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RE: Does D/s work if "s" is smarter than &quo... - 5/7/2008 11:43:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		SoulPiercer, the ability to think critically does not have any correlation to spelling. You might wish to investigate some of the more common learning disabilities that negatively impact the ability to spell.

Pink, I think the reason RM pointed out Stella's accomplishments is to show that her lack of higher formal education has no relevance to her stature in the theater community.

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RE: Does D/s work if "s" is smarter than &quo... - 5/7/2008 11:49:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		My Mistress and I are both educated and fairly intellectually inclined, so we don't have much of a discrepancy to deal with. If anything, I'm perhaps a bit more academic, whereas her intellect is more geared towards practicalities. Her practical cast of mind is something I greatly appreciate, since it helps her make good decisions for both of us, and she doesn't take it to extremes. I think I'd find it very difficult to have a meaningful relationship with someone who had no interest at all in the abstract and intellectual side of human experience. I'd simply feel that there were too many things I couldn't share with her, and that our priorities were too different. (Play, I suppose, is another matter - the idea of being slapped around by sneering, mean-spirited Philistines actually has its attractions.)


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RE: Does D/s work if "s" is smarter than &quo... - 5/7/2008 11:52:14 AM   
Justme696


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Status: offline 		mm intellectual doesn't mean smart.
I have a high education, but some people with less education can be smarter in the way they do things.
If you can't pay for an education , you still can be smart of course.

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RE: Does D/s work if "s" is smarter than &quo... - 5/7/2008 11:59:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		A general point: I think I have some insight into the lack of correlation between higher education and intelligence.  I'm educated beyond any reasonable standard of excellance, but, when you get right down to it, I'm dumb as a box of rocks.  The reason I have so much education is because sitting in class is easy for me and, more importantly, I just don't get things.  And I have to think about them for a long time before I do.  I'm just painfully slow to pick up on what everyone takes for granted but I do have a lot of patience and will actually think things through until I do get it.  I know that this doesn't hold for everyone with alot of formal education, but, I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one it holds for. 

To respond to the op: People dominate other people.  Degrees don't dominate.  Intelligence doesn't dominate.  Worldliness doesn't dominate.  People do.  I think the more significant issue is how someone uses whatever talents they were born with.  So, it would all depend on the interaction in question.

I might as well add that, iq point for iq point, dumb people achieve more than smart people.  Someone actually did a study.  It made me feel good. :)


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RE: Does D/s work if "s" is smarter than &quo... - 5/7/2008 12:03:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		i think there is regression (well correlation was used already often) between education and intellect.....but not between beeing smart and educated.

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RE: Does D/s work if "s" is smarter than &quo... - 5/7/2008 12:30:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		I sometimes think that being smart is a draw back to being successful as those that don't have to work at learning tend to become apathetic or they loose interest because they need the challenge to stay engaged or because their interests tend to bounce all over the spectrum.

I don't doubt what the study found.

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RE: Does D/s work if "s" is smarter than &quo... - 5/7/2008 12:47:31 PM   
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RE: Does D/s work if "s" is smarter than &quo... - 5/7/2008 1:17:58 PM   
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My main fetish is anything to do with fucking me right between the ears ... not just like
"ooooh ooooh look at my big scary knife I am going to cut you with it ... ooooh ooooh .. here is a blind fold and i hope you didn't notice the red  wine that will eventualy be used to simulate blood"
I mean the
*grab her by the throat as she gets home from work ... slam girl against the wall, rip of her favourite blouse, hold the straight razor close to her face so she can see it nice and clearly  it and cut her across the breast so she can see the blade and the blood and your eyes as you do it ... then dump her on the floor and ask what is for dinner*

Now see .. i have already thought of that .. so Master Right needs to be even more devious evil twisted and cunning. I want tobe fucked in the brain cunt ... hard ... and with intent to bruise.

I am sure sometimes it can and does work .. but for me.. it just never could if I was smarter than them. I am always always always thinking ... always .. its a curse - and it means that no matter how much I would like to, I wont be happy with someone who isn't smarter than me. Now that doesn't mean educated more than me, it means someone who has better abiltiy to back me intellectually into a corner .. strip me naked ... and rape my intellect.



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RE: Does D/s work if "s" is smarter than &quo... - 5/7/2008 2:02:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		OMG, soft, that was better than phone sex..... Uh, not that I would have any idea what phone sex is like.......

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RE: Does D/s work if "s" is smarter than &quo... - 5/7/2008 2:06:57 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

SoulPiercer, the ability to think critically does not have any correlation to spelling. You might wish to investigate some of the more common learning disabilities that negatively impact the ability to spell.


I have trouble believing that not knowing the difference between then and than is evident of a learning disability.

