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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 10:37:29 AM

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my cat says he loves me when he licks my chin after plucking my cotton sweater apart leaving a 3 inch hole in it. i have to wear 2 sweaters so my skin isnt penetrated...doesnt always work...

i have no human to love.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 10:44:19 AM

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Love should never be wasted, so if you have love to give there are lots of people in the world who desperately need it....and they are not hard to find. Your post reminded me of an old John Prine tune...

Ya' know that old trees just grow stronger,
And old rivers grow wilder ev'ry day.
Old people just grow lonesome
Waiting for someone to say, "Hello in there, hello."

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 10:49:28 AM

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if you look at my last pic on the right side you will see small holes from his claws at my boob area. atleast he's straight.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 11:18:40 AM

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I just had to say thank you Erin for this thread. Reading it made me remember something my Master did last night that made me feel extremely special and I just sent him a text message (he's at work) to let him know exactly how much that kindness meant to me. I tell my Master very frequently that I love him (still in a honeymoon period with him I guess) because the feeling just wells up in me sometimes and I have to verbalise it, now I will make sure I also tell him why I love him so he can carry that with him when we are apart.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 11:57:12 AM

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Yes, erin, thank you for the thread. I have reasons to be thinking a lot about this right now.

Every so often, when hearing "I love you" I'll actually sit and ask 'why'? The answer that I get varies from time to time, but there's always a reason for a response.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 2:22:18 PM

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I remind her as it happens. Every once in a while, Rainfire does something that makes me appreciate, admire, and/or love her all the more, or reminds me of why I grew to appreciate, admire, and love her in the first place. I often make a point during these moments to let her see my smile and say to her: "And that would be another good example of why I love you.".

Now, she knows why, and I could say them here. Some of those reasons don't make sense without certain added commentary for the sake of context, however, and these tangental bits of information are not suitable here, so for now, I'll abstain on the public praise.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 2:31:35 PM

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I journal daily and have for many years. When I was with my former owner at the end of my journal entry I would put 1 reason I loved him. He didn't ask or require me to do this but I did it because often times the little things get missed or we simply get caught up and forget sometimes people simply need to hear it. Now that I am single again I put why I love myself because often times I need to remind myself of those things as well.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 2:36:39 PM

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I see that as more of a compliment than any expression of real love.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 2:50:53 PM

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This is why I prefer to tell Him, "I adore you" rather than "I love you". (Although I really say both.) "I adore you" conveys both the love and the adoration, along with a healthy dollop of worship thrown in for good measure (and because it's true

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And not only do we tell each other quite often how much we love each other and why, my Mother continually tells me how blessed I am to have Him in my life. (I admit, I do call her and tell her the latest wonderful thing He did. I have to tell someone- I don't want to have my friends think I'm bragging. It's like eating in front of starving people when I start waxing about my relationship. And that's to the vanilla audience.....)

One of my favorite things we do is something we like to call C.U.N.T. - cuddlin' up naked time. (And it's a great reward for being a good girl!) We lie in bed (naked, of course) and discuss all the reasons we love each other and what amazing differences we have made in each other's life and how lucky and blessed we are to have found one other. And then we indulge in our one on-going disagreement- which of us is the luckier one.

Alright, I know this is too sweet. But after 2 years, we are still like this. And I don't think it will ever stop.

<sigh> I adore that man. (and don't even get me started on lust......)

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 3:25:06 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

When people are in a relationship "I love you" can become a habit, one that you repeat each time you come into or leave each others presence or in passing throughout the day. Even though the phrase can have great emotion at it's roots, it can become to sound as though there is no real thought behind it's expression.

Last night as we were lying in bed, Sir asked me if he had told me just how much he loves the way the cheek of my ass fits into his hand. Certainly, that is not the entire basis of his love for me....but wow, did it ever make my heart soar! Too often I think, we don't break it down and express to our partners the reasons why we love them, the things that we love about them or tell them in what ways our lives are enhanced as a result of them being in it. I know that I am certainly going to try to be more conscious of it and try to expound more on the reasons behind the words.

Inspired!

I wont go into more excpet to say... yes, we remind each other regularly what it is about each other that we love about each other. It makes her wet...
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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 3:34:06 PM

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I do enjoy elaborating on the reasons why I love my Mistress. We normally just say 'I love you,' but on several occasions, I'll always throw in a reason or two. I even have a journal that I write to explain what it is that She does that makes me love Her so much more.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 3:43:18 PM

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Yeah, it's part of why we rock. We also have something we like to do before bed when we ask eachother what our favorite parts of the day were. We also still have nearly daily arguments over who is luckier to be with the other.

