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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/5/2008 7:49:28 AM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		Are you and DefinitivelyDom best friends?  You both have the attitude that you are better, more Domly, and actually the only Dom on Collarme. 

The fact is that your ideals of wiitwd and what others' ideals of wiitwd are not always the same.  We find our partner based our own wants, needs, and desires.  This is not a one Dom fits all subs kinda place.  The subs who are looking for poly are not the ones you would want, as you have freely admitted.  There are many monogamous subs on Collarme.  I suggest that you confine your search to those whose ideals match your own and skip those who you would not want. 

EXAMPLES:

She loves watersports and you think ws are gross.....not a match.
You love puppy play and she has not desire to act like a dog...not a match.
You are an expert at fire play and that's a hard limit for her...not a match.


Apparently you do not understand what Collarme is about.  We come to the forums to share ideas, and yes, sometimes disagree hotly about those ideas.  You are apparently using Collarme as solely a find a date site which is your priviledge, but you will also miss out on more than half what this site is about.  Just because you find your sub is no reason to drop Collarme like a hot potato.  Gary and i both had profiles here before meeting.  Neither of us has seen the need to delete the profiles even though we have been together for years. 

No one is asking you to give up or bend your ideals.  You just need to understand that we are all different, all have different needs.  No one wishes for you to give up your ideals.  You just need to accept that your ideals are not universal and that others have needs that do not match your own. 

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/5/2008 7:55:44 AM   
OldBastardly1


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ORIGINAL: Toolking

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ORIGINAL: OldBastardly1

Is there something wrong with masturbating? Come on, tool guy, be honest. 2 of the greatest loves of your short life have been your right & left hands. And I bet they know who is Master in Their/their world.


OB1, with all due respect,  I can be devastating to the ones who try to get Me down. Give Me your hand, so I can pull you to my level. No need to dislike for the awesome things that I do. If you would look, listen, and learn you could be like Me too.



Well, cupcake, as tempting as that offer is, I must decline. I don't think I would be comfortable DOWN there. Besides, I think I know where your hand has been.

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/5/2008 8:02:33 AM   
SassySarijane


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Well OP, do you know the ones you see looking for a 3rd? Are you in their relationship? No? Then you don't know if only the sub is looking or if both are, you don't know if the dom is lazy or not, you in fact know nothing about them except they are poly and looking for a 3rd. You say you're monogamous. Looks like they're not a match for you so how about moving on and finding one that is instead of bitching about ones who aren't a match? Not your business how they choose to live their lives and not your right to judge them when you know nothing about them personally. I doubt you'd enjoy being on the receiving end of such snark and judgements.

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/5/2008 8:07:14 AM   
Daddysredhead


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ORIGINAL: OldBastardly1

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ORIGINAL: Toolking

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ORIGINAL: OldBastardly1

Is there something wrong with masturbating? Come on, tool guy, be honest. 2 of the greatest loves of your short life have been your right & left hands. And I bet they know who is Master in Their/their world.


OB1, with all due respect,  I can be devastating to the ones who try to get Me down. Give Me your hand, so I can pull you to my level. No need to dislike for the awesome things that I do. If you would look, listen, and learn you could be like Me too.



Well, cupcake, as tempting as that offer is, I must decline. I don't think I would be comfortable DOWN there. Besides, I think I know where your hand has been.

OB1,  I have to call foul here.  After reading your post, I nearly pissed myself laughing.  Non-consensual watersports here at the computer just will not do! 

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/5/2008 11:21:35 AM   
Dnomyar


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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/5/2008 1:25:34 PM   
chamberqueen


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Status: offline 		As someone who is looking for another sub to play with, I can tell you from my perspective.  My Master wants me to like and trust her, than have her meet Him online.  The final decision will be His - if she is attracted to Him.  He wanted the two women under Him to have a bond first.  That doesn't answer for all Doms, only the one that I serve.

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/5/2008 1:39:19 PM   
HerLord


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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

I know a couple of guys who are going to hear it from the mod.
We already have.

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/5/2008 4:14:09 PM   
apiercedkitty


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ORIGINAL: Toolking
OB1, with all due respect,  I can be devastating to the ones who try to get Me down. Give Me your hand, so I can pull you to my level. No need to dislike for the awesome things that I do. If you would look, listen, and learn you could be like Me too.