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Pink, I think the reason RM pointed out Stella's accomplishments is to show that her lack of higher formal education has no relevance to her stature in the theater community.


Did I misunderstand you, or did you just call Stella stupid? That she has been successful in spite of being uneducated? I find that highly offensive.

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RE: Does D/s work if "s" is smarter than &quo... - 5/8/2008 3:45:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		IF by "smarter" you mean havin more book larnin and such, I don't see why not.

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RE: Does D/s work if "s" is smarter than &quo... - 5/8/2008 7:32:42 PM   
MadRabbit


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I am one of those people who entered the work force at an early age and doesn't any academic credentials besides a small culinary degree. I am all about self education, however, and read constantly, therefore I am educated and knowledgable on some subjects and others I am largely ignorant of.

I am very intelligent and have a lot of common sense, however, and I doubt I could be in a relationship with someone who's brain cells didn't fire at the same rate as mine. I generally tend to welcome submissives who have a better general education than me, because it provides me more oppurtunities to learn new stuff.

However, my experiences with dating and people have led me to the conclusion that the prescense or absensce of college degrees doesn't amount to a whole lot on the "who's brighter" scale.

Overall, "street smarts", the education and knowledge that is application and useful in the real world for building a life, is valued over "book smarts".

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RE: Does D/s work if "s" is smarter than &quo... - 5/8/2008 7:49:47 PM   
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Being outsmarted/outdebated/put-in-my-place intellectually by a guy gives me the biggest head rush there is. And as sex is mostly mental (for us females at least, I believe) ...... need I say more? Alas there aren't too many who can do that with me, and smartish though I am, I ain't no brilliant intellect. Sad really, quite sad.


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RE: Does D/s work if "s" is smarter than &quo... - 5/9/2008 2:47:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		Firstly i think that no matter how much we know, there is always something some one esle can teach us that we didnt know.
But then again even in vanilla relationships we tend to look for people on a similar level to our own. So if thats not the case there must be something really special about them that made you want them in the first place perhaps?

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RE: Does D/s work if "s" is smarter than &quo... - 5/9/2008 12:03:33 PM   
chamberqueen


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Status: offline 		I'm a slave.  I am also a member of Mensa with a 140+ IQ. 

My Master is intelligent, though we have different areas of expertise.  I have no problem submitting to someone who may not be quite as intelligent but who cares for me along with Himself.  He makes me look at things in a different light, and I truly enjoy His company.  He has a college degree; I have only an honorary PhD. 

I think that rather than trying to use a fixed scale to look at intelligence as a qualifier for a good relationship it is better to look at whether each person is getting what they need.  I need to serve, my Master needs to be in control, our personalities and senses of humor blend excellently, and we make magic together during our sessions.  Some allow things like poor spelling or grammar usage to get in the way of their happiness.  D/s can work if you both share the same priorities, no matter which partner may be "smarter".

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RE: Does D/s work if "s" is smarter than &quo... - 5/9/2008 12:25:07 PM   
Justme696


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Status: offline 		I just think..in general...if it doesn't irritate/bother you...it shouldn't be in the way to love some one

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RE: Does D/s work if "s" is smarter than &quo... - 5/9/2008 7:03:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		Personally, If theyre somewhere within the same intellegence level as I am, Im fine. If theyre just out and out stupid, I dont like dealing with them, even on a casual, vanilla basis.

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RE: Does D/s work if "s" is smarter than &quo... - 5/10/2008 5:09:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think it can be fine if s- is more intellectual than D-.  Everyone brings something to the relationship, sometimes it's cunning other times it's sheer intellect.  Sometimes it's s-s' opportunity to assume another role, one they ordinarily wouldn't, same goes for D-.  If it doesn't work out it doesn't, but I'd hate to think two people would turn down a chance to get along just because of intellect. 

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RE: Does D/s work if "s" is smarter than &quo... - 5/10/2008 5:17:08 PM   
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Personally, If theyre somewhere within the same intellegence level as I am, Im fine. If theyre just out and out stupid, I dont like dealing with them, even on a casual, vanilla basis.


A very good point also.  Stupidity to the extent of mentally dry humping a beached sea mammal is a hard thing for me to accept.  I could think of others in relative terms as being "as least this tall" intellectually to ride this ride.  : )


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RE: Does D/s work if "s" is smarter than &quo... - 5/10/2008 5:21:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		I dont think that the D/s intellect has anything to do with other forms of intelligence.

I can cause you mindfucks and wonderment and awe and happiness without knowing anything about balancing a checkbook or several incantations of pi beyond the decimal point or anything else......for as simply shallow and uncaring as humans really are, they are multi-faceted in that endeavor.

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