I hadn't experienced this sort of thing until my ex-owner. He would thank me and talk about how awesome I was for the simplest little things. It made me realize just how much we do NOT really appreciate in our relationships. So I make it my mission to spread that around. I often get funny looks from people in the beginning but that's ok.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 5:58:10 PM

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I hate the "L" word, it scares the crap out of me. When my Daddy and I hit that point, when I could feel it, I couldn't say it. I would tell Him I adored Him, or was crazy about Him. I'm not one to throw those three words around that a lot of people overuse. But then one day He pulled me onto His lap and looked me in the eyes and told me He loved me. I sat there for the longest time literally choking on the words before I was able to whisper them back. That sounds so whimpy, but it's true. Now I don't tell Him that when most would expect it, I say it out of the blue whenever I feel it welling up inside of me. He usually laughs and asks why I said that, and I tell Him: 'you make me laugh' or 'you make me feel incredible', whatever it was that inspired the emotion at the time. I never say 'I love you too' because it sounds like an automatic response to me. And for me personally, an even deeper emotional statement is when I tell Him 'I belong to you'. I don't know why, maybe because I tell my kids, my friends, my family, even my cat that I love them, but I only say 'I belong to you' to Him it makes it that much more special. I just never want Him to forget that I do appreciate the things He does and I love Him for real, every day reasons, not illusions or what I hope He will be.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 6:55:22 PM

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Master and I do ... but we're still in the beginning stages, when it's more likely. It's when relationships begin to settle in when reminders like this are so very important. I never want to take my loved ones for granted.

Liz ... what a gorgeous post- I really liked how you expressed yourself!

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 7:00:56 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Love should never be wasted, so if you have love to give there are lots of people in the world who desperately need it....and they are not hard to find. Your post reminded me of an old John Prine tune...

Ya' know that old trees just grow stronger,
And old rivers grow wilder ev'ry day.
Old people just grow lonesome
Waiting for someone to say, "Hello in there, hello."

Oh, Mist ... how poignant. Reminder to self: say hi to the older folks in the food store or wherever even though I'm in such a rush. One day it'll be me pondering which peas in the can to buy watching all the people rushing by busy with their families and life.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 7:04:56 PM

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quote:

Liz ... what a gorgeous post- I really liked how you expressed yourself!

Thank you!

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 7:10:15 PM

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I never say I love you unless I absolutely mean it with all my being. But saying I love you because ... or that (whatever it is) is one of the many reasons I love you says so much more. Hearing those words and the reasons behind them, makes me smile all day. I try to make sure that those I love know why I love them.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 7:18:12 PM

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Fox and I are still in Aidan's "weeee we are in love" stages as well. He tells me about a hundred times a day that he loves me, and most of them come with a why attached. I get little voice mails reminding me he loves me, I have gotten poems, notes, and even vitis at work JUST to say "You mean the world to me." I am spoiled absolutely rotten.

Angel doesnt say it nearly as often, or for the same reasons as Fox does. I will get the occasional I love you Mommy from him, and it will be becsaue I made him feel better after a bad day, or becasue I know whats best for him and he has never had someone taking care of him for his best interests.

No matter why it is, I always love hearing it. IT means the world to me from either boy, of course, but I still get a warm feeling hearing it from friends and co workers. It has never and wil never be a habit for me, I refuse to reduce it to that. Every time I say it, if its once in a blue moon or three times a day, I really mean it.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 7:27:41 PM

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I thought I would share a beautiful daily ritual. Set aside 10 minutes a day. She takes her position to you, kneeling, bowing, whatever. You take yours to her and you tell each other why you are glad to be in the relationship today. Mention something recent, not some rehersed or a repeated monologue. Exchange your feelings.

In my house it went like this:
I got home after work, she is kneeling naked in the hall at the front door. I would set down my attaché, approach her and step one foot inside the triangle she made with her arms (*see pic). She would kiss my foot and I would stretch down and pet her back or ass. Repeat with other foot then I tap her collar bone to let her know to rise to a sitting position. She would kiss my palms.

All the while this is going on, I would verbally recount something specific she had done recently so she could see the benefit and joy it gave me to own her. I let her see herself through my eyes. I let her see the positive effect she had on me. I would make her see the joy, pleasure, passion and love that she created and how it enriched my life. I made her feel loved, owned and appreciated… and I did this while she in her role to me, kneeling as my property. It was very reaffirming for the relationship.
She, in turn, verbally responded in kind explaining how being owned was a joy, benefit and made her feel loved. If it got all mushy and broke out into to a sex fest while she was bent over, more power to us… but that wasn’t the point of it. The point was to pay homage to the relationship from our positions within it as reinforcement.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 8:20:40 PM

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I am lovin' the energy on this thread. You guys ROCK! Thank you for sharing all these wonderful special moments and thoughts. Keep 'em coming!

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