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RE: Where has Courtesy Gone - 10/18/2005 6:31:53 AM   
michaelMI


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the way some people are these days, especially a few on this site alone, i think they can't handle a polite person. i was taught to always be polite to others. i try sending out friendly greetings of "hi" or "good morning/afternoon/evening" to some that seem receptive to such greetings, about 75% respond kindly. that leaves a small portion of those who, regardless of what is said, will either not respond with knidness or will immediately block (which, thus far, has only happened about 2% of the time). go figure.

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RE: Where has Courtesy Gone - 10/18/2005 7:53:30 AM   
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For someone who came into the lifestyle 20 years ago, I'm very surprised to see the A/a kind of thing. Most of us who came into the scene pre- or on the cusp of the internet explosion tend to find S/speak a bit trite.


Trite or not, some people find it useful under some circumstances. Are you saying that people should be forbidden from using it, or that if they use it their opinions count for nothing? I would classify such an attitude as trite.

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Your 20 years in the lifestyle and a quarter won't get you a cup of coffee around here. Adding insult to injury vis a vis this 'No one's respecting me' post drops your stock even further.


How is a purely general comment about courtesy possibly interpreted as 'No one's respecting me'? That might be what you think the poster means, but it was certainly not there in the posting, in my opinion.

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RE: Where has Courtesy Gone - 10/18/2005 10:11:46 AM   
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by assumed , I refer to the often seen situation that a "D" with attempt to exercise dominance over one that he does not even know!

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RE: Where has Courtesy Gone - 10/18/2005 10:14:17 AM   
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Wolfie,

thanks for the reply, but I still find myself getting pissed off as I sense that the path is being distorted by those whom I refer to.

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RE: Where has Courtesy Gone - 10/18/2005 10:30:54 AM   
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lily,

unfortunately, it appears as though you read my post on a "bad hair day"

courtesy is courtesy and it works both ways, but for your info, the term assumed prevledge refers to "D"'s thinking that they has some form of conrol over subs that they may or may not know.

thus becoming angry when there is not a following kneel or similar.

I hope the month goes better for you.

CP

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RE: Where has Courtesy Gone - 10/20/2005 2:48:14 PM   
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I guess I had this in mind for the last couple days. The fact that so many traditions, at least in France (but I saw Hobsbawm's book's first page, it says the same thing about England) were invented in the nineteenth century is something that bothered me, but the explanation was simple : it's when nations were invented, and all european countries needed commoon heroes and traditions. (edit : I mean common inside a nation, over all regions, Lander, provinces...)

Anyway... I just saw a report about a chinese town, which is become rich thanks to major investments in clams productions (yes, very soon you'll eat clams made in China...). All the villagers could invest the equivalent of 1000€, which represents one year of income for most families. Most people then become shareholders. The journalists asks if shareholding is compatible with communism. The CEO of the clams production company (the local secretary of the communist party) naturally answers that shareholding has always been inherent in communism. I instantly thought about the speach against Eastasia which instantly becomes a speach against Eurasia (or the opposite ?) when someone brings a note saying that the ennemy has changed (In Nineteen eighty-four*, of course).

I'm not sure it's completely relevant, but well it made your point, to me. We are making up new traditions anytime we need them to adapt to changes, and that is indeed more and more often.

But then, does Hobsbawm talk about Japan ? This country was isolated for a very long time, and many officially highly respected traditions are much older than the four black vessels of commodore Perry : haiku is several centuries old and alive, the tea ceremony is older than time itself (if one believes what some Japanese people say :p ), nô and kabuki are also ancient (nô is much older than kabuki), ikebana is as old as one can claim France to be, sumô dates back from the times of the vikings, and the imperial dynasty is the oldest monarchical lineage in the world). Still, they manage to keep these traditions alive : they even write millions of haiku with their phones (or maybe another form of short poems), and sumô is still watched on TV by millions (although there's some crisis as the level has been low in Japan for a few years). And the people who master one of these traditions perfectly obtains the -restrictive- title of national living treasure.