OB1... Don't do it... this tool is more than enough for this group...

< Message edited by apiercedkitty -- 5/5/2008 4:16:16 PM >

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/5/2008 4:16:13 PM   
Toolking


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ORIGINAL: OldBastardly1

quote:

ORIGINAL: Toolking

quote:

ORIGINAL: OldBastardly1

Is there something wrong with masturbating? Come on, tool guy, be honest. 2 of the greatest loves of your short life have been your right & left hands. And I bet they know who is Master in Their/their world.


OB1, with all due respect,  I can be devastating to the ones who try to get Me down. Give Me your hand, so I can pull you to my level. No need to dislike for the awesome things that I do. If you would look, listen, and learn you could be like Me too.



Well, cupcake, as tempting as that offer is, I must decline. I don't think I would be comfortable DOWN there. Besides, I think I know where your hand has been.


Well, you just think but I know and I have to admit that your mind set fits you well!

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/5/2008 5:25:49 PM   
OldBastardly1


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Status: offline 		What is next? Are you gonna say  "I'm rubber, you're glue. What you say bounces off me and sticks to you."?

Seriously, how old are you, skippy?



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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/5/2008 5:27:43 PM   
ModeratorEleven


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Status: offline 		That question can be asked of several people participating in this thread.  Chill out people.

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/5/2008 5:31:32 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: Toolking

Greeting E/everyone, I have been browsing the ads of subs/slaves and most of them are seeking another sub/slave for their Mighty Dom/Master and I am wondering why He can Not find another sub/slave on his own ????

Thanks

Depends on how things work in the relationship. We've already decided that if we decide to add another person for him, I will have complete veto power so I'll probably have first contact with them. If not first, I'll be talking to them very quickly. For that matter, if we are adding another person for him, I'm going to be invested in that search too. I'll want to find someone who I like and will enjoy serving with.

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/5/2008 5:34:24 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: Toolking

If the main concept behind her search is to find a sub, she can get a long with as you guys stated and the final decsion is up to the Mighty Master, .............what if He didnt like what she found, then what? seek another she can get along with...? yeah right!! But if she is seeking one for her and her only then, both sub and Master are on the same level................... What a waste of Energy !!! and  it is so pathetic for a Dom /Master and those words are Not to be taken lightly, to go through that.

No I am not against what a sub will do for her Master in regard of what you mentioned.


He'll do the same thing he does when I buy him food he doesn't like - send me back and I'll have a better idea of what he wants. Which doesn't bother me, there is good chance we made a friend in the process.

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/5/2008 6:05:26 PM   
OldBastardly1


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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/5/2008 6:08:14 PM   
Toolking


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ORIGINAL: OldBastardly1

What is next? Are you gonna say  "I'm rubber, you're glue. What you say bounces off me and sticks to you."?

Seriously, how old are you, skippy?




Is this how you measure Maturity? by age!!....Maturity does Not come with age, It comes with acceptance with responsiblities.....Take youself for an example...see how old you are and repeating kids' words in Elemintary.

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/5/2008 6:11:02 PM   
RedMagic1


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Status: offline 		I don't know, TK.  I leave the boards and come back yesterday, and OldBastardly1 has turned himself into the frikkin Yoda of BDSM.

OB1, understatement suits you.


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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/5/2008 6:12:28 PM   
christine1


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Status: offline 		if i would have gone to elemintary would my breath have been fresher when i was a kid?

sorry, i'm coming off a bad mood and you know what that means...SILLY TIME!

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/5/2008 6:14:55 PM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		It's sad that the dom doesn't encourage her to find another MALE to keep her company when he's gone..especially if she's heterosexual to begin with :)
 
It just amazes me that guys seem to think if you put two females together they automatically would "do it".

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/5/2008 6:15:09 PM   
OldBastardly1


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Status: offline 		Don't forget experience , tool.

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RE: Why Cant you? - 5/5/2008 6:16:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

It's sad that the dom doesn't encourage her to find another MALE to keep her company when he's gone..especially if she's heterosexual to begin with :)
 
It just amazes me that guys seem to think if you put two females together they automatically would "do it".


You know you all want to......

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