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Can you look? - 5/3/2008 2:55:51 PM

MladyHathor

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When you are face to face with your D or s in an intimate/sexual action---if there are no blindfolds, is eye contact allowed? Is speaking allowed?

If not why?

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 3:03:27 PM

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If a flogger is swung in the dungeon, and no one is there to receive it, does it make a sound? I know, not quite on topic; just a weird mental bubble that popped in my brain.

*points to the dark corner*

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 3:03:28 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MladyHathor

When you are face to face with your D or s in an intimate/sexual action---if there are no blindfolds, is eye contact allowed? Is speaking allowed?

If not why?

when Daddy and i were talking....he was all about retrictions of this sort. once he met me in person....i'm allowed to look at him as i please. he said he'd rather skip the protocol and see the emotion in my eyes.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 3:03:37 PM

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Of course I am. The connection between us is what's most paramount. Why prevent any connection ever.
Now if you're talking about a scene where he declares I shouldn't look at it or there'll be some dastardly consequence, that's for fun. But every day? We want to be connected, touching, looking, talking. Otherwise we wouldn't be together.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 3:12:12 PM

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When an added level of restraint is desired, Alpha instructs me not to make eye contact. Other times he makes me watch what he's about to do. Either are effective in their intent.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 3:34:40 PM

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i can look at Him whenever i like pretty much.. He has more of a problem MAKING me look at Him on certain occasions than stopping me looking at Him.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 3:38:02 PM

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yes

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 3:50:49 PM

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A good protion of the enjoyment we get out of the play is our personal interactions....so yes, we see each other and speak to each other.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 3:54:31 PM

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He demands that i look at him. Sometimes the reactions i do not verbalize are clearly read in my eyes

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 3:54:42 PM

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Oh M,
To not look into those gorgeous green eyes would be a dis-service to Me. I love to look at him. He loves to look at me. I will miss seeing his eyes when he climaxes. :(

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 3:54:52 PM

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Im with metalmiss, Fox is more likely to look away or close his eyes, so making eye contact restrictions would be rather fruitless. Angel is allowed to look, encouraged to do so, even if he cant always stand to watch

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 3:55:23 PM

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Eye contact and speaking are more often required/demanded in My household than denied.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 3:58:16 PM

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Yes, eye contact is permitted and speaking is permitted also. The intimacy at times makes me feel so very naked emotionally it's hard to look into his eyes. I think it's why he insists on it.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 4:15:19 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MladyHathor

When you are face to face with your D or s in an intimate/sexual action---if there are no blindfolds, is eye contact allowed? Is speaking allowed?

If not why?

While D/s dynamics are VERY intimate to me, "intimate/sexual action" is not necessarily D/s related. I can and do enjoy being intimate as equal adults and I prefer other adults in any environment to look me in the eyes when conversing.

However, I'll assume you're talking solely of D/s intimacy.... When I'm actively taking charge of the girl, *anytime* I speak, she is to hold my gaze. She is only to speak when an answer is required or, as I commonly do, ask if she has any questions herself. If I do allow or require her to speak, she is to hold my gaze while speaking. During any period of silence, she is to focus on the floor in front of her. And she is absolutely forbidden to look toward me (my general direction but not focused on my eyes) or past me like I'm not there - that WILL sting.

Other than that, all I require of her is her body and her compliance and I'll work out what I want from there in harmonious silence. Sight and speech restrictions are all part of the desired headspace I want of and for her and thus for myself, too! I'm a chatty and sociable bloke in general - she'll have ample opportunities to share that side of me when we're not being "intimate" in a D/s way....

Focus.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 4:20:29 PM

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I allow eye contact but pet rarely keeps eye contact with me for more than three seconds. He is allowed to speak unless directed not to, thats what a ballgag is for anyway right

I like the fact that pet has a voice of opinion rather than waiting for permission. I love that he voices his opinion often and is a challenge. I like eye contact with pet because of his georgous brown eyes that seem to go on forever.....hmmm maybe that can be a new torture technique, hold him down and force eye contact....~Lorelei

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 4:27:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

Oh M,
To not look into those gorgeous green eyes would be a dis-service to Me. I love to look at him. He loves to look at me. I will miss seeing his eyes when he climaxes. :(

the heart feels what the eyes miss.....

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 4:31:34 PM

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Almost all the time. When it isn't it's because I want to reinforce their sense of helplessness and surrender.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 4:43:44 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

Oh M,
To not look into those gorgeous green eyes would be a dis-service to Me. I love to look at him. He loves to look at me. I will miss seeing his eyes when he climaxes. :(

counting the days My Dear?

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 5:09:52 PM

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quote:

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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

Oh M,
To not look into those gorgeous green eyes would be a dis-service to Me. I love to look at him. He loves to look at me. I will miss seeing his eyes when he climaxes. :(

counting the days My Dear?

I am. I tried to call you today, but got vm. I saw that you were not feeling well. I hope you are better. I miss you.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 5:11:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

Oh M,
To not look into those gorgeous green eyes would be a dis-service to Me. I love to look at him. He loves to look at me. I will miss seeing his eyes when he climaxes. :(

the heart feels what the eyes miss.....

You got that right Holly <s> That and the fact that he smells wonderful! His scent is still inside my soul. Love doesn't need sight to know when the one you love is around. :)

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