So, what about Japan ? I agree they invent new traditions, as we all have to do, but they don't replace the tradition, so far...

edit : *I always insist on writing the title in full letters instead of numbers because the author did. It's an optismistic book. The numbers are a symbol of the de-humanization of the world (people become numbers, and the clock strikes thirteen...). Orwell was confident we would fight against what is threatening us. What is threatening us ? I dunno ? Roosevelt's military-industrial complex ?

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Whether Galileo really said it or not (though it seems to fit more with Brecht's worldview than Galileo's), our world is certainly changing faster than Galileo's did. People in Galileo's time may have thought their world was changing faster than ever before--but it wasn't nearly as fast as our world is changing now.

Anyway, what I meant is something like what Eric Hobsbawm called the invention of tradition. It tends to happen a time of social upheaval. I think a lot of this bullshit about courtesy back in the good old days is an invention engendered by a sense of bewilderment in a rapidly changing world. Hobsbawm said it well:

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We should expect [the invention of tradition] to occur more frequently when a rapid transformation of society weakens or destroys the social patterns for which "old" traditions had been designed, producing new ones to which they were not applicable, or when such old traditions and their institutional carriers and promulgators no longer prove sufficiently adaptable and flexible.



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RE: Where has Courtesy Gone - 10/20/2005 2:50:21 PM   
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when I came into this lifestyle...the earth was still a smoldering pile of dust...so go figure...

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RE: Where has Courtesy Gone - 10/20/2005 5:47:46 PM   
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Yes, basically I agree with you about Japan. No culture is entirely free of tradition-inventing, and Japan has certainly engaged in it too. But Japan has also preserved its traditions more conservatively than most cultures have. I don't think that's inherently good or bad, but it is more and more noticeable as the rest of the world veers toward a single global superculture. Of course, Japan has contributed more than its share to that same superculture: Nintendo, manga, Pokemon, Yu-Gi-Oh, and probably all sorts of things I'm not even familiar with yet.

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ORIGINAL: frenchpet

But then, does Hobsbawm talk about Japan ? This country was isolated for a very long time, and many officially highly respected traditions are much older than the four black vessels of commodore Perry : haiku is several centuries old and alive, the tea ceremony is older than time itself (if one believes what some Japanese people say :p ), nô and kabuki are also ancient (nô is much older than kabuki), ikebana is as old as one can claim France to be, sumô dates back from the times of the vikings, and the imperial dynasty is the oldest monarchical lineage in the world). Still, they manage to keep these traditions alive : they even write millions of haiku with their phones (or maybe another form of short poems), and sumô is still watched on TV by millions (although there's some crisis as the level has been low in Japan for a few years). And the people who master one of these traditions perfectly obtains the -restrictive- title of national living treasure.

So, what about Japan ? I agree they invent new traditions, as we all have to do, but they don't replace the tradition, so far...


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RE: Where has Courtesy Gone - 10/22/2005 5:57:19 PM   
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I completly understand where your coming from Celtic....you see the multitudes of woman here that have a "gift" to give if you meet their requirements as being the "dom" of thier western romantic dreams.....and if you pay close attention to the ones that refer to their owner's as "my Dom or my Master" implies ownership through the context of the sentence....which in turn is to remind you of who is really in control..........then the I wont call you "Sir or Master" because you dont own me thingy.....*laughs*...I would beat bella if she referesd to the free or another MAster/Dom in that way....there arent any manners in those whom only see that they have something special to give iof themselves therefor placing themselves upon the proverbial pedstal...or the im humna before im anything else....wolves in sheeps clothing really is what some of them are............I have been flamed...moderated....reported because I tell some of them like it is......subs retain rights and they tend to focus on them to a point they are unreachable...im not saying that all of them do it but there are alot of them and I invite the critisim that some have in response to me about the subject.....I am not a feminist by any means..those I own are property nothing more nothing less......it is how I keep my property that defines the Master I am.........and the bad hair day thingy (my sides are hurting from laughing)

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