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Why Cant you? - 5/4/2008 5:27:08 PM   
Toolking


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Status: offline 		Greeting E/everyone, I have been browsing the ads of subs/slaves and most of them are seeking another sub/slave for their Mighty Dom/Master and I am wondering why He can Not find another sub/slave on his own ????

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/4/2008 5:29:09 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Why do you assume he can't?

Granted, most doms who seek a third are dork losers who have no idea what they are doing, and most subs who troll for other subs are the same...but that doesn't mean they are all that way.  Having a sub seek another partner for their owner can be a great way to go.

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/4/2008 5:29:50 PM   
Usako


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Status: offline 		Because he's lazy and why have subs/slaves if you're not gonna make them do shit you don't want to do.

PLUS, I think it's just easier woman to woman to talk. Some man asking that might seem either agressive or perverted.

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/4/2008 5:31:46 PM   
Lynnxz


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Status: offline 		Well.... if the two girls don't get along... no one's going to have fun. I suppose the Dom's are just trying to weed out that drama first... It's what I'd do anyway.

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/4/2008 5:34:53 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		I know for me, if  we were seeking a third I have more time to do the seeking, plus both the girls need to like each other and get along, and I'd prefere to hunt and present them to him than the other way around.

How come every one insists a master's lazy if the girl is doing the finding and presenting. it's a bit presumptious to assume isn't it?

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/4/2008 5:36:37 PM   
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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/4/2008 5:38:00 PM   
Toolking


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Status: offline 		So basically any piece of meat she finds,and like her Dom/Master is gonna eat....wow. who is in charge of who???

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/4/2008 5:39:43 PM   
OldBastardly1


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Status: offline 		And how would you handle that, oh great one? Pardon me, but I am assuming that you are hetero.

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/4/2008 5:39:59 PM   
HerLord


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

Well.... if the two girls don't get along... no one's going to have fun. I suppose the Dom's are just trying to weed out that drama first... It's what I'd do anyway.

Our answer... I have her look to the avail that, when I am gone there will be only the two of them. If they are not "in love" how will that work? It is not the idea that I have another for me, but that she have another for her. It is her support that is being sought so why the hell would I be involved?

Now with this said. I ackowledge that I must be a participant in any search for I also must get along with new addition, but, it is a search for her, not for me.

*edited to add*
BTW- Your tone and approach is appaling. Your intuitive greatness to sarcasm leaves much to be desired in they means of effectiveness.

And also, Your comments are rude, presumptive and undermining. And very not nice.

-running off to find a corner to play with people who are actually GOOD at not being nice...

*re-edited to also add*
quote:

Original Lynnxz
But, if the two girls form a bond early on, and then the new girl meets the dom, it makes a whole lot more sense to me. It's not lazy.. it's a time saver.

(This is further down)
It is muchly a time saver on MY part. It requires little effort on my part and the me being an asshole thing gets a chance to be diluted and warned ahead of time BEFORE, they are brought to me for inspection/approval/add any appropriate type words here.

< Message edited by HerLord -- 5/4/2008 5:51:52 PM >

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/4/2008 5:41:37 PM   
MladyHathor


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Status: offline 		Its called a to do--here are said requirements, "I am too busy--you look and I will do the final selection"--kind of like going to the grocery- Now mind you, NMT, but whatever works.

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/4/2008 5:41:40 PM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		How do you know he's NOT looking also?

Thats the case with Riff and myself... whichever of us finds someone of interest points the other in that direction.  Which of us initiates contact is dependent on many factors.  But as has been said, oftentimes a woman is more comfortable with at least initial contact from a woman (the feeling being, I suppose, that another woman is less likely to be a wanker/whatever).

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/4/2008 5:44:25 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: Toolking
So basically any piece of meat she finds,and like her Dom/Master is gonna eat....wow. who is in charge of who???

A) Again why do you assume he will accept any and every person she finds?  There can be a final level of approval- his.

B)  Are you against subs doing things for their doms in general?  Are you against subs making doms their favorite meal?  Doing their taxes?  Washing their car?  Is it just a general distaste for a sub providing anything for their dom?

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/4/2008 5:45:19 PM   
Daddysredhead


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Status: offline 		When Daddy and I were looking for a steady playmate recently, He let me be the first line of search for whom we sought because while I can be very sweet and very kind, I do not take kindly to bitches who put on a nice front for Him or us, and then later show their true colors to me.  We've had this type of shit happen twice with gals He thought would be a good match.  After exposing their crap and letting Him see it for Himself, He terminated the arrangement because it was potentially toxic all around.  This last time, we met our gem and she is a great match for us.  He has always encouraged me to find a gal if I wanted one, not for His fun but for mine.  Even our gem is more for me than Him.  He knows me and my body and what I can take.  She is more for my own amusement.  She's our omega girl, not a beta, as we are not laterally inclined.  She's my plaything, although He is still the Top Daddy, and what He says goes, but He just enjoys watching the two of us interact, whether in a scene or just as pals. 

I informed Him after our last debacle that I truly believed that I could spot the warning signs in a potential girl better than He could, and He told me to go for it.  It worked for us, and it's possible that others are doing the same thing. 

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/4/2008 5:46:05 PM   
IrishMist


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ORIGINAL: Toolking

So basically any piece of meat she finds,and like her Dom/Master is gonna eat....wow. who is in charge of who???

WoW. Someone sure has a bug up his ass. What's the matter there sugar, you getting a bit peeved because those girls who 'troll' for othersare taking what you think should be yours?

What a foolish, naive child you are.



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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/4/2008 5:47:00 PM   
Lynnxz


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ORIGINAL: Toolking

So basically any piece of meat she finds,and like her Dom/Master is gonna eat....wow. who is in charge of who???


Yeah...  You try bringing home a random chick for a threesome and tell me how well that goes. ;)

I know some girls who might love that.. however I know more- including myself, that would hit the roof.

I'm not  really poly, but I've done the whole threesome thing with some close friends of mine a few times. If those two girls don't have the right chemistry together, the relationship isn't going to last- it doesn't matter how submissive the two girls are.

But, if the two girls form a bond early on, and then the new girl meets the dom, it makes a whole lot more sense to me. It's not lazy.. it's a time saver.

< Message edited by Lynnxz -- 5/4/2008 5:48:27 PM >

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/4/2008 5:50:23 PM   
RedMagic1


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Status: offline 		Hey, Toolking, do you notice how the people who actually have a real-life BDSM practice aren't as bent out of shape about this as you?

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/4/2008 5:53:44 PM   
Toolking


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

quote:

ORIGINAL: Toolking
So basically any piece of meat she finds,and like her Dom/Master is gonna eat....wow. who is in charge of who???

A) Again why do you assume he will accept any and every person she finds?  There can be a final level of approval- his.

B)  Are you against subs doing things for their doms in general?  Are you against subs making doms their favorite meal?  Doing their taxes?  Washing their car?  Is it just a general distaste for a sub providing anything for their dom?


If the main concept behind her search is to find a sub, she can get a long with as you guys stated and the final decsion is up to the Mighty Master, .............what if He didnt like what she found, then what? seek another she can get along with...? yeah right!! But if she is seeking one for her and her only then, both sub and Master are on the same level................... What a waste of Energy !!! and  it is so pathetic for a Dom /Master and those words are Not to be taken lightly, to go through that.

No I am not against what a sub will do for her Master in regard of what you mentioned.

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/4/2008 5:58:50 PM   
GreedyTop


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Toolking
If the main concept behind her search is to find a sub, she can get a long with as you guys stated and the final decsion is up to the Mighty Master, .............what if He didnt like what she found, then what? seek another she can get along with...? yeah right!! But if she is seeking one for her and her only then, both sub and Master are on the same level................... What a waste of Energy !!! and  it is so pathetic for a Dom /Master and those words are Not to be taken lightly, to go through that.


Presumably, skippy, the sub would be enough in tune with her master that the one she chooses would be acceptable to him as well.


as far as the bolded text:  why, on gods green earth, are your words to be taken any more seriously than anyone elses?  You're new here, and have yet to establish yourself as someone whos opinions are anything more than pompous posturing.  NOt saying that you won't DO that at some point, but frankly- you're not off to a real good start here.


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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/4/2008 5:59:00 PM   
HornyToadsMI


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Status: offline 		Hey, sweetcheeks, did you ever think that if you checked your tone at the door, maybe someone might care enough to educate you?  It is no wonder you cant find someone! 

It is possible, as in our case, that the sub does the trolling.  Toad is too busy, doesn't like to spend time online, and it is one of my tasks since I am the computer person. 

So, before you judge, ask nicely.  Honey will get you more answers than venom. 

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/4/2008 6:03:30 PM   
vagabondduo


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Status: offline 		Perhaps you are assuming too much.  Have you read the profiles of the subs' doms to see if the dom says he is looking in his profile?  Perhaps they are BOTH looking and you have falsely concluded that the dom has sent out the sub to do all the searching. 

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