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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/5/2008 8:31:28 PM

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Too often I think, we don't break it down and express to our partners the reasons why we love them, the things that we love about them or tell them in what ways our lives are enhanced as a result of them being in it. I know that I am certainly going to try to be more conscious of it and try to expound more on the reasons behind the words.

"I love that you love me and I don't love you back." There is always that, too.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/6/2008 3:47:58 AM

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Love should never be wasted, so if you have love to give there are lots of people in the world who desperately need it....and they are not hard to find. Your post reminded me of an old John Prine tune...

Ya' know that old trees just grow stronger,
And old rivers grow wilder ev'ry day.
Old people just grow lonesome
Waiting for someone to say, "Hello in there, hello."

Thank you for this! i don't remember where i heard it but "when people are at their most unlovely is usually when they need love the most"

There are so many people who today are lonely, sick, sad, worried, who withdraw from the world because they can find no love there.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/6/2008 3:51:24 AM

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oh yes i have told Him! and He tells me!

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/6/2008 4:26:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Love should never be wasted, so if you have love to give there are lots of people in the world who desperately need it....and they are not hard to find. Your post reminded me of an old John Prine tune...

Ya' know that old trees just grow stronger,
And old rivers grow wilder ev'ry day.
Old people just grow lonesome
Waiting for someone to say, "Hello in there, hello."

Thank you for this! i don't remember where i heard it but "when people are at their most unlovely is usually when they need love the most"

There are so many people who today are lonely, sick, sad, worried, who withdraw from the world because they can find no love there.

Many years ago I applied for a job at an old folks home. When I walked in for my interview there was a very old woman who came up to me and took my hand. Her skin was more wrinkled than I had ever seen...but when I looked in her beautiful blue sparkling eyes I saw an amazing fire. What saddened me is that they seemed to be desperately pleading to me...for someone to just take the time to say "Hello in there". Ultimately, I didn't take the job, only because I know myself too well and knew that there was a real danger of me filling my house with these souls that were no longer wanted or loved.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/6/2008 5:16:14 AM

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Actions speak louder than words so I'd much rather show them how much they mean to me. Talk is pretty cheap.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/6/2008 5:21:31 AM

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*smiles* words can be made meaningless by action. actions without words can be misinterpreted, as we are few of us mindreaders. remember, communication, communication, communication.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/6/2008 5:26:17 AM

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Actions speak louder than words so I'd much rather show them how much they mean to me. Talk is pretty cheap.

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I have to disagree, actions can be misconstrued. One persons idea of a loving act may not be enough if there aren't words of love also used. No matter how good a person is to me, I need to hear the words that they love me. I need to know why they love me. One man 'loved' me because of my looks, that was an empty love to me.Another person that has been in my life from day one has never said the words and I've always wondered if there is love in that relationship. Personally I think a blend of the two is important.Say the words and back them up.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/6/2008 6:14:24 AM

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Actions speak louder than words so I'd much rather show them how much they mean to me. Talk is pretty cheap.

BadOne

I have to disagree, actions can be misconstrued. One persons idea of a loving act may not be enough if there aren't words of love also used. No matter how good a person is to me, I need to hear the words that they love me. I need to know why they love me. One man 'loved' me because of my looks, that was an empty love to me.Another person that has been in my life from day one has never said the words and I've always wondered if there is love in that relationship. Personally I think a blend of the two is important.Say the words and back them up.

I grew up in a house 8 of us where I love you was never said until I was 16 or so. I did however know i was loved very much by their actions. My family raised me in a fantastic way. Any idiot can say they love you and dream up a "reason" but without the deeds the words are meaningless.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/6/2008 8:07:15 AM

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~fr~

i sent TheEngineer an email a little while ago, telling him about a nightmare i had, in which we couldnt find one another. i was distressed.

while i was reading this thread, he called me...just to reassure me that he would always find me, and that he was sorry i was distressed, and that he does indeed love me. i could hear the sounds of his office behind him, and he spoke quietly, and told me he didnt have time for a long conversation, that he had to be back to work. 20 second phone call. but i know i am loved.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/6/2008 8:41:38 AM

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I thought I would share a beautiful daily ritual. Set aside 10 minutes a day. She takes her position to you, kneeling, bowing, whatever. You take yours to her and you tell each other why you are glad to be in the relationship today. Mention something recent, not some rehersed or a repeated monologue. Exchange your feelings.

