 
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Now if I can ring my work at a time like that...I am sure a caring Mistress can find time to you her collared sub/slave.



Whilst I agree that there are two sides to every story I have to say that this point above resonnates with me.  Most people make the effort to communicate with those that are important to them or impact on their lives (in the case above friends and work are a good example).  I question her committment to her sub, but only the OP can really assess that committment.

Good luck and make good choices.

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/7/2008 4:34:10 PM   
onlinesub1


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Status: offline 		Thanks to everyone who posted about the topic. I guess shit happens but I should learn how to deal with it properly. I decided to be with this Domme again, but we are taking it slow. We are still talking about general things, like each others likes, dislikes, limits, etc. No big rules have been set and we only talk about 1-2 hours a day. She works until about 11pm my time and I been going to sleep early lately so time is really limited. Supposedly her schedule is going to loosen up so that could be more time we have on talking and doing things. So far, I am liking what is going on but I really do not like the limited time we have together. Sorry to all who  I have offended in the past. Take care everyone.

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/7/2008 4:48:35 PM   
BadJezebel


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ORIGINAL: AveAboy

i dont care what anyone says....

adding capers to your bagels with lox does not make them any better.
they're already perfect!
mmmmmmm

Oh, I'm sorry, did you say NOT to go off topic?


you're right about the capers.... bagels and lox shouldn't get too gormet. 


The op should consult a "Magic 8 Ball" for simplistic answers to all of life's quandries. 

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/7/2008 4:56:06 PM   
Madame4a


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Status: offline 		I am at this moment dealing with a similar situation... I'll tell you the reasons I'm taking this one back, carefully.. and slowly...

1) he's contrite and apologetic
2) so far, he's stepped up to the plate
3) I've made it clear he hurt me by the sudden end
4) he's agreed to everything I've put out there in terms of a new relationship
5) I adore him
6) he apologized profusely and explained to my satisfaction what happened for him

I realize as the dominant I have an advantage, but as a person, I believe you can ask some questions...

the key is, are you willing to risk the disappearance again -- at this point, I am although I'm a bit wiser now...

past behavior IS a predictor of future behavior but people can change IF they want to and people do learn

that's my take on it.. although I'll admit, I'd likely advise against it if my best friend asked me this.. *grin*

I'm likely cruisin' for a world of hurt but I'm guessing it will be a fast, fun and passion filled ride for me

some times you have to just go for it

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/7/2008 7:39:46 PM   
Pyrrsefanie


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ORIGINAL: onlinesub1

So a few months-years ago, the Mistress that owned me had to leave due to personal/family issues. The leave was sudden so there wasn't really any time to say goodbyes or anything. She finally comes back and since I never really had any issues with her, so I want her to take me back. She is also willing to take me back. Do you think it would be a good idea to get owned by this same person? She did leave once without a warning so it could happen again.


I highly doubt anything could have been so vital or so sudden that she absolutely could not find the time to shoot you off a message or a brief phone call saying "I'm still here, I just have some things I need to work through."  If she just randomly disappeared off the face of the earth and showed up like "LAWL HI SRY HAD 2 GO :D" a year later though, I'd call bullshit.  That's just shady to me.

The decision is in your hands, of course, but if it were me I wouldn't do it.


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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/7/2008 7:55:21 PM   
michaels4evr


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Status: offline 		In my experience going backwards has never worked out.

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/7/2008 8:01:40 PM   
Pyrrsefanie


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ORIGINAL: michaels4evr

In my experience going backwards has never worked out.


Pffff, somebody's never seen The Parent Trap!


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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/8/2008 11:19:20 PM   
michaels4evr


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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/17/2008 5:54:47 PM   
meticulousgirl


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Status: offline 		well as long as things didn't end on a "bad" note then i would say go for it......

best wishes

~meticulous~

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RE: Should I take a past Mistress back? - 5/17/2008 10:22:01 PM   
MiaMaria


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Status: offline 		Oh.. this sounds almost like the situation I´m in,at the moment..  I had a Master.. but our contact slowly began to slow down, he didn´t contact me, and for now I´ve talked to him for over one month ago, and he said I was his and he´d never leave me-but leaved me he surely did! I haven´t heard one single word from him since then, before he text me regularly. That was the problem then too, but now..one month.. I don´t know what to think about him?
Problably,I will hear from him some day.but I don´t know when. I feel he has left me.
And my former Master, who lived in a neighbour country, was going to visit me back then,a bit less than one year back. He stopped talking to me-no text no mail no phone- when I had to work, and had to cancel our date. No matter how much I begged,called--he didn´t answered.
It took very long to forget him. And I did, I thought I should say howdy one day, an now he´s contacted me. After so long time,and so much I´ve wanted it..
And now he wants me BACK! He acts just like nothing ever happened, and fancy me a lot. I haven´t got the words to ask him yet(also just begun talking)
He gave me a clue, he said "well you wont go away,just like you did before,would you". He said one time.
What am I going to do with this whole situation?
And I think it´s similar to the other situation..  I really feel with you I can understand you. I also wonder,what if he lets me down again?
And not only that,what am I going to do with "my Master" who apparently doesn´t want me?
anyone?

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