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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 6:09:06 PM

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I can look at Master and speak most of the time unless he has put me under full restirctions which he does every so often to remind me/put me back in my place.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 6:12:39 PM

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i'm allowed to look at him as i please. he said he'd rather skip the protocol and see the emotion in my eyes.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 6:14:56 PM

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Eye contact is a matter of my immediate mood -- usually yes because I love to read eyes.

If I didn't allow my slave or sub to make noise would would be the point of playing with them? I could get almost as much reaction from a wall or a toy or my imagination. A big part of why I do SM is to get reactions -- loud, colorful, intense reactions.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 7:20:59 PM

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ORIGINAL: MladyHathor

When you are face to face with your D or s in an intimate/sexual action---if there are no blindfolds, is eye contact allowed? Is speaking allowed?

If not why?

Generally speaking, yes of course. However this applies to all factic of my life and social interaction which may involve some intimacy, I take control (consciously or unconsciously - even unintentially) and if I want no talking or eye contact that there will be none.

Why you ask?

Because I can.
Because it pleases me to have it thus
Because eye contact or speaking will ruin a special moment.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 7:47:27 PM

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i'm allowed to speak freely as well as having direct eye contact anytime i please, but if he's coming at me to beat me, even though i love, love, love it, i can't look; believe it or not, it scares me, so i close my eyes!

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 8:40:24 PM

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He *loves* to make me make eye contact, especially when I'm afraid or hesitant. It's like he drinks the fear...YUM! He's been known to kiss tears and to taste them, too. If I'm shaking in said context, he enjoys it more.

When he tells me to shut up, he usually means no more words...grunts, moans, etc. are all welcome.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 9:04:55 PM

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Staring at someone while having sex....is creepy. Creepy, creepy, creepy. Now, don't get me wrong a meaningful look is nice...but no staring. Or creepy smiling.

Anyway, to answer that question...

No, Ian does not enforce the no eye contact thing or the speech bit. Shawna's a sub so I suppose that's void.

All three of us laugh and giggle quite a bit it seems while doing the deed. It's quite fun!

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 9:09:55 PM

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eye contact isn't usually an issue/topic when we are intimate, although occasionally I need to be told to look at him when he's saying something I don't want to hear.

if he doesn't want to hear me when we're (insert euphemism here), he'll shove a gag in my mouth, or slap me once or twice or 7 times. (ohhh...I just got spaghetti legs

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 9:15:47 PM

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my Dominant has never even talked about eye or speach restrictions between us. We have had the conversation about it in general though when discussing D/s relationships and some people choices. He has however made me look at Him while we talk, i get in trouble if i don't, and i have to communicate with Him, at all times.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/3/2008 10:37:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: vampchick88

.....hmmm maybe that can be a new torture technique, hold him down and force eye contact....~Lorelei

That's about how I feel. When I get to a certain point, looking is torture, and speaking is well nigh impossible.
That's not usually a requirement, but is a fact of nature.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/4/2008 1:34:56 AM

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I want to be emotionally invasive, Reality is very shy and if he had a choice, he'd prefer not to look at me during exchanges unless we are talking generally or being intimate sexually. He HAS to look at me and hold my gaze, which I know makes him uncomfortable at times. If he speaks without looking at me he knows what is coming his way very quickly thereafter. The only times he is not allowed to speak is when I am - naturally he is not going to interrupt me, or during a punishment - which will be discussed between us afterwards.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/4/2008 3:30:00 AM

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Direct eye-to-eye contact is hot! It's why I don't particularly care for blindfolds.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/4/2008 4:12:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: daddysliloneds

i'm allowed to speak freely as well as having direct eye contact anytime i please, but if he's coming at me to beat me, even though i love, love, love it, i can't look; believe it or not, it scares me, so i close my eyes!

This is me! Exactly!

This is a topic that never came up for us before. I generally have my eyes closed, anyway, to savor the feelings of my body. Opening my eyes tends to engage my brain, which makes me think, which for me, is not a good thing during sex. Speaking is usually required, as My Lord asks questions, makes requests, and frankly, the chances of me being able to orgasm without a making a single vocal utterance are pretty much nothing to nil.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/4/2008 6:05:47 AM

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being made to keep eye contact and communicate was the hardest thing i had to learn to do.........

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RE: Can you look? - 5/4/2008 11:00:50 AM

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I have a tendancy to keep my eyes shut because as StormsSlave said above when I'm looking I'm thinking and then my brain takes over and I'm having an out of body experience instead of an inside my body experience :D Master talks to me sometimes and I can't help but speak sometimes, begging for a certain position or another slap (depending on what the scene is that we are doing).

However the intimacy of looking at him when he reaches climax is something I truely love and apparently my eyes are very expressive ;)

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RE: Can you look? - 5/4/2008 11:08:45 AM

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ORIGINAL: MladyHathor

When you are face to face with your D or s in an intimate/sexual action---if there are no blindfolds, is eye contact allowed? Is speaking allowed?

If not why?

Unless he specifically orders otherwise, yes on both counts.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/4/2008 5:20:43 PM

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Daddy allows me to look at Him and talk to Him any time I wish. Sometimes He doesn't like the topics I select because I am very analytical and I drive Him crazy so He tells me to change the subject. I usually do, for a few minutes, but my instinct to get answers I need overruns the urge to shut up about said topic. I like looking at Him, He is sexy to me and I enjoy watching Him watch me. I love talking to Him. We talk about everything. The only time He wants me to be blindfolded is when we play at the club because He needs me to focus and "be there" with Him without the distractions of others who are playing, talking, etc. nearby.

If I had to go without seeing Him or talking to Him, I would just check myself into a nunnery because I'd be wasting my time. Hell, I was married to a lump for years, I certainly don't need to go back to that type of existence.

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RE: Can you look? - 5/4/2008 5:44:58 PM

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If a flogger is swung in the dungeon, and no one is there to receive it, does it make a sound? I know, not quite on topic; just a weird mental bubble that popped in my brain.

If a flogger is swung in the dungeon, and no one is there to recieve it, does it STILL hurt? You bet it does...

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RE: Can you look? - 5/4/2008 6:11:38 PM

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Not only is it allowed but expected...and I must admit I'd get bored and feel disconnected very quickly if that wasn't the case...

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RE: Can you look? - 5/4/2008 6:16:37 PM

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W/we dont have any eye contact or vocalization restrictions. :) Besides, Toad has some dreamy Baby Blues.....

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