In my house it went like this:
I got home after work, she is kneeling naked in the hall at the front door. I would set down my attaché, approach her and step one foot inside the triangle she made with her arms (*see pic). She would kiss my foot and I would stretch down and pet her back or ass. Repeat with other foot then I tap her collar bone to let her know to rise to a sitting position. She would kiss my palms.

All the while this is going on, I would verbally recount something specific she had done recently so she could see the benefit and joy it gave me to own her. I let her see herself through my eyes. I let her see the positive effect she had on me. I would make her see the joy, pleasure, passion and love that she created and how it enriched my life. I made her feel loved, owned and appreciated… and I did this while she in her role to me, kneeling as my property. It was very reaffirming for the relationship.
She, in turn, verbally responded in kind explaining how being owned was a joy, benefit and made her feel loved. If it got all mushy and broke out into to a sex fest while she was bent over, more power to us… but that wasn’t the point of it. The point was to pay homage to the relationship from our positions within it as reinforcement.

*http://www.residentsadist.com/private/pics-my-photos/myphotos/Donnaatthedoor2.jpg

That is an amazing ritual. And I really love that idea.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/6/2008 9:41:54 AM

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i don't need to say "i love you" to Daddy because there aren't enough words in a dictionary to truly express how much i appreciate Him and everything He has done for me. it's not to say i don't express it by saying "i love you" - to me that phrase to so generic and overdone. yet He knows how much i do without having to say it to Him.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/6/2008 9:48:13 AM

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Actions speak louder than words so I'd much rather show them how much they mean to me. Talk is pretty cheap.

BadOne

Daddy would agree with you on this - it's also His philisophy when it comes to me.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/6/2008 9:50:59 AM

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Well I guess I'm some sort of freak (which is truly okay by me, I happen to like me) because I do need to hear the words 'I love you' and I need to say the words 'I love you'.I am a very verbally oriented person. Yay for freaks like me. Imagine if no one ever bothered to say that they loved you or anyone else, that makes me sad.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/6/2008 9:52:49 AM

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life is short and for me when I tell my girlfriend that I love her I really want to mean it. One never knows what is going to happen in just a day.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/6/2008 4:39:40 PM

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Michael and I tell each other why we love each other constantly.. However, Michael is MORE than a bit more poetic than I am..
True story:
Last month he texted me:
"you are to me, like the first flower of spring after a long dark winter, it's beauty is a promise of the bounty to come"
My response?
"I LOVE YOUR GUTS!"

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/6/2008 5:26:01 PM

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My response?
"I LOVE YOUR GUTS!"

*sniff sniff*

that's just so...... so........ sweeeeeeeet.

My Master is always catching me off guard with His words of love and affection. I'm still getting used to being with a man who isn't afraid to express those feelings, so I often look like this

. LOL!

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/6/2008 10:30:33 PM

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I tell him I love him every day and never get tired of rattling off the reasons why. Sometimes when he gets so down on himself he reminds me of a little boy... I'll say "I still love you, darling" and he'll look up at me with those mournful eyes and ask me "why?"

And that's a long list.

I'm outta here before I get too sappy.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/7/2008 7:35:35 AM

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Blackphx aznd I constantly tell each other the why and whats of our love, not just that we love and appreciate each other. But then again he is one of those rare Dominants that says thank you for nearly everything I do, even when it is something I don't think is especially noteworthy, like dishes or laundry. Somethings I automatically do for him as his slave, but still he makes sure he tells me that he appreciates them.

Dayum I love him...

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/7/2008 10:10:54 AM

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Ma'am and i are still in our "honeymoon" phase, and i am a huge softy. i tell Her that i love Her whenever i talk to Her, it's not routine for me; even if it's just typing it on an instant message or email; just thinking about what She means to me brings a flutter to my chest, my throat tightens and my eyes grow heavy with tears. When we can't see each other for more than a couple of weeks, i start to get a distracted sort of depressed.

As for telling Ma'am why i love Her, i'm always telling Her how i appreciate everything She's done for me. i let Her know that i appreciate and recognize those changes She made in my life and perspective.

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RE: Have you told them lately WHY you love them? - 5/7/2008 12:54:27 PM

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Last night as we lay in bed Master gave me the top five reasons He loves me, And i did the same. My number one reason? His personality. His number one reason? My sweet and bubbly nature ^^

It really makes you feel good when they say why they love you. And I take every chance to remind Him why I love Him.

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