Phoenixandnika
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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince
Where has Courtesy Gone?
When I came to this lifestyle about 20 years ago, there was a spoken and unspoken code of courtesy to A/all. When we were able to go on line the courtesy factor was still there for several years,. Most D/s folks were proud of that.
No as I read journals from primarely subs, I find a growing indication of insult and assumed privledge that did not exist 5 years ago.
any thoughts?
CP
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
If you treat me with respect, I will treat you with respect. Simple as that.
It's this line right here that always gets me. I read that as "if you kiss my submissive ass and cowtow to my every need, I will eventually allow you to play with me."
Disgust and cynicism aside for a moment........that same line can, and should be reversed in favor of the dominant side. After all.........isn't the dominant the one who is running the show?? Or is he really only a figurehead in the bdsm society?
I have been around awhile, almost 10 years. I like some do not see a difference. There was and always will be those that know and follow social protocals, those who are naturally rude and those who where raised with manners or simply learned them along way. There are no more or no less than 10 years ago in my opinion.
However, what I do see more of are people putting on a title of Master, Mistress, Dominate, or Domme and assuming that title alone earns you the power to control me or anyone else who "claims" to be submissive or slave. I kiss one mans feet without question or hesitation, there are others I respect enough to approach them with the title.They have earned that through their actions and at times their non-actions. They have prooven themselves to be who and what they claim. However, just because you call yourself these things does not mean you are. After all I can call myself anything from a pit bull to a pile of dung doesn't mean that that is what I am.
Even those that I know that are involved within the Gorean lifestyle real time, do not presume that simply because they add to their name that a woman will simply conscent to non conscent or follow blindly. In my opinion that is simply an online fantasy.
As far as the distain or rudeness in journals. That is life, we do not all see it through rose colored classes. Our journals are away of venting good and bad experiences within the lifestyle and more so that occur in this forum. If you don't like what is written why continue to read them? Should we sensor our thoughts and journals to buffer your feelings?
Remember, we are all here by choice. Regardless of the titles we take and taking that title doesn't give you the right to place demands on myself or anyone else for that matter that is not in your collar. I would also remind you that social protocals go both ways and just because you call yourself a Master doesn't mean we will bow before you and kiss your feet.
Blessed Be,
Nika{Phoenix}
< Message edited by Phoenixandnika -- 10/17/2005 10:22:34 AM